TTC 6 months - frustrated with my body and everyone around me!(8 Posts)
Eeek first post but in need of support as feeling very alone!
Myself and my husband have been TTC for 6 months now, we are both 27. I had the Mirena coil removed after 3 years of no periods. Prior to having the Mirena I had a complicated time of pain and irregular bleeding & I was found to have an 18cm cyst (which was thought to be on my ovary) but when operated on was in my right Fallopian tube. Was successfully removed and ovary saved. My Gynae Cons then saw me back for my follow up and went through the report about the cyst which thankfully was normal. He mentioned to me that my ovaries were very 'bulky' and the fact I have always had extremely irregular periods he ?PCOS, he said don't worry about it until you try to have a baby then we can address it! My cycle is now 32-54 days. I'm temping, peeing on everything I can, eating the right things, taking Angus Castus and all the supplements. First cycle we were TTC I had x3 (on separate days) early but faint BFP and felt like death but after about a week everything settled and tests turned neg. Since then every month is the same and my cycles are so long it's a guessing game. Sometimes I have multiple OPK during 1 cycle and the temping doesn't really indicate much. I'm thinking I'm possibly not even ovulating! Do you think if I went to the GP they would tell me to keep going or do you think they would be able to check I am ovulating? Feel very frustrated as I'm a Midwife and it feels very much in my face, I love my job and would never let it affect my job but come home sometimes and feel so down. My husband is trying to be supportive but keeps saying you'll be pregnant next month! Which just makes me want to poke him in the eye! Sorry for the long post, I know it's only 6 months but any advice or support would be very much appreciated! Xx
This sounds so stressful! Definitely go to your GP if you're worried, though six months doesn't seem long it definitely sounds as if you need reassurance.
My brother and his wife took three years to conceive: then their second child happened so easily and I did wonder whether they were just a bit more relaxed second time around (they were actually shocked at how quickly they conceived).
You're both really young, and honestly, it can take up to a year to conceive for couples with no fertility issues.
even though you're both young and healthy, 6 months isn't long (we're on month 7, with 1 mc in april). when you look at some of the facts of conception I think it helps put the time taken into perspective...
i.e. we only ovulate 1/cycle - we only have ~12 cycles/year - 1 or 2 cycles may be anovulatory - the ovum doesn't last long - sperm must meet ovum - ovum must be healthy - sperm must be healthy - etc. So we, at the very best, get probably 10 chances per year! I'm not trying to be alarmist, more realisitc about the time taken.
Having said that, I think you'd be well within your rights to see your gp to talk through your previous medical histroy and the effect it might have on your fertility (hopefully none!)...not in a "why aren't i pregnant yet?" way, but because you want to be informed, and maybe book any tests which might help understand/reassure etc.
sorry!!!! just noticed you said you're a MW...talk about taching your grandmother to suck eggs
Hi Midwife. If it helps any I have just been diagnosed with PCOS after only 7 months of trying and my GP had no issue with sending me for tests because my symptoms were not only relating to ttc. I think given your history a good GP wouldn't have an issue with getting some routine blood work done and a scan to see if your ovaries are indeed "bulky" so make an appointment to put your mind at rest.
But like 5hell said, it may unfortunately take time (and I am so impatient!)
I would go to GP now regards the irregular periods ?pcos. There is no need to wait 12 months, that's for people who don't have an existing/? gynae issue. I'm sure you will feel so much better once you have been and know better where you stand. Of course your previous issues may be having no impact on your fertility, as 6 months is still quite normal, but at least you have a reason to seek investigations etc sooner rather than later under the guise of a gynae and not ttc complaint. (That last bit's probably not worded very well but I hope you get what I mean).
Hey Madwife - sorry to hear of your difficulties so far!However as everyone else says, don't worry too much. 6 months seems agggess to all of us but in reality it is not long in the grand scheme of TTC.
I am in a similar situation to you - 23, long cycles and have absolutely no idea when I ovulate. My doctor said he would do bloods to see if I was ovulating. I haven't gone yet...holding off for a few more weeks to see if I get a BFP or AF. I'm on CD36 now. OPKs indicated I did ovulate but who knows!
Do whatever it takes to put your mind at rest! xx
Thanks everyone - I know 6 months isn't long and I'm more than happy to keep trying as long as it takes. It's more the issue of not knowing what the hell is going on with my body, no idea when I will get a period and completely Unable to pin point ovulation! Very frustrating! I feel if some one could just say yes you ovulate then I'd just chill out and keep trying!
Thanks guys x
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