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Trying to conceive after a miscarriage

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Jammy2876 Fri 28-Mar-14 11:53:03

Hi, am new to mumsnet, need some advice/reassurance. It took me over two years to conceive and on Monday I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. Am feeling low and empty and don't know what to do now. Has this happened to anyone else? How long should we wait to try again and I am worried its going to take years to conceive again. Any advice is welcome. Thanks

bessie84 Fri 28-Mar-14 12:05:12

Hey, so sorry for your loss.

last year, it took us 2 years to concieve and we mc in september at 9 weeks. we were advised to wait 3 months after for cycle/body to have a break and we started trying again in january. so far nothing. we're having iui later this year (oh has low sperm count)

have you seen anyone about why it took so long to concieve? i would.
some docs say a month to start again, some say 3. varies i guess.

again, sorry for your loss, its so sad. (our baby would be due about now) and good luck with trying to concieve. its a long long journey, epsecially when it happens for everyone else x

Jammy2876 Fri 28-Mar-14 12:16:27

Hi Bessie,
Thanks for your reply, thank you for sharing your story and I am sorry to hear about your loss It's such a difficult thing to go through. Ironically the day we went to the docs to get referred to fertility clinic I afterwards found out I was pregnant so when we went back the next day the doc stopped the referral. I have had my hormones checked and my husband has had a sperm test all of which had come back normal. I know it's a waiting game to see if we can conceive again, I just feel like its never going to happen. Good luck to you too!

ImBrian Fri 28-Mar-14 17:44:56

I've had 2 miscarriages one at 6 and a half weeks and a chemical at just under 5. I started trying straight away with both and my dr was happy with that. I had one period after the 6 week one and then got a bfp and this time I haven't had a period since my chemical and I'm 5 weeks pregnant smile. . I definitely worry more in the pregnancies I've had straight after miscarriage and I won't be happy till I see a beating heart but for me it's made me feel better emotionally if that makes sense. A lot of people say you're more fertile in the couple of months after miscarriage as well. If it's happened once it can happen again. Good luck.

Jemma2907 Fri 28-Mar-14 19:14:32

I'm sorry for your loss Jammy. It's a horrible sad time when any miscarried happens.
I fell pregnant for the first time after trying for 2 years, 2 months in August last year. I miscarried 6 weeks later.
I was advised to wait for at least one cycle before trying again. I was very very lucky and conceived again in December (so had an Oct and Nov AF). I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant.
This may sound completely naive but my Mum said that sometimes your body needs a practise run before you go for the main event. It didn't help me at the time as I'm sure it won't you as I just wanted my baby that I'd already fallen in love with however the fact that I fell so quickly after has made me question whether she was right and I really hope that you get your sticky bean very soon. Try and look after yourself and get lots of TLC.
Once again, so sorry for your loss x

Jammy2876 Fri 28-Mar-14 20:03:06

Thank you so much Jemma,

Jammy2876 Fri 28-Mar-14 20:06:23

Thank you so much Jemma, reading your story has given me a glimmer of hope which I am in great need of at the moment. It's lovely to hear that you have achieved what I hope to after going through a very similar ordeal. I wish you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy and I so hope that my story ends the same as yours. Xx

Deenamumof1 Fri 28-Mar-14 22:16:49

I'm so sorry for you loss, I had a missed miscarriage in June 2011 I then had a d&c to remove the baby. Doctors advices me to wait 2 months, I remember the doctor telling me loads of people get pregnant after a miscarriage and I remember thinking "please let me be one of these people" then just 2 months after I lost my angel, I was pregnant again, I now have a healthy but naughty 22 month old, your in my prayers and I wish you all the best xx

St4rfish Sat 29-Mar-14 11:45:50

Hi Jammy. Your story sounds very similar to mine. We had been trying for just over 2 years when I got my BFP last March, a few days before we were due to see the fertility specialist, so referral cancelled. I miscarried at 12 weeks last May. It took me a few months to recover physically and I would say I am still not over it emotionally, but coping well. We have just been through all the same blood/sperm tests again in order to get a second referral, as we have been trying again since last summer with no joy. Bit of a waiting list so appointment is in June. My advice would be to give it a few months and then go back to get another referral up and running. I had to argue that the clock had not been re-set by my miscarriage (meaning that I had been TTC for 3 years rather than less than 1) but being over 35 the hospital had said to come back for help after 6 months anyway. Best of luck; it truly is the worst thing to go through. X

St4rfish Sat 29-Mar-14 11:48:09

Sorry, just realised I got Jammy and Bessie's stories muddled up! Regardless, if you were tying for two years Jammy and it ended in miscarriage, I would still try and get a referral to give you some peace of mind/set you on the road to treatment if it is needed.

Cakebaker35 Sat 29-Mar-14 16:25:00

Hi Jammy, so sorry for your loss. I miscarried twins at 10wks and it's just a horrible rubbish and difficult time. I was told we didn't need to wait until we try again, although emotionally we probably will. I highly recommend coming and joining this thread, everyone has had an mc and is very supportive and funny too, hope to see you on there....

CattyW72 Tue 01-Apr-14 13:41:39

Hi Jammy,
I am very sorry for your loss.
I found out I had a missed miscarriage and had to have an ERPC the Saturday before last when I should have been 10w2d.
It was my 3rd consecutive MC so I have been advised not to TTC before having my first appointment at the recurrent miscarriage unit... BUT I am 41 and part of me feels that I don't have the luxury of waiting (who knows when I would get the appointment through).
So then I was thinking that I would wait one cycle so that I would have an AF and be sure of dates - I was unsure of dates when I had my 1st MC which made an already stressful time even worse.
BUT now I'm thinking of just trying asap... I'm also finished bleeding I think (fingers crossed) and feel OK physically now. Emotionally I'm up and down like a yoyo - hormones are not my friend - but I really do think maybe I should just get on with it.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Cake I think I'll come and join that thread...

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