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Period on wedding day - disaster?

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MrsCaramac Tue 26-May-15 14:38:00

Hi all - I'm a newbie but have been lurking a while wink

DP and I want to TTC straight after our wedding, preferably the night of, but I have just worked out that my period is due smack bang on my wedding day

I've never properly monitored my periods, only started in the last two months or so because of TTC in the near future and wanted to know roughly when ovulation would be.

So, my question is: is there anything I can take to delay my period? I know you can just keep taking the pill through your 'break' days but I'm not on the pill - haven't been for a year now

And, if I take something/the pill to delay the wedding-period, will it screw up hormones etc... making it harder for us to conceive until my hormones have settled down again?

Any experience of this?

ellie3009 Tue 26-May-15 15:41:33

You could TTC the cycle before the wedding - if it worked you'd only be a couple of weeks gone, and no period but the catch would be reduced alcohol consumption!

VenusRising Tue 26-May-15 15:44:39

Mrscarmac, don't worry about it, I bet you'll get your period a few days late with the stress.

Day 14-16 are the days when you are most fertile, though I've known someone to get pregnant on day 18 as her ovulation was delayed with stress!

Good luck and congratulations.

Tootsiepops Tue 26-May-15 17:29:19

Ask your gp for norethisterone - it's not a contraceptive though so do take care if you want to wait until after your wedding to start trying.

sizethree Tue 26-May-15 17:48:04

I had my period on my wedding day, and to be honest we were so exhausted that evening we wouldn't have managed to DTD anyway! Sadly no honeymoon baby, although it was fun trying.
Check with your doctor but I'be heard that skipping your week off the pill will stop your period coming.

MrsCaramac Wed 27-May-15 09:03:50

Thanks all - I am all for trying the cycle before the wedding and (all being well) telling people it's a honeymoon baby ;-)

hurryupandgetout Thu 28-May-15 18:07:27

Ditto sizethree... I had my period in my wedding day, we were also too tired to dtd (and too drunk!) but did get a honeymoon baby, he's 2 weeks old now. Don't worry about not dtd on your wedding night, loads of people don't!

shattered77 Thu 28-May-15 19:51:22

I didn't realise that having a "honeymoon baby" was a thing :-/

Oysterbabe Thu 28-May-15 19:53:51

I'm currently pregnant with a honeymoon baby so for me it's a thing smile

shattered77 Thu 28-May-15 20:05:09

Congratulations Oyster!

Obviously people do get pregnant on their honeymoon, but didn't realise it was something to stress about, and that it's a status thing to be able to say you had a honeymoon baby, like that makes the perfect package.

I thought the post was going to be about struggling in the loos with a wedding dress on! grin

Oysterbabe Thu 28-May-15 21:11:01

I don't think anyone means it like that. Lots of people start trying straight after the wedding so it's more like an aren't--we-lucky-to-get-pregnant-so-quickly thing. (We started trying 5 months before the wedding but just so happened to get lucky on honeymoon. Probably because we didn't do much else but shag)

dashoflime Thu 28-May-15 21:19:43

"I thought the post was going to be about struggling in the loos with a wedding dress on!"
I had my period on my wedding day and yes, this was a problem. Also: the dress is white! And everyone is looking at you! It was a worry.

Oysterbabe Thu 28-May-15 21:32:04

Good point about the loo actually. Depending on the dress it could be tricky. Changing tampons might go a bit beyond the duties a bridesmaid is prepared to assist with.

joey38 Thu 28-May-15 21:35:12

I really think that this is the last thing you should be stressing about on your wedding day - so much other stuff to think about and enjoy. My dh and I did technically start ttc on our wedding night, but it didn't happen for 5 months after that. It was no big deal. Getting pregnant is not something you can put on your wedding plan!!!

nightandthelight Thu 28-May-15 21:37:58

I would definitely be more stressed about the dress! I had a UTI my wedding night so no DTD for me sad I really wouldn't stress, it will be a wonderful day regardless of whether you have AF or not. Many congratulations smile

Justusemyname Thu 28-May-15 21:42:09

People will know it isn't a honeymoon baby if you conceive the month before. Are you not allowed to have sex pre marriage?confused

shattered77 Thu 28-May-15 21:43:13

Yes, Dash, that's the disaster I thought was being referred to in the thread title.

I'd never heard of a couple trying to conceive on their wedding night, I thought statistically the chance of a shag was pretty low . I just thought it sounded like a lot of pressure to put on yourselves, why not just relax and enjoy your wedding.

We already had a child when we went on honeymoon, so didn't need to worry about having all the sex grin.

Oysterbabe Thu 28-May-15 21:43:36

I reckon just DTD on your wedding night AF be damned. The maid will just think you were a virgin. wink
DH and I have been known to do it in the shower in such situations...

MrsCaramac Fri 29-May-15 08:43:10

To be clear - I've only ever heard the phrase "honeymoon baby" when people conceived before the wedding and were trying to cover it up (old fashioned/catholic I guess) - as far as I know, it is in no way a gloat aimed at people who took longer to conceive - bit odd to jump to that conclusion in my opinion.

My DP wants to wait until after the wedding for religious reasons (which I think is a tad ridiculous as we're already sleeping together but respect his views and that's a whole other thread!)

As for people "knowing" it was conceived before the honeymoon - bloody hell! How much info do women share about their pregnancies these days?! I have never asked any of my friends when their babies were conceived and we are talking weeks, not months so unless they were very committed weird to find out the exact day of conception, who would know?

My question was purely related to the impractical white dress, unpredictable bright red bleeding and everyone looking at me issue. Will have to chat with DP as period leakage could ruin the overall effect of my dress somewhat grin

frangipani13 Fri 29-May-15 08:48:49

I took norithisone for this exact reason gp will prescribe easily x

nightandthelight Fri 29-May-15 08:53:22

I would recommend that a bridesmaid keeps a supply of high absorbency pads and tampons in a small bag and that they are given the task of reminding you to change them every two hours. Unless you have extremely heavy AF that should keep you safe. Do you have that kind of relationship with a bridesmaid? What kind of free is it? Have you tried it on and practiced hoiking it up to go to the loo? If not I would recommend you do before the wedding so you get the hang of it smile

My DH is the same! Religion didn't stop him from living with me before marriage but it did stop him allowing children before marriage!

AnotherEmma Fri 29-May-15 09:02:19

I would be worried about the practical side on being on my period. not TTC. I would get the pill from the doctor that delays your period. If not consider using a menstrual cup (eg Mooncup) so you don't have to change tampons every few hours.
Worry about TTC on honeymoon!

nightandthelight Fri 29-May-15 09:09:46

Dress not free!

Justusemyname Fri 29-May-15 16:19:12

It's not hard to work out. Pregnancy is nine months. Most people can count to nine, friends will know when you got married and if it was in January and the baby comes in July or August they'll know you were pregnant when you got married.

MrsCaramac Fri 29-May-15 16:42:14

Oh people always have the baby bang on 9 months? To the day? Haha!
That'll be why there are so many threads on here from women being weeks overdue or having premature births then hmm

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