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Is anybody currently trying for their first baby?

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edward49582 Mon 22-Jul-13 19:13:51

Sorry if there's already a thread on this smile I couldn't find one.

I am 32, nearly 33 (gulp!) years