This is for all the women, like me, in their 30s who are TTC #1. I am really sorry if this kind of post is painful for anyone.
In the darkest moments after my mc 6 weeks ago, I really hated myself for putting my career first and not ttc in my 20s. I met my DH when I was 25 and we could easily have had children pretty soon after, but it was my choice not to and he never pushed it. I was naive and never listened when people told me not to wait too long, that it got harder as you got older and just ignored my biological clock ticking away.
But now I am feeling stronger, I am starting to realise that having children in my 20s would have been a disaster. I don't think our marriage would have survived it. Looking back, I was quite immature then and the added stress of having a child would have made me more so. I would have been side-lined in my job and would be in the same entry-level position I was in when I started. I wouldn't have the money to buy a bigger house, like we are doing now. I wouldn't have been able to travel and widen my horizons. At the risk of sounding cliched, I feel like I really know who I am now and what kind of mother I want to be. I just wish my body had reached it's peak at the same time as my mind!
How would your life have been different if you had conceived in your 20s?
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shopaholic85 · 16/02/2016 14:45
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