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Can't seem to get pregnant :(

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ameeey123 Sat 15-Aug-15 19:51:01

Me and my partner have been trying to conceive our first child for about 5 months now ( May not sound a lot to some ) but I've done everything by the book ie healthy eating, non smoking or drinking, regular sex whether I'm ovulating or not and still my period comes, am I just over worrying and just carry on trying or is there something I can do to help me conceive? I am so heart broken as I see all these people having babies without a problem what can I do? sad

BeautifulBatman Sat 15-Aug-15 19:54:01

Sorry, but 5 months is nothing.... it took us 13 months. It can take an awful lot longer than than too for some couples. How old are you? What contraception were you using before starting to ttc?

TravellingToad Sat 15-Aug-15 19:57:00

Do you know that you're definitely ovulation? Have you taken ovulation tests?

Northernlurker Sat 15-Aug-15 20:00:59

How old are you?

I agree with pp - 5 months is nothing. Give it at least a year before you start stressing and ideally up to two unless your age is against you or you have reason to think there's a problem - ie previous ectopic or an illness such as mumps in your partner which could have caused a problem.

tatumsfunkychicken Sat 15-Aug-15 20:05:13

I know it seems like a long time, but really that's only 5 tries, the rest is just a very long waiting game!! It's frustrating and annoying but there's nothing for it, just keep at it!

Someone will know better than me but isn't it true that for every month there's only a 20% chance of conceiving even if you are doing all the right things? Pretty bleak huh?! (Not sure of exact statistic)

Good luck anyway, why don't you join the conception bus, they are good company over there.

textfan Sat 15-Aug-15 20:10:26

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londonrach Sat 15-Aug-15 21:49:52

Join the club...feb and still thinking gp at mo.

LastOneDancing Sat 15-Aug-15 21:56:40

Get your DH to take zinc and if you want you could try an ovulation predictor kit (millions of cheap tests on amazon).

As PP said it's hard to get pregnant even when you're doing it all by the book. Its very frustrating! Good luck for this cycle thanks

MyBlackCat Sat 15-Aug-15 22:02:07

21 months here...... Keep trying and enjoy it wink

SaulGood Sat 15-Aug-15 22:05:41

It's normal. Unless time is against you, you just need to keep trying. Up to a year is nothing remarkable, frustrating as it is.

MummyBex1985 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:12:45

Hi ameeey

I totally feel your frustration. It doesn't matter what's considered "normal" in terms of time - five months feels like forever when you see people around who get pregnant without even trying.

Statistically most couples conceive within a year, so just aim for that, as hard as it is. You have my sympathy flowers

Orangeisthenewbanana Sat 15-Aug-15 22:38:40

flowers for you. It took us 6 weeks to conceive DD and then 8 months to conceive DC2. Some of the worst months of my life - I had friends/acquaintances announcing pregnancies left, right and centre. Did everything "by the book" and simply did not understand why it wasn't happening.

Every month does feel like forever when you're ttc. I read somewhere at the time that 92% of couples conceive within 12 months and 95% within 18-24 months which kept me going. You will get there!

londonrach Sat 15-Aug-15 22:43:21

Doesnt believe orange..

Figster Sat 15-Aug-15 22:46:40

Me too hmm

Ds was conceived in 6 weeks when I was 30 been ttc since Jan with No luck I'll be 35 in a couple months and bricking it.

It's soooo hard to not let it get to you gp doesn't want to know for 12 months and I feel utterly hopeless and then angry with myself about how I'm feeling about it

HawkEyeTheNoo Sat 15-Aug-15 22:56:01

18 months and nothing for me

ameeey123 Sat 15-Aug-15 23:29:40

Thank you everyone for the advice, for those asking I am 28 and I'm glad I'm not the only one out there struggling and I feel for the ones who have been at it longer, we will all get there in the end I guess flowers thanks again for the lovely advice

LastOneDancing Sun 16-Aug-15 10:53:08

figster there is some fairly well researched evidence (which i cant find to link to, sorry) that if you already have a child your fertility doesn't 'drop' at 35 as the daily mail loves to remind us - your fertility gets a bit of a kick start and the decline is postponed until about 38+ for most people.

I found that knowledge a bit of a comfort when TTC Dc2 at 36 which took 7 cycles - I hope it takes a bit of pressure off you too.

MummyBex1985 Sun 16-Aug-15 10:58:31

Lastonedancing I think there's some truth to that. My friend was TTC for two years whilst going through early menopause and her consultant said that effectively pregnancy pauses your body clock because your body expects to have a certain number of AFs during a lifetime!

Rainy34 Sun 16-Aug-15 10:59:31

Hi try not to worry yet, you have only been trying for five months, just enjoy all the sex, i have been trying for 16 months and nothing, something to make the ladies here feel a bit better who are around 35 which is what age i am, I went to my first fertility appointment on friday and told her how i was scared my age was against me and she told me that being 35 is still young and that she has had ladies of 44 and older have babies, so the next time anyone tells you that being over 35 that its past it, just let it go over your head!!

angielou8 Sun 16-Aug-15 13:16:45

It took me a year to get pregnant and unfortunately I had a mc a few days ago at 7 weeks so will have to start all over again.
Every month I got upset and annoyed it wasn't happening and when I did get my BFP was the only month I didn't get symptoms and didn't expect it. Im sure we get twinges and get our hopes up as we look out for it more. Also you notice babies all around you and friends all posting scan pictures and it can be upsetting but just stay positive and believe it will happen.
Your time will come and when it does I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Luckybabyno2 Sun 16-Aug-15 14:00:10

I completely feel your frustration as it took us 13 months to fall pregnant & when we did finally get caught we then went on to mc 3 months later!!! Life is so unfair sometimes but keep trying and it will happen, I actually thought it never would then out of the blue BFP.
Docs won't see you until it's been at least 1 year as they class it as completely normal (annoying I know!!!!) but don't give up we just need to be patient.

SaulGood Sun 16-Aug-15 20:16:36

Orange is completely right for couples between 19 and 26 years of age. It's all on the NHS website.

Fairylea Sun 16-Aug-15 20:22:21

Orange is correct.

It took me 18 months to conceive dd and 10 months to conceive ds. Something that did complicate things for me was a very high level of prolactin - the hormone produced when breastfeeding and can be raised by taking the pill - I had never and have never breastfed but I had been on the pill for many years. Following some blood tests that found my levels were very high I was able to take medication to reduce the prolactin levels and encourage regular ovulation. It seemed to do the trick ! Just something to consider as hardly anyone seems to know about it and it's more common than people think!

smellsofelderberries Mon 17-Aug-15 10:51:02

I understand where you are coming from completely as we have also been trying for 5 months. I suffer from anxiety and while I know 5 months isn't a very long time and I know it can take up to a year (though I think that statistic is for people who are more NTNP rather than having timed intercourse) I really struggled for the first few months. I don't have any advice except to give yourself the maximum opportunity every cycle by using OPKs and going easy on the alcohol, caffeine and junk food, and if you think something is wrong, go and talk to your GP. When I have my bad days I also found it helpful to tell myself 'I will probably have a baby in 18 months time' because statistically, we will smile

smellsofelderberries Mon 17-Aug-15 10:52:58

And YY to fairylea. I have just found out I have V high prolactin levels (though still ovulate and have regular cycles hmm) so if something feels 'off' then do go to the Dr.

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