I'm just putting this question out there to see if there is a pattern amongst us as 'experts' in this field...
When you have conceived, did you bd everyday/every other/did you get lucky?
The month I conceived we did bd everyday (unfortunately mc'd) but it really was a lot to keep up...thinking of trying every other so thought it would be interesting to see if others had an opinion about this...
We're still TTC1 (7mnths trying) and find doing the BD every day sucks all the fun out of it. It's like "have you taken the bins out?" "No we don't need to everyday" "Yea but you might miss the bin man" "screw the bin man I'm fed up of putting the bloody bins out"
So we're normal except for 3 days when I get my flashing smiley face
Agree entirely with the previous two posts. I'm not prepared to obsess to the point that spontaneity goes, it loses the fun completely. As long as there's enough BDing to give us a reasonable chance then that's fine (day before and or day of OV).
In a similar vein - does anyone have any top tips for upping libido on those days when you 'should' be doing it but really don't fancy it? I'm really struggling with this and know I don't have a particularly high sex drive. Conceived DS by being spontaneous (on honeymoon) but now with a toddler, that sort of thing rarely happens!!
The first time we kind fo followed the smep plan but only 3days in a row once Ov miss a day and then one extra day. This time round we only did it two days in a row after positive Ov test and that was it for the whole month. No chance I cba to do it everyday!
With DC1, we did every other day for 2.5 weeks and then sporadically before and after then. To be honest it was too much. Forcing both of you to be up for DTD can be counter productive. Just started TTC for #DC2 this month and we're more laid back - only doing every other day during the week when I'm meant to be most fertile - ad hoc at other times.
All good comments...the annoying thing for us is following surgery to have my tubes cleared we (amazingly) conceived the first month after it. Had been trying for a long time before the surgery but no luck...and that was why! That was dtd every day for about 12 days so now in my head thats the only way it works! But I agree, even that month at the height of enthusiasm it feels like a lot!
Going to stick to every other for this month I think, definitely feels more achievable! xx