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First cycle since stopping the pill......CD79, 19DPO & 4 BFN's

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elsieBelle Sat 03-Jan-15 11:02:34

Hi, this is my first post but I have spent hours reading through posts on this board and found the advice given really helpful. So my story is....I'm 31, married in August and wanting to start ttc#1 fairly quickly so stopped the pill mid Oct to give things a chance to get back to normal with a view to starting ttc in dec/jan (I'm a teacher so I naively thought I could plan for a sept/October baby which would work best for me with mat leave and returning to work). But here I am quickly approaching CD80 and not really knowing what the hell is going on in there!! Having read lots on here I knew to keep an eye on CM and on CD58 I noticed EWCM so went straight out and bought CB ov tests, tested that evening and nothing. Tested again in the morning and flashing smiley so DTD that day, tested again the next day and solid smiley so DTD that day too and the following day, assuming I ovulated the day after my first solid smiley. Having learnt from all your posts I figured out when I could test and POAS on 9dpo, 11dpo, 14dpo and finally yesterday at 18dpo and all BFN's.
I know this post is getting rather long but I guess what I'm asking is for anyone with any similar experiences to offer me any advice. I know I'm just starting out so not too disappointed with BFN's but I am concerned about this epic cycle length and the possibility that I could be looking at a long wait for cycles to settle, let alone waiting for a BFP!! Any advice much appreciated!!

toohardtothinkofaname Sat 03-Jan-15 11:15:33

Hi Elsie, welcome to crazy world of TTC!

My first cycle after stopping the pill was 90+ days and I had to induce ovulation eventually by taking a course of Soy Isoflavones. I'm now CD38 & awaiting confirmation from Fertility Friend that I OV'd.

Unfortunately your positive OPKs don't confirm you've ovulated, you need to temp for that. That means you can get EWCM & positive OPK but then your body doesn't actually OV, whether through stress or illness etc. by temping you can see if your BBT increases after these signs, thus confirming you OV'd.

It can take up to 6 months for your cycles to return back to normal, just enjoy the DTD practice until then! smile

toohardtothinkofaname Sat 03-Jan-15 11:16:47

I should have said on CD38 on cycle 2 since August!

Moomin37 Sat 03-Jan-15 17:45:02

Welcome Elsie I support what Toohard says in terms of using soya. I am on CD178 after stopping the pill and if I didn't have a fertility assessment booked for a couple of weeks time then I would be hitting the soya to kick start ovulation (not sure if I am ovulating or not - been using OPKs for about five to six weeks and only ever had a couple of faint lines). As I am 35 then my GP has done blood tests and will send me for a scan if AF hasn't appeared after six months (end of January). Hope AF arrives soon and best if luck with TTC smile

toohardtothinkofaname Sun 04-Jan-15 09:19:55

Good luck to you too Moomin, can't imagine how frustrating it must be with a cycle that long. Hope it all works out x

AttilaTheMeerkat Sun 04-Jan-15 09:48:34

The pill leaves your system very quickly after taking the last tablet, the pill here may well have masked symptoms of an underlying hormonal imbalance that has always been there.

I would refrain from using OPKs as of now. They are not helping at all. All these have shown is a LH spike and that can happen more than once in any cycle.

Would also suggest you refrain from using anything like soya until you have established why this is happening. You need a diagnosis first and foremost. Blood tests will be your friend here.

If your cycle does not return to a "normal" pattern i.e. a cycle length of between 21 and 35 days I would seek medical advice sooner rather than later (say within the next 2-3 months). Blood tests can be done to see what your actual hormone levels are like; this would be far more accurate than temping or using OPKs. With such cycles as well you are likely not to be ovulating regularly if at all currently. Such problems are usually caused by hormonal imbalances; in this respect a condition called polycystic ovaries is a common culprit.

As your cycle is long, blood tests can actually be done according to calendar days; you need a day 2 test to start with to check and compare your LH level against that of FSH. LH and FSH are two very important hormones as they kickstart the ovulation process, if these are awry then ovulation is affected. If PCO is there, it is a very common problem and can be treated.

elsieBelle Sun 04-Jan-15 12:42:36

Thanks for the responses, and the advice. Having been on the pill for 15 years with no break I can't even remember what pre pill periods were like. Feeling so disappointed that it's not going to be straightforward. Lots of my friends and family know we would like to start a family but we haven't told a soul that we are trying, it happened quickly for almost everyone I know who has children including my sister who conceived both her girls straight away. I guess it's a waiting game. I have made one visit to GP already and they told me to go back in 4 weeks (taking me to 12 weeks since my withdrawal bleed) and that will be next week. She said she would refer me for blood tests to check my hormone levels of still no AF so hopefully that will be the next step.

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