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natalilly84 · 06/07/2016 15:00

I'm in actual pieces right now. My OH and I have been ttc for over 18 months. He finds out today that his brother's finace is pregnant. BY ACCIDENT. My OH decides that the best time to tell me this is over the hone while I'm in work, knowing that after work I have to go to an appointment after work. I'm not sat at my desk in pieces, trying not to cry. Please understand that I'm happy for them, but I can still be sad for me and frustrated that it isn't happening for us. He doesn't get it. I should just be happy for them. Now he's blaming me for getting upset and saying I should just be happy. What do I do.

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DollyBarton · 06/07/2016 15:03

He obviously just doesn't react to the news in the same way as you and is being thoughtless. Try not to hold it against him and maybe when things have calmed down a bit talk to him about how this sort of news makes you feel.

I hope you are ok. Hang in there till you can get to somewhere private where you can take your time accepting this news and cry as much as you need to.

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user1466610292 · 06/07/2016 15:03

I'm so sorry my love, that must be horrendous. It's not exactly the same but I have just suffered a MMC and would be devestated if I found out someone close to me was pregnant. It's really hard to be happy for someone else when they have the one thing you want most in the world. That was very insensitive of your OH not to realise how much this would upset you. Maybe he is feeling a little bit the same and that is coming out as anger?

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OhNoNotMyBaby · 06/07/2016 15:06

He's a numpty - which is putting it politely. Of course you are upset. What a bad time to tell you .

I'm guessing he thought it would be encouraging....
and best wishes and good luck.

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natalilly84 · 06/07/2016 15:15

I am genuinely happy for them But I'm also devastated that it's not us. I'm also fretting because I'm concerned that it may never happen for us. And sitting in an open plan office trying to pretend that my sniffs are because of a cold that is going around.
I'm not going to get anywhere private until after 7 this evening. How the hell do I hold it together until then?

Thank you for your kind words xx

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mumofmany7 · 06/07/2016 15:16

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natalilly84 · 06/07/2016 15:18

Mumofmany- don't take them apart- sure fire way to be disappointed. The test stick on a digital aren't like a normal test strips. I've been tricked like this before xx