Hi all,
I am a fairly newbie mostly lurker, 30 yrs, who has recently had "the chat" with DH and we have made the huge decision to go from the eternal "someday about 5 yrs from now" to actively TTC #1 next year. As you are all TTCers, am curious to hear your stories about how you decided it was time to try. What prompted it? Did you have doubts? Fears? What are your hopes? Ambitions? How do you imagine life with a new DC?
For us, the decision has not been logical. We always knew we would want children "someday" but that never seemed close/real. We have spent many years hopping from fixed term post to fixed term post, travelling, prioritising work/life/us... We have always delayed even thinking about kids because of practical reasons..." let's be more settled, more financially stable... " and now we are a few years into permanent positions and feeling pretty settled in our home. We were sticking to our "5 years...a cat's enough for us, honest" idea, probably out of habit, but just lately seeing our friends go through it we realised that 1. It will probably never be logical to have kids, especially financially and 2. The whole "5 years, cats..." was probably a buffer we were using while we waited to be emotionally ready. And somehow without us realising, the emotionally ready bit happened! So we have now provisionally said let's give it 1 year so we can get the practical stuff sorted and suddenly 1 year feels like forever. I guess it really is true what they say, once the clock starts ticking...!
The financial aspect does still seem pretty overwhelming and we have not yet figured out how best to balance our (very very well loved but not huge salary) careers...but I think we will figure it out.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Xxx
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Calling all TTC especially #1: how you knew you were ready?
ZoeNotAMumYet · 20/04/2016 00:13
For me, I turned 30 and BOOM suddenly I went from "no never ever want kids, definitely not for me" to " DH I want to start ttc, do you?"
Luckily DHs response was "I was hoping you would change your mind"- talk about a gambler!!!
There was no rhyme nor reason to my sudden change of heart. On reflection I wonder whether my original attitude was a sub conscious defence mechanism to protect myself from the inevitable upset of finding out I wouldn't be able to have children (I was told at 15 that my PCOS was so severe I would never have children)
I am the same as you, I filled my life with lots of travelling, a beautiful home which we have made just as we want it, and many many social events. We are never 'free on a weekend'. But somehow something just felt missing.
So nearly two years after that first conversation with DH, we are still TTC. 
We had a round of IVF in Feb and fell pregnant but mc'ed at 5 weeks. I am due to have one of our frozen embryos transferred in May.
My story isn't necessarily a positive one but I wanted to reply to you to say you don't know how long it will take so if you feel emotionally ready I would at least start preparing your body now. If you are on the pill, stop it. If you need to lose weight, lose it. If your partner needs to get healthier, do it.
You don't know how long it might take you to conceive you could be very lucky and fall pregnant in the first few months. Or you could be like me and be almost 32 and still not pregnant. It's impossible to know until you start TTC!
Good luck with everything!
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