Firstly I would like to say, I am not TTC just to fit in with my friends. All my old school friends have children and my 3 closest uni friends all had babies within 6 months of each other.
3 years on, DH and I now feel ready for kids. 6 months ago, I came off the pill and we have now been TTC for 3 months. I realise this is not very long but I worry I have left it too late at 37, but we waited until we felt ready. We have decided that we would be happy with one child, unless we have twins of course!!
These days, I have found that everything is now centered around children, which is lovely but it just reminds me of what I don't have. It's the little things like arranging to meet up and saying that the pub is child friendly, hearing other people's conversations at work about their kids, Christmas being all about kids... Last night I was in the supermarket and burst into tears after seeing women with babies at every turn!
When I meet up with friends, all we talk about is children and the inevitable questions about when I plan to become a mum. I even get asked by new people at work if I have kids. When I say no I feel I always have to justify why. Friends have even said they don't want to come over to my house as it is 'not child friendly' - I realise they don't want their child to wreck our house but I don't think they realise how much this hurts. (Another friend who has a 3 year old lives next door so we all go there!)
I realise it must be even worse for people who can't have kids or are going through IVF, sometimes people just don't realise how insensitive they are being. You often hear the fact people who have babies feel left out but you don't seem to hear it from the other way around!
Anyway, just wanted to see if anyone else is feeling this way? It is getting to the stage that I will make up excuses not to see friends because I can't bare to sit through conversations about kids and see my pregnant friend. Let's Help each other through this...
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Margo5 · 08/12/2015 08:39
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