Anyone trying for no 3?(238 Posts)
Going to start trying for a third in August, I already have a dd10 and a ds7. I don't mind a boy or a girl but if I could choose I would choose a girl as still have all dd gorgeous little dresses and cardigans don't know what happened to ds clothes!
Anyone else mad enough to try for a third??
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Hi Nordicmom, it's all gone a bit quiet on here recently. Welcome!
I had a MMC between my two which they think happened at 10+2 so understand the heartache, but haven't been through that the number of times you have. It sounds like you've been through a huge amount, and I understand the 'just one more / not finished yet feeling'
We've been trying half heartedly since August (only getting into gear once a month).
I'm in the 2WW just and we've managed at days 8, 10 and 12, my cycle is only 26 days so we'll see where we get this month.
I'm 37 and DH is 39. Our two DSs are almost 6 and almost 3.
Hopefully a few more will drop back in :-) or give us some pg updates.
Can I join? We've just started TTC 3 . Am 38 y (DH 34) and have a DS nearly 9 y and DD 19m . Long story short had DS quickly with no problems but DD took 5y and was in the end born via gestational surrogate from our egg and sperm after I had 10 early mc and developed a chronic illness. Now after 5y break from trying naturally just feel like I'm not done and actually have just managed to convince dh ( I'm surprised ) and want to see if things are still the same (conceived easily but always mc) before moving on to other methods like ivf on myself which i never tried and possibly more surrogacy. I must be mad putting myself through this again but just don't feel we're done and don't want regrets later . Also now that i know it's possible at least via surrogacy feel more positive. It'll be a long road for us if it ever works out . God i feel so tired now , i don't know how i'd manage if it by miracle worked soon since dd would only be 2+ and she's a handful , ds is a picnic compared to her;0.
Anyway here we go again lovely 2ww! i feel like I've done this a thousand times . Best of luck to all and congrats to the ones now happily expecting !!!
Well, I got AF yesterday, so off we go again, but I think this month we're going to make a concerted effort as we've only SWI'd at the most twice a month since August, and both DS1 and DS2 were the results of more concerted efforts ;-) Mr Bunny will be pleased!
Sparky - Any news yet?
Orange - Sorry to hear BFN
ELR - Fingers crossed for 2WW
Dines - Congrats
Here's to some lovely early Christmas presents!
I've worked out that I should be able to test just before Mr Bunny's works party, and a week before my Team and Departmental do's, so won't have to worry about getting tiddly and unknowingly PG.
iv been trying for baby no 3 since end of august. im now 6 weeks pregnant! wasnt expecting it to happen so soon.
oo sounds good elr! Af heeded my plea and arrived this pm.
Out for the night on Friday so at least I can get tiddly now.
On with cycle 2 of ttc no 3 then. Dh has a work trip planned for cd 12-14.. Am working on getting him to rearrange it already
Hi orange sorry it's a bfn but hoping it's too early to test! The inlaws were fine they didn't arrive till lunchtime and DH was working from home so managed to dtd in the morning on cd12 had ewcm on cd13/14 so think I ovulated then. Hoping dtd on cd12 will have been enough! Have been ill wih vertigo and feeling sick since Thursday so that's making the 2ww speed up a bit as no time for symptom spotting.
BFN this am - boo! I now want af to arrive very quickly and go away again very quickly so we can try again!
I get ovulation pains so although I use opks (I like to poas!)I generally know. We travel a bit for work and it seems to coincide a lot with ov so Dtd not easy here either!
Af due tomorrow. Will poas with fmu!
How were inlaws ELR?
Hi all, is anyone else finding it difficult to find the time to dtd?
It's a nightmare, as my kids are older they aren't in bed till 9ish and then often not asleep until 9.30pm. Managed to do it on cd10 and then last night cd11 but then hubby could not finish the job as it was nearly midnight and he was shattered! Don't think we will get a chance now again until Sunday as we have the inlaws arriving tonight for dd birthday tomorrow.
Really strange too but usually my boobs are really tender on about cd14/15 which coupled with eWcm indicates I've ovulated. But this month boobs were super tender yesterday morning cd 11 do you think I could of ovulated early?
I had totally forgotten that the 2ww lasts approximately 6 months! Urgh! 6 dpo and trying not to symptom spot.
I have two dds both under 4 and quite a big job. Wanting a third child is utterly illogical but I think if I don't do it I'll regret it hugely in the future...
