I have a 4.5 year old son and almost 3 year old son. For the past year I have been thinking of having a third, and talked to my husband numerous times about it. He said ok let's go for it and I got pregnant a 4.5 months ago. I miscarried a few months in. Since then he doesn't want any more kids and says he's more than happy with 2 and doesn't have any desire to have more. He said he was only doing it for me before. I can respect his decision completely but I'm having a hard time dealing with the reality that I'm not going to have more kids. I still find myself thinking about what age gap would be good between my second and third, and when to get pregnant. Basically these are my delusions.
I'm just wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar and how do you move on?? Seeing that absolutely no one in my family or friends approve of having more kids and they all think 2 kids is more than enough, I'll probably appreciate the fact that we stopped at 2 years from now, but right now I still yearn for another. I feel hurt when my husband pulls out during sex and says 'better safe than sorry', and when he says he can't wait for our little one to be done with daycare so our expenses go down. It's ridiculous that these things hurt me but I feel like he is so closed from this idea now and I'm still not. I'm not sure how to deal with it.
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ayesar · 28/03/2016 04:24
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