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My partner's low sex drive is becoming a real problem whilst TTC :(

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sophiedeana990 Sun 28-Jun-15 20:37:54

Hi all, just wanted to know if anyone was in the same boat. I've always had quite a high sex drive lol, but my OH is quite the opposite, and states that 'he is normal and I am not'. We're both quite young so I think it's strange how he's even told me 'I prefer the sex we have when it's just 3 times a week and not every day'.

As you can imagine, this makes TTC quite tricky with my fertile windows, and I find my self 'savouring the passion' and doing a bit of a seductive Anne Boleyn, and only giving into his desire for me if it's near my fertile window when I'm smack bang ovulating. Of course, this is easier said than done and emotionally quite draining.

I really don't know what to do! This would be our first baby and whole heartedly, I will admit, I probably want this in a lot of ways much more than him, but that's because we as woman do all the planning and date calculating, which can be understandably frustrating.

What should I do? I can't get him to have sex every other day on the dot during my fertile window, as he just isn't in to it and I feel it's forced :/ He also doesn't manage to ejaculate if it's a sex session mainly provoked by me (hehe).

P.S he isn't under any stresses, he has been this way since he was 19! He rarely masturbates too, as he doesn't have the time and if he's feeling the mood we'll always have sex.

ladygaga1980 Sun 28-Jun-15 20:42:13

Three times a week seems fine to me tbh. How long have you been ttc?

sophiedeana990 Sun 28-Jun-15 20:46:17

Only for 3 months! Problem is, sometimes he doesn't ejaculate or it's bloody hard work because I have to get my mouth involved for a good 20 minutes before there's any sign of his sprinting swimmers.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Sun 28-Jun-15 20:48:02

Well if it's any consolation DC2 was conceived on the one time we had sex in a whole month (we were absolutely exhausted with a non sleeping 9 month old so it was a rare occurrence!). It only takes once, at the right time. 3 times a week seems fine to me.

sophiedeana990 Sun 28-Jun-15 20:53:33

I think it's not really the 3 times a week that's the main problem, it's the issue that he doesn't always ejaculate and if he does, I'm the one who has to put ALL the hard work into making him squirt. Really bloody annoying!

I find myself thinking of baby items whilst doing the down-there deed... lol!

NoArmaniNoPunani Sun 28-Jun-15 20:56:25

Three times a week is perfect for TTC

GinUpGirl Tue 07-Jul-15 09:45:36

I don't think your boyfriend wants a baby.

smellsofelderberries Tue 07-Jul-15 10:14:10

I agree with Gin, sorry. You say you're both young, how young are you?

GinUpGirl Tue 07-Jul-15 15:10:48

She's either 21 or 17 going by some of her other posts. HQ have taken one down to investigate - the OP was answering herself under name changes.

Oh for God's sake.

Embolio Tue 07-Jul-15 15:26:25

"Squirt" boke hmm

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