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TTC#1 35+ and 6months ttc plus. Do you belong to this exquisite group? Rant, advice, virtual glasses of wine and no-judgement happy place here :-)

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Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 08:08:53

New thread here as I love the other thread I follow but 35th birthday in two weeks and cycle #6 of TTC atm envy

Finding it hard to relate to some of the other threads with people joining in and getting upduffed on month1. Happy for them, but making me feel a bit sad

Also not 25 anymore (big inner child but that doesnt count grin) and I can't afford the "it will happen to you", "just relax" ways as I don't have bloody time!!! confusedconfused

Anyone out there wants to join me for some TMI, rant, support and positive chats that say we can still do this!!!!!!

Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 08:10:20

Also anyone else exhausted of all the dtd??!!! I stopped tempting as I was losing sleep and stressed to remember to do it every morning, but I just got myself a fertility monitor and it is arriving today!!! grin

Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 08:14:10

Ah! Stats:
35 (in 2 weeks)
TTC #1
Cycle #6 (well 7 but I don't count the first one as I think withdrawal period)
AF due 11th May

Anyone else on the May bus?

Blueskies80 Wed 20-Apr-16 08:24:30

Hello ever!
I'll join please! AF arrived yesterday for me, so am doubled over in pain, ouch!

TTC #3
TTC for around 13 months, with some breaks. Two MCs.

Hopefully may will be our month!
Which fertility monitor have you got? I started duo fertility yesterday. Trying to forget all about it as I don't ever seem to get pregnant if I "try".

Bathlover Wed 20-Apr-16 08:26:08

Morning - can I join you?

Cycle 8
TTC #2 (other DC is 8 - this is new partner)
Currently day 4 of flashing smiley. Hoping today is a solid one.

Have seen GP, I'm ovulating and pretty sure no issues my end (except I'm old wink )

His results from 1st test were mixed but issues around mortility (I think, the one where there are lots but not many of them are swimming well)

His repeat test in a week or so.

I'm using CLear blue dual monitor stick things.

Did temping and as you say after a couple of month was making me so stressed. Did a month of no charting/sticks then this is third month back to OV sticks.

I'm pretty pissed off now, my age is a pain. Not sure if want to try IVF route (even if we could magic the money) as it is very full on. And I'm old(er) and it might break my head and heart.

I'm mixed of hearing stories of other successes is lovely but also I need sometimes to just be able to feel like this is shit. And wallow. Without people telling me 'relax it might just happen'

Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 08:27:37

Hello Blueskies! So happy I am not alone!!!
So sorry about your MCs sad

I hot the old version of clear blue, the one that is not as pretty but apparently works smile I really hope it arrives tonight because I am CD5 and otherwise I have to wait another cycle to use it.

I am also using EPO and preseed/ conceive plus

Do you mind me asking how long it took with your other 2 and how old you were then? confused

May will be our month!!!!! grinsmilegrinsmilegrinsmilegrin

Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 08:32:07

Welcome bathlover!! grinsmilegrinsmile great to hear no issues! "I am old" gringrin you are not!!! We are spring chickens!
I was shocked at how much some people have spent on IVF (21k and so on) and unfortunately we will never be able to afford that sad And also I suffer from on and off anxiety and depression so not sure I could do it anyway...
So I understand what you mean.
And yes, age is a constant thing in my head too. I would like 2 or 3 kids but now I don't think that would be possible now and just hoping I get 1!!!!!
Blueskies sorry to hear about AF envy

Blueskies80 Wed 20-Apr-16 09:08:44

Hi bathlover! Welcome. Fingers crossed. It's hard not to worry but then it's great you are ovulating. Hopefully it will be our month!

Ever! Thank you. It took nearly 3 years to conceive no 1, I have PCOS (very irregular cycles. They vanished for months while I was Ttc no1). Had clomid and monitoring but it stressed me out so much we stopped. After a while I stopped thinking about getting pregnant (although did use duofertility monitor so I knew I was ovulating) and then it happened, was nearly 31. Fell pregnant with dc2 very quickly, when dc1 was ten months old! They are now nearly 5 and 3.

So from not being able to fall pregnant easily in my 20s(despite what the daily fail would have you believe!) I am finding it easier now I'm a bit older but they are not sticking!

Good luck ladies xxx

Blueskies80 Wed 20-Apr-16 10:36:53

Sorry I have just seen the thread is ttc#1 blush oops must be more tired than I thought.

lulahbelle Wed 20-Apr-16 12:48:28

Hi all, can I join please!

Cycle 7 (AF arrived yesterday)

Not been temping as keep forgetting when I wake up but using opks religiously.

I know 6 months isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things but it's gets so frustrating having no success each month - especially when everyone I know seems to get a BFP in their first cycle!

GundogFrankie Wed 20-Apr-16 13:03:05

Hello everyone, please can I join?

I think this thread was made for me!

TTC #1
Cycle 8

I love seeing other people's BFP's on other threads too but I'm just aware that at my old lady age it might take a bit longer for me, so really pleased to have found you. smile

I'm currently waiting for the 2nd of my 21 day blood tests next week. Went to the doctor last month and I'm having 3 of these tests and DH had his SA last week so 3 weeks to wait for those results.

Just started testing with the Clear Blue ovulation sticks - I found temping too stressful too as it made me think of TTC from the second I woke up every day and it all got a bit much.

Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 18:07:45

Blueskies thanks for sharing smile that is so interesting! Gosh our bodies are funny things! I swear my cycles were always 27, 28, 29 and as soon as I started TTC they became 23, 21, 24... confused
I hope the next one sticks!!!!
Noooo!!! Don't go!!! I am TTC#1 but the experience is good here!!! Don't leave us!!!!

Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 18:11:23

Lullah, Frankie, welcome!!!
Lullah yes I am all about the opks (my fertility monitor arrived today!!!!!!!gringrin) but no more temps thank you.
And yes, not sure how people manage a positive on first attempt!
Frankie did you go see the docs after 6 months of trying and they started the tests? I am seeing GP next month after my hols, I hope she is nice to me...

Blueskies80 Wed 20-Apr-16 20:34:36

Hi evergreen
Aah thank you!! I'll stay, not sure how much wisdom I have on TTC haha (I'm probably a bit out of date!) but I will stay!!
The temping used to make me stressed out too and I never remembered to do it either! Opks never worked for me. Pcos can give false positives too!

Is the advice to see the gp after six months TTC once you're 35, is that right? Good luck with the gp visit. Iirc blood tests are the first stop, to check you're ovulating. Can be tricky to get them at the right time if you don't have a textbook 28 day cycle though .

Welcome to all the other new faces. Lullah sorry AF showed up. Frankie welcome too. And 35 is not old, neither is early 40s!

I have a good feeling about this thread. I hope it will bring us all our BFPs!

Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 20:53:38

Yay! She is staying! smilesmile
Yes, Seeing the doc after 6 months of trying and age 35 confused I hope she is nice and that she trays me seriously. She has been very nice with other issues in the past.
I am really hoping this os our lucky thread.
These past six months I have been so focussed on this TTC that I have been upset and also gained lots of weight.
I am very proud of myself because today I only ate healthy foods and I went for a run smilesmilesmile
Trying to stay healthy physically and mentally starting today!

Evergreen17 Wed 20-Apr-16 20:54:04

She treats, not trays

lulahbelle Wed 20-Apr-16 21:50:10

Good luck with the results of your and your DH's tests Frankie and well done Evergreen on the healthy eating and run - I'm useless on the exercise front! Hope the fertility monitor works well for you - have been using one since last month so like you am hoping it makes a difference smile

Blueskies - glad to see you stayed and so sorry to hear about your mcs. Bathlover - hope the results of your DP's second test are positive.

Fingers crossed this thread brings us all a BFP!

GundogFrankie Wed 20-Apr-16 22:28:04

Evening lovelies,

Evergreen I've got ridiculously long cycles post-pill so it been about 9 months but the nhs guidelines say if you're over 35 you should go to the Dr after 6 months. My Dr was really lovely and sympathetic. Blood tests are to confirm ovulation but last test none was detected - as Blue said it's tricky to get the test day right if you're irregular so I'm trying not to be too disheartened.

Hope you're all ok. xx

Bathlover Thu 21-Apr-16 06:31:25

My GP was lovely and hasn't questioned my age at all.

My OH's GP (different surgeries) phoned him with his results and was positive about them. It was only when we got the paper copy and I googled I realised there were issues. His GP had already said you need 2 lots of tests done.

Luckily this cycle the test will fall outside of the week I'm OV, as you have to stop dtd for a few days.

I've been using the CB duo OV sticks for last 3 cycles. I had been lent one of the old CB monitors but I am getting on better with the duo. Exactly same idea really.

But stupidly I ran out of sticks as had 4 flashing smileys, and usually would have had 2 then peak.

Ordered more but did test yesterday with new one and it was low. So not sure if that is because it was a new one so thought it was first day. Have been ov each month so I'm hoping the stick either missed it or was as new one.

I'm just frustrated I can't mark OV on my chart!

Oh away tonight, but we've had dtd very well covered this week, so hopefully in with a chance (although I think I'm conning myself but you have to keep trying/hoping I guess)

I drove myself bits the first few months obsessing and was all I could think of. Temping didn't help that. The month when I didn't track anything was great idea as I just forgot about it all. But was also aware of 'wasting' a month.

So next stage for us is the test and results of the SA, then see what GP says. OH been taking his vitamins this month at least!

Evergreen17 Thu 21-Apr-16 07:10:11

Thanks lullah smile I love new gadgets grin
Frankie thanks for that, I have made an appointment for after my holidays confused
I assume my DP will need to be tested too? Not sure how I will manage to convince him hmm
Bath it sounds like you are covered with dtd anyway smile everything crossed. I am in CD6 so not dtd yet for me, lots of sleep grin. I find it exhausting. Ten years ago it was different!
What is the SA??
I hope my DP is willing to do the testing too

Evergreen17 Thu 21-Apr-16 07:14:04

Morning rant: there is this girl in the office next door whom I dont particularly like (she walks around as she is better than the rest and she is quite mean to other girls and annoying), and of course she is pregnant and "such a surprise, we werent trying" envyenvyenvy
So everyday she comes to use the photocopier kills me a bit. sad

Bathlover Thu 21-Apr-16 07:38:35

SA is sperm/semen analysis.

I am totally confused now re CB tests. Used a new stick in the old monitor and it's a flashing smiley.

Think I'll ring them later and ask confused

Evergreen17 Thu 21-Apr-16 07:47:15

Ahh I have never used those ones, I went from the cheap opk sticks that show 2 lines to this monitor. I could not make the other ones work.
Is flashy high and constant peak?

Bathlover Thu 21-Apr-16 08:03:51

Yes, flashing is high - I prefer them as you use first thing, I kept forgetting in the afternoon with cheapy ones!

Evergreen17 Thu 21-Apr-16 08:08:32

Yes! That was my problem with the cheapies as well, that I had to somehow use them at work! It was always a mission! grin

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