"Casually" TTC

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BigChiefThunderThighs Mon 25-May-15 00:05:12

TTC number 2, we've agreed to go ahead in a "let's just see whAt happens, no pressure" kind of way. so I'm casually charting my cycles with a fertility app, breezily checking my cervical mucous, nonchalantly scouring the conception board and definitely not compiling a list of names for dc2 blush.
What is so frustrating is that because I'm "casually" charting all of this I know exactly when my fertile window is and keep bloody missing it because I don't want to give the game away and look like baby crazed monster! Last month my carefully timed advances were thwarted by a five-aside groin strain. I think today was the day and was planning a seduction after dd's bedtime but he announced he was off to his brothers for a bank holiday drink.
This is lighthearted and is not a problem with communication in my marriage. I think he felt the pressure last time and I'm really trying to keep this as relaxed as possible (for him) but that's just not my style.

Yellowbird01 Mon 25-May-15 00:15:50

Don't worry, one missed opportunity is not the end of the world, try for a quickie in the morning!

kitkat1989 Mon 25-May-15 00:18:34

Im in the same boat!! This week is ny fertile window and iv been doing an ovulation app on my.phone but i dont want dh to know how secretly obsessed i am! In the 6 weeks wev been 'seeing how things go' i think wev only dtd about 5 times!

Alice1983 Mon 25-May-15 00:52:38

I was just going to start a thread on the same thing. We (I grin) are (am grin) casually TTC as well...I haven't got any charts or anything at all. Joking aside, we are 'seeing what happens', but I think I am more like the baby crazed moster you mention, he seems to take it more breezily!

Momagain1 Mon 25-May-15 01:03:35

How can you casually track all that?

Why not casually commit to sex every other day, thus maintaining an available sperm supply, as it were, for when the egg shows up.

BigChiefThunderThighs Mon 25-May-15 08:57:55

Haha unfortunately no quickie this morning I'm working he's not!
Momagain - no my methods are definitely not casual but I prefer a bit of efficiency! Officially we're just carrying on as normal so averaging dtd prob every 3 days, but seem to just be missing the key days each time and I don't want to blow my cover by insisting, thus revealing my scary obsessive TTC regime blush

nenehooo Mon 25-May-15 09:24:39

This will be me in a few months, I think! We agreed to 'think' about DC2 later this year - August/September time. I've been tracking CM etc since January. blush
DH was most unimpressed at being 'used' for sex last time we were TTC... I can't see him turning down the opportunity every other day this time round!

Tangoandcreditcards Mon 25-May-15 09:28:38

We casually TTC #2 in a very similarly casual way. Totally missed my window in Apr and only DTD once all month. (We were ill, moving house, and knackered from a non-sleeping 15 mo).

I'm currently 9 wks pg.

Good luck OP. grin

themumfairy Mon 25-May-15 10:57:22

I'm sooo glad I've found this thread I could of written it myself! I've had to put a lock on my phone to hide all the fertilty apps shock dp is none the wiser at the min grin we agreed to see what happens but i want a baby sooner rather than later. everyone around me is either pregnant or just had a baby and I'm so broody. my youngest is 6. x

BigChiefThunderThighs Mon 25-May-15 15:28:42

Haha glad it's not just me! I had been hoping for a gap of only 2 school years between DC. So this month is my last chance for a feb birthday which is the cut-off (scotland). In the grand scheme of things it's not that important but it was a good age gap for my sister and I!

ThursdayLast Mon 25-May-15 15:38:44

I know exactly what you mean BigChief! I have to witter in about it all on the Conception boards because if I talk about it as much as I think about it DH will definitely clock it's not that casual at all grin

ThursdayLast Mon 25-May-15 15:41:45

Also - neither my phone or iPad will let me download any of the fertility tracking apps!
Which somehow makes me feel guilty about thinking about it too much!

Alice1983 Mon 25-May-15 19:42:11

I cant even bear the thought of the tracking apps at the moment, I think it they would drive me potty (and believe me, I already am, and thats without them grin) Only wine helps. I hope we can keep this thread so I can report back soon with an update (maybe to tell you all that I have downloaded the tracking apps! blush)

BigChiefThunderThighs Mon 25-May-15 21:30:07

Good idea alice - somewhere we can be our true obsessive selvesgrin

ThursdayLast Mon 25-May-15 21:41:12

(I downloaded two)

Alice1983 Tue 26-May-15 11:01:56

I might just 'casually' get some OPK tests.. ''running out of the door'' grin

themumfairy Tue 26-May-15 11:45:24

I've realised what's even harder than hiding that we are not 'casually' ttc. it's trying to hide the disappointment when you realise you didn't conceive confused confused sad sad

Whoopsydo Tue 26-May-15 11:54:04

Haha glad it's not just me. Just off to casually do an ovulation test...

clmustard Tue 26-May-15 12:35:43

fertility apps you say?<<< she says casually grin

Snowberry86 Tue 26-May-15 12:46:09

We started fairly casually 14 months ago, after 2 months I got obsessive why is this not happening panic and downloaded every app going, ovulation sticks the works. Still hasn't happened and so we are now going back to casual to take the stress off while we wait for the fertility clinic referal to come through!

BigChiefThunderThighs Tue 26-May-15 18:04:56

Mumfairy - yes totally! I was in a foul mood first day of my period this month! Didn't hide the rage very well.
The ovulation tests haven't made an appearance yet this time round but I predict that if nothing happens this month I'll be hiding them in amongst the tampax soon!
On a positive note, my fertility app had my peak day as being a couple of days ago but some symptoms today suggest it was wrong - so I managed home at lunchtime for a quickie as dh on day off! Now that I think about it he must have clocked what I'm up to by now, as that is fairly suspicious behaviour for me! grin

themumfairy Tue 26-May-15 18:15:21

in future I'll just have to rant on here! hehe either we are way to clever or they are not the brightest! fingers crossed this is the month for everyone. I'm now 2 days late however my cycles have never really gone back to 'normal' since coming off the pill. so I might not be late at all as my cycle can vary x

BigChiefThunderThighs Tue 26-May-15 18:22:57

Ooo when are you going to POAS? You've been very restrained - 2 days late! Let us know when you do!

Alice1983 Tue 26-May-15 18:55:09

I think either my OH knows is quite happy about the situation and keeping quiet while it lasts wink or failing that, you are right and they are not the brightest grin

kitkat1989 Tue 26-May-15 20:15:37

I 'casually' went and got another load of ovulation kits and a thermometer today... oh obv doesnt know this. My app says im ovulating this week but opk hasnt said yes yet... we dtd yesterday though so fx! Its only our firsy proper month so im trying not to get too excitable about it but i know im so impatient that that wont happen!

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