Is this normal or have I lost it?

[AbsolutelyLostIt]

Name changed for this.

DP and I aren't actually trying but we haven't exactly been careful this month. Tbh we'd love a baby right now but we're getting married soon so I guess ideally (if we listened to our heads rather than our hearts) we'd wait until after our wedding to start trying.

I'm now 6 days late, tested two evenings ago and got a BFN. Though when I read the test afterwards it said to ideally wait until 7 days late so I'm guessing (hoping) it's not that accurate. I keep feeling like I'm coming on and having to run to the toilet to check but still nothing. Is it normal to constantly check? I feel like I've just totally lost it. Both DP and I were so disappointed with the BFN so we're really hoping I don't come on. Just want to know either way now!!

[Coffeeaddictforever]

Totally normal. Most of us on here are poas addicts and start testing a week before af is due. Bfn 6 days late is unusual but does happen. Are you tracking your temps or anything. I don't but I do keep a close eye on cm.

[AbsolutelyLostIt]

BFN was actually at 4 days late. I haven't tested since Thursday. Not keeping an eye on anything at all, I only keep track of my periods so I know when I'm due on so I can be prepared. Tbh I wish I hadn't now as I hadn't realised I was late until I double checked my period tracker app at 2 days late.

[cookielove]

Poas - pee on a stick (pregnancy test) with fmu - first morning urine and you will get an accurate result! Good luck :)

[AbsolutelyLostIt]

Unfortunately the dreaded witch turned up in full force this morning 7 days late before I had chance to poas. At least I didn't waste a test I suppose.

Must try to listen to my head and be more careful until our wedding next year :(

[cookielove]

Oh absolutely so sorry to hear that! Hope your wedding is early next year so you can start ttc!

[AbsolutelyLostIt]

Thanks cookie.

Our wedding was supposed to be sooner but for several (in hindsight stupid) reasons we had to delay until next December. Hindsights great isn't it, a few weeks ago we realised that actually we could have just stuck with the original date as the issues we envisaged are no longer issues but we've booked everything for next December now and don't want to lose all the deposits etc. I said in my original post we're getting married soon and sometimes it feels like 12 months is soon but now I just feel like it's ages :(

Tbh it's not just the wedding, there are a few reasons we should wait. Sure we'd cope now and we'd find ways around issues if I did get pregnant but that year waiting would make a massive difference for us. Well 6 months would make a big difference but by that point it'd be logical to just wait until our wedding so I'm not potentially up to 6 months pregnant walking down the aisle.

Still, our time will come and I'm sure (as with all who are waiting for that fantastic BFP) we'll be all the more ecstatic when it finally happens for us all

[cookielove]

I am not waiting for a bfp, as mine is sleeping on my chest right now. But the year will fly by and you'll be all caught up in the madness of wedding planning! And then maybe you will get a honeymoon bfp!

[AbsolutelyLostIt]

Aww how cute cookie

Very true. When my sister was planning her wedding the 18 or so months planning flew by so fingers crossed our 12 and a bit months flies by too! A honeymoon BFP would be absolutely amazing!