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Conception

Support thread for those TTC after Vasectomy Reversal

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CosyTeaBags · 18/12/2013 13:49

I've just started a thread for anyone who is TTC after a VR - I wasn't sure whether to post here in Conception, or over on Infertility - so here it is:

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It would be lovely to hear from anyone who is in a similar position.

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Lpid2014 · 21/01/2014 10:46

Hi CosyTeaBags

My partner had a Vr on 16/1/14. Surgeon was pleased with everything and in his words it was easy to repair

His recovery is going well but obviously too soon to share any stories with you
Wish u all the luck in the world x

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CosyTeaBags · 06/02/2014 10:43

Hi Lpid excellent news that your partner's VR went well. I hope he's still taking it easy and not lifting anything heavy!

We had our SA results a few weeks ago, we had excellent sperm count and motility, so I'm thrilled. DPs VR was considered a straightforward op with no complications too, so hopefully you'll have some good results as well.

I haven't conceived yet, and it's starting to do my head in, but I'm trying to be patient. After all, I'm lucky to even be in the position to ttc eh!

Good luck to you too x

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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 06/02/2014 10:50

dp had a VR in november and the surgeon was really pleased with how it went, he has his first SA next week.

Like you cosy im trying to be patient as feel lucky we are in a position to have even had the VR (mil payed for it) but am getting really frustrated that it hasnt happened yet, im not known for my patience

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CosyTeaBags · 06/02/2014 11:05

My DPs VR was in March. We delayed having the SA because we were scared... (or I was anyway).

So it's actually been 10 months since his op. However, I'm assuming his swimmers wouldn't have been right up to speed straight away? So even though we've been trying since April, I'm trying not to get too downhearted about that. I think I've read somewhere that they can take a few months to get back to working order, and that they can continue to improve.

So his SA was in December, and the results were excellent (12 years post vasectomy, and his SA was more than double the national average!).

FWIW we have been trying to follow the 'healthy sperm diet' that the surgeon recommended and he also takes Zinc tables when he remembers.

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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 06/02/2014 11:12

Dp is taking zinc

Im so glad you said you were scared im absoloutly terrified and had considered suggesting we waited for the SA. He has to have one at 3mths and 6mths.

He was 5 years 7mths post vasectomy so the surgeon was very optimistic and I keep telling myself to be positive but its so hard

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hopefulgum · 06/02/2014 11:30

Hi. Just wanted to drop in and share my positive experience. My DH had a VR 7 years after vasectomy. We conceived our DS after 7 months ttc. His SA was very good 3 months post VR. We were older parents, so really pleased it worked. I was 41 when I conceived and DH was 48.

Since then I have had three other pregnancies, but all ended in miscarriage, which has been put down to my age ( I am now 47), not the reversal.

All the best to you and your partners. My DS is 8 years younger than his older sister and he is the best thing that has happened to us all. I do hope you will have your long for baby. TTC is hard work, but so worthwhile.

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CosyTeaBags · 06/02/2014 11:34

I was petrified, because it was 'the moment of truth'

We were eligible for SA 3 months post reversal, but put it off, and put it off... I kept asking DP to make the appointment, he kept being 'too busy to take time off work' to go and have it done (the clinic was a long way from us, so we had to take a full day to go and do it), and I didn't push it because I had my head in the sand.

I kept hoping that we would just get a BFP before having to test. But eventually, the anxiety of not knowing was too much and we got on with booking the appointment.

I had imagined every scenario possible for the results, but hadn't quite imagined them being so good! It was a massive, massive relief.

It's also good to know that you've been recommended to have two SAs 3 months apart. That supports my theory that the sperm might not be at optimum quality at 3 months, and there's still room for improvement - so the fact that we didn't conceive in those first few months might just mean that he wasn't firing on all cylinders just yet.

It doesn't help me from wondering why it still hasn't happened 10 months on, but I'll just have to try and be patient.

Ironically, one thing I kept saying before DP had the VR was that I just wanted a chance to ttc like normal people. Now that we've been doing that for a while, and it's doing my head in, I realize it's equally as stressful!

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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 06/02/2014 11:35

hopefulglum its good to hear a positive story although im sorry about your miscarriages

I have 2 step children 10 and 15 so there will be a big gap between them and their new sibling

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CosyTeaBags · 06/02/2014 11:36

Oh hopeful thank you for sharing your story!

That does give me hope, so pleased it worked out for you. Sorry to hear about your mcs though. But wonderful that you had your DS

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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 06/02/2014 11:39

Thats exactly what I said, I just want to say we tried, if itdoesnt work then I can live with saying we tried but cant live with not trying.

Now im not so sure I feel like ive become obsessed every month I imagine early pregnancy symptoms then my period starts and I promise myself that next month ill just forget about it but of course I dont. Part of me cant wait for the SA because at least then ill know but I really am scared it hasnt worked.

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CosyTeaBags · 06/02/2014 11:40

My DP has no previous children. He was 25 and unmarried when they performed the original vasectomy on him. What doctor in their right mind thinks that's ok? How many unmarried 25 year olds do you know who really really want kids?!

When we were having the pre-op consult with the surgeon, he asked DP "And how old are your previous children" because it's a natural assumption to make. When I told him the above he was a little but then regained his composure and said "I hear all sorts here"

It still makes me angry, but DP just says it was the right choice at the time because he and his future wife did not want kids and thank god they didn't have any.

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CosyTeaBags · 06/02/2014 11:48

smiling I could have written your last post word for word. That is exactly how I felt and am feeling still.

I had a huge battle to persuade DP to have the reversal, because he was so adamant he never wanted children. I left him, then he realized how stupid he was being, and now he wants a child very very much.

But I had to decide whether to take him back, and try on the chance that it might never work - or to leave him and take my chances with no guarantee that I'd find anyone else. I love DP very much and it took me a long time (into my early 30s) to find someone I was so happy with, so I had to accept that it might not work but at least we will have tried. I knew that I could never live with never having tried, it would have eaten away at me. (I actually had an amazing thread here on MN supporting me in that decision, different username!)

But now, excellent results in hand, we have as good a chance as any other normal couple. So pleased we did it.

As for you being scared it hasn't worked - don't worry, if the surgeon was optimistic, it was only 5 years post vasectomy, and he presumably found no real problems during the VR, then you have every chance.

Good luck and do keep us posted on your results!