I feel deflated

[sophiabella]

Hi girls. I have been looking at the statistics on Countdowntopregnancy website. It shows you how often people test, when the most likely day is to get a positive depending upon the brand etc and really had my hopes up. My AF is due on Monday and I've taken a test today and it's negative. I know it's still early but I had really high hopes of finding out already. I bought tests that claim they can test earlier too but it was still negative. Am I just being pessimistic thinking I'm out this month? I am 12dpo.

I feel so obsessive and desperate but this is the last month my partner and I can try until late summer.

Have any of you had negatives the days before AF is due and then got a positive afterwards?

[roughtyping]

I read a website that stated, backed up by a couple of studies, that only something like 40% of women get a Bfp before their missed period. Never been able to find it again! But it was reassuring. I know the disappointment well though

[lemon101]

There is a lot of variation in the timing that people get their BFPs - if I was in your position I would still be hopeful. Really it is anybody's guess until you miss your period - or get it!

try to hang on in there - it is tough. The tww sucks!

[PossumPoo]

I didnt get a bfp until tbe day after af was due and it was so faint l had to squint to see it. I'm 5 weeks and did another test this morning and it came up strong.

These were 'sensitive' tests too!

[sophiabella]

Took another tes this morn, now 2 days before AF is due and still negative :(

[Novia]

I think it depends a lot when you ovulate, I must ovulate later in my cycle as I was still showing as negative 3 days after my period was due! Didn't show until 5 days after! The cheapy £1 shop tests are often better btw - not convinced by the posh ones as often there is literally nothing to detect at that point!

[Novia]

Tbh, your period but arriving is really the best clue. Best not to test until you're actually late (hugely tempting as it is). My sister used to say before that was like weeing on a £5 note!

[sophiabella]

I hope I didn't ovulate later as I only DTD around the day I thought I ovulated (day 14) so we DTD day 8, 10, 12, 14 and 16 so if I ovulated later then I would have missed my chance! Oh my goodness I never knew I could get so worked up about it :(

[Novia]

But the sperm live up to 3 days after DTD so even if you were a little later it doesn't mean you're out!

[sophiabella]

Thank you for reassuring me. I think i just don't feel like its worked this month. I suppose on Monday i should know n I'll have to work on how to deal with it.

[TakesTwoToTango]

Sophiabella, maybe try to plan some amazing things to do over the Sumer until you can TTC again. Things you wouldn't be able to do or enjoy so much if you were pg? Or getting super fit ready to start again in the autumn?

[sophiabella]

I think we will, we don't have much money si we cant have exotic holidays but i think maybe make the most of the spring n do things to make it pass by faster n start again in august if i am out this month. I am already fit so i don't need to lose weight or anything in preparation. I just feel gutted that i might be out n have a very long wait until we can try again. Ive never been so emotional!

[sophiabella]

another BFN this morning. tomorrow is when AF is due so surely it would show up by now? :(

[sophiabella]

AF due tomorrow... hoping it doesn't come...