I keep seeing references to cervices feeling big / small / hard / difficult to reach etc in relation to ovulation.
I'm a body-positive type: no issues being naked at the swimming pool, have attempted use of a mooncup on more than one occasion, at ease with my own fanjo kind of thing. I never thought until now that I am in fact a pearl-clutching couch-fainter when faced with the possibility of intimate self-knowledge, but I absolutely cannot locate my cervix never mind work out what it should feel like.
Question for the cervix-strokers: is there a knack to finding it? Are my fingers abnormally short or my vagina abnormally long, if I can't seem to locate it? And second question, what do the variations actually mean?
I think it can differ a bit for everyone, as women do come in different shapes and sizes. It is possible that you have a very long vagina/extremely short fingers and won't be able to access it, but you should be able to find it - especially during the parts of your cycle when it is sitting low down.
The best position for finding it is to squat down, and then if you still can't feel it - the fairly firm smoother bit (could be rounded or sort of conical) with the dimpled bit poking down between squishier vaginal walls - try gently bearing down like you're trying to push your finger out of your vagina. If that doesn't bring the cervix into groping range then nothing will.
I think generally speaking if the cervix is low and hard and maybe even a little dry that indicates that it isn't a fertile time. But when it goes high (possibly even out of reach when it isn't usually) the dimple (the opening) in it may feel larger and more open, the cervix will probably soften and feel very moist - due to the ewcm no doubt - and that generally indicates fertility.