Hi everyone, last month wasn't meant to be, and I think we need to be a bit more serious about getting it on more than one or twice.
CD12 here of a 25 day cycle..
Sparky, 2 boys here too, 5 & 2, and I keep thinking about the sleepless nights versus my two little sound sleepers at the moment.
DH very broody too, so very supportive.
Good luck everyone, and congrats the recent BFPs. :-)
I'm in the 2ww also due to test 10th nov although I'm sure to try a sneaky ic before then. Impatience is my middle name, and if not successful this month I will be impatient to get af out of the way so we can try again!
Hey sparky! Welcome and good luck!
I am now in the 2ww. Feels a bit weird..!
Hi all, We have two amazing boys 8 and 9 and now trying for number 3. I find it so strange that trying for a baby is soo stressful I think the fact that I'm 10 years older is adding to the stress. Good luck everybody and congratulations to all those who got their bfp.
And lots of Brie and sushi. Got to get it in before the bfp!
On cd12 now, Dtd yesterday and also plan to on cd14 - my birthday! We seem to spend a lot of time talking about having three kids now, which is nice. Just got to make one now...
Bad luck ELR, may next month be your month. Until then, you deserve a very nice drink.
Hi all, well I'm out for another month just hot my period! Was a day late this month with quite a few symptoms so was getting hopeful. Oh well looks like another month I can drink!!
Orange sounds like a good birthday present!
Nutcracker I agree to go for it, your body will do it whenever it's ready, and that could be this month!
As for me, my boobs are very tender and I still have a few days to go until AF due. So we'll wait and see :-)
Thanks everyone for being so welcoming, I am so glad to have found you all!
Firstly, Gru congratulations and I hope all goes well with your pregnancy!
hands I am so sorry to hear your news. I hope you are okay
It's just really shit, I know.
And thanks for the words of wisdom re cycles bunny... basically I had bleeding for about 3 days after ERPC and then it stopped entirely. Then roughly a week later after bleeding had stopped I felt crampy and moody like AF was on it's way and I had what seemed like a normal AF bleed... so we DTD about a couple of times around 10 to 14 days later... I know you're perhaps not meant to try to conceive again until you've had your first 'proper' AF but we thought we'd try anyway!
I really really really want my third baby and I hope everyone on this thread is able to have theirs too.
Oh, hands, I'm so sorry to hear that. Look after yourself.
Good luck for this month bunny!
AF arrived last night. Have just worked out that CD14 (ov normally 14/15) is my birthday! That would be a nice present
Hi Ladies, haven't been here since 29th Aug. Still want #3, but #1 and #2 keep us quite busy, but not as busy in the bedroom.
Nutcracker and Handsfull, I am so sorry for your losses, exactly the same thing happened to me with a little one that would have been between my two sons. I found out that they had gone at the 12 week scan and they think he/she was 10 weeks and 2 days old, it was a missed miscarriage but I had an instinct all wasn't right as the symtoms of pregnancy disappeared all at once a week before the scan. Be kind to yourselves, it took me by surprise how devastating that loss is and I still grieve for that little one now, and wonder what they're doing, watching over us.
On the period thing, my hormones were really messy afterwards and it took 3 months for my cycle to normalise, I had breakthrough bleeding, and the cervix must be a bit open afterwards as there was a spot of blood each time I ovulated, but the womb lining wasn't up to the job. It's worth diarising the dates so you can get a handle on the cycle as it normalises. The good news is that following the first normal period, I was pregnant, and that resulted in #2 who was a healthy, bouncing 2 week overdue 10lb'er, so the waiting is horrible as you've just suffered the worst loss, but I can tell you that it will settle down, and you're normal cycle will push through.
I am so sorry for your losses, and all I can imagine is both those perfect souls were too good for this world. That was what I thought of my little one.
We've only DTD once this month on CD10 but my cycles are 25-6 days long and both DS1 & DS2 were conceived early on. I've still got 9 days to AF, but raised an eyebrow when having my waxing as it only hurt on the right side. And I've been getting some period pains on that side too. Though it could be just my imagination that is fertile.
Congrats to Gru too, and let others take the Brie
handsful so sorry to hear that. I hope you are taking care of yourself, don't rush there is plenty of time. Grieving is a process and courage will come somewhere down the line.
wifegru congrats bet you are in shock!
I'm so sorry you have been through the same nutcracker. And gru, yay! Take it easy.
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