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early 20's and TTC

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JammyDodger123 Tue 29-Sep-15 17:03:14

Hello,

I've had a look on a few threads i was wondering whether there were any younger groups as the majority are late 20's etc.

I'm not trying to be ageist I just would like to talk to a few younger TTC'ers

SpecialStains Tue 29-Sep-15 20:08:52

Hi, glad you started this thread. DH and I are going for our first TTC attempt this month! I'm 24, had my implant out last month and just had my first period. How long have you been TTC?

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 09:11:44

Hi Both smile

Im 21 and this is my first month TTC smile me and DH decided now was a good time as we have a stable income, house etc.

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 09:38:09

Hi Jaffacakey (this is turning into a biscuit filled thread!), exciting stuff.

Not sure if it's the best time for DH and I, as we're currently buying a house, both got newish stressful jobs, and I'm going to be throwing some part time postgraduate study into the mix in the new year. However, I don't imagine there's ever an absolutely ideal time and we both want offspring so we've decided to just go for it.

Are you charting or plotting or any of that malarkey?

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 09:43:59

Well I know how you feel there will never be a perfect time to have a baby however, now seems ok and i don't want to be too old I want to be done hopefully having babies by the time in 30 ! so i can relax and enjoy everything.

I am currently using OPK and DTD EOD or if i really fancy it everyday last night i pounced

But i'm trying not to stress too much and just enjoy myself.

How about you?

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 10:12:26

We're going to just DTD as often as possible and hope for the best. If no luck in a few months I'll use OPK. Fingers crossed for July/August babies for the three of us soon! Have you told people in RL that you're trying? I haven't, and DH thinks this is odd!

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 10:13:46

I have told a couple of people who I am really close to etc but I don't want to tell too many people as you will get the usual.... your too young etc.

jorahmormont Wed 30-Sep-15 10:17:51

I'm 21, about to properly start TTC #2 (#1 wasn't planned). We'd intended on starting sooner but we've had to delay it as I have an MRI scan this afternoon, but once that's over and done with we're getting the show on the road smile

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 10:20:31

Welcome Jorah flowers

It's nice to be talking to some younger TTC'ers as i feel like i pester the older ones with questions etc or feel put off commenting.

Hopefully we can get this thread going and support each other through TTC smile

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 10:24:12

I know the feeling. I'm a bit nervous about telling my parents as I think they will be disappointed I'm not concentrating more on my career. I've told one of my friends that we're TTC as she's got a little baby herself and has been joking that I should have one so she can have a mum friend her age, so I knew she'd be excited and supportive!

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 10:25:25

Hi Jorah - hope the MRI goes well and isn't for anything too serious. :-)

jorahmormont Wed 30-Sep-15 10:27:34

I wish one of my friends would have a baby haha, it's lonely being a young mum at times! None of my friends are anywhere close to having kids, but they all adore DD, she gets totally spoiled by them smile

My parents know we're TTC but only because they keep asking when they'll have another grandchild, they're so excited grin

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 10:33:48

How old is DD1, Jorah? How did you find the tiny baby stage? I know worryingly little about babies!

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 10:37:50

Haha that's brilliant, i have a few friends with babys but my best friend is also TTC hopefully we can have babies who are also born 2 days apart !

jorahmormont Wed 30-Sep-15 11:20:46

I knew bugger all about little babies before I had one haha but it really was Ok, you adapt very quickly. It takes a while to get used to the tiredness but it becomes second nature really.

She's 18 months old smile

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 11:23:44

Awhh lovely i have a 2 year old SS i would say he is lovely but he isn't sad

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 11:33:27

Glad that I'm not the only one who doesn't know much about babies! Having an 18month old hasn't put you off then Jorah? The sleep deprivation is the thing my friend has most warned me about! Is your DD walking and talking now then? :-)

Have any of you discussed delaying TTC until Jan so you end up with a September/October baby (oldest in their school year). I really want to just get on TTC, and that's what we've decided, as you never know what happens (might take ages to get me up the duff), but part of me wonders if it's a bit selfish not to wait. There is talk about being able to hold summer babies back an academic year in the news though, have to hope that comes to something.

jorahmormont Wed 30-Sep-15 11:39:29

I was born in July and have just finished uni with a first class degree, top of my year. Summer born theory has never really bothered me wink

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 11:52:26

Congratulations on your degree! flowers Can't have been easy studying with a baby. I know you're most likely right, DH and I both born late in the year and same as yourself academic-wise. I'm probably over-thinking this (story of my life!). :-P

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 12:08:27

I was born in August and i have to say i was never disadvantaged, i have 3 NVQ's a BTEC and i work for a medical pharmaceutical company and i passed a lot of thing way before others in my academic year did e.g. Driving, Exams and have a decent job most of them are working in pound land!

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 12:18:38

Not quite a scientific study, but plently of anecdotal evidence summer born babies don't do too badly then. smile

Has anyone else had their first proper period since coming off contraception? I was on the implant for the last 6 years, stopped my periods completely (was fab) and I seem to have forgotten how much period pains can hurt! hmm

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 12:26:48

Hahaha yes I have had 3 periods since coming off of the pill and it hurt like a bitch!

God knows what we all would be like in labor if we think our periods hurt

Jaffacakey Wed 30-Sep-15 12:27:50

When is your expected test date?

SpecialStains Wed 30-Sep-15 13:28:53

I think my ETD will be around 24/25. Just had my first period so not sure how long my cycle will be etc. Before implant I was really regular 28days so we'll see if that's changed. How about you? I have downloaded the fertility friend app to mark things on the calendar, but not doing temperature stuff or ovulation sticks or anything yet. I'm off work with a horrible cold atm, so hoping I feel a bit sexier this weekend!

jorahmormont Wed 30-Sep-15 14:41:53

I haven't taken contraception since before DD blush an almost-third-degree tear is excellent contraception in itself grin (not to scare you all, it's really nowhere near as bad as it is made out to be)

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