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Should we try again? Please help x

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JessicaD21 Mon 03-Feb-14 18:37:31

Hello everyone, please help me i need outside perspective on mine and my husbands situation.

I had an extremely traumatic birth with my daughter Tilly now 22 months, forceps, prolonged pushing, episiotomy, Severe hemmorrage, needed surgery for birth related problems when Tilly was 6 months old. SO after that i was very much in a thats our job lot frame of mind; my daughter was totally worth everything i went through but choosing to put myself back in that situation just seemed nuts HOWEVER as many of us do when Tilly reached 1 me and hubby started getting broody and decided to try again with a c section agreed with my gyno for medical reasons we were feeling positive. We where very lucky and got pregnant within the first month of trying and had our 12 week scan a couple of weeks ago to discover a missed miscarriage we were and still are devastated i had the D&C op to remove the pregnancy which i am currently recovering from. My question is after all of this do we try again? I know it might be early to be asking myself this question but if were not going to i just want to put it to bed and move on. Me and hubby are both desperate for a small age gap between our babies should we have a second and therefore if we where going to try again would think about trying in a couple of months. Thank you for taking the time to read this thoughts would be appreciated xx

MolotovCocktail Mon 03-Feb-14 18:44:28

Absolutely yes. Try again smile

Wait until you're ready, though.

Fwiw, we ended up with a 3.2yr gap between dd1 and dd2: not the small gap I wanted. However, for us it is perfect. We arr currently considering a 3rd dc and this is now the minimum gap I'd want smile

(Incidentally, dd2 was born by ELCS and it was superb).

MabelMay Mon 03-Feb-14 19:44:14

My penny's worth: go for it! I think you might regret it otherwise.

I'm so sorry to hear of your MMC - it's devastating. I had two MCs last year. It will of course make any subsequent pregnancy a more anxious time for you, but it will be worth it when you hold that little babe in your arms, as I'm sure you will some day soon.

Best of luck.

J0ey Mon 03-Feb-14 20:44:42

Yes try again, a miscarriage is devastating, but doesn't wipe out that desire you felt for another.

Whatever you do, don't make any big decisions until you've had time to come to terms with the mc. X

naty1 Tue 04-Feb-14 10:04:51

I would give it a go. It is unlikely to happen again.
(Doing icsi again with 20m old DD already.)
I wish i could have ELSC as forceps and episiotomy and back to back labour

Tranquilitybaby Tue 04-Feb-14 11:28:38

You should try again, you clearly want to but can totally understand your fears. I hope your next pregnancy is an easy one, you deserve it x

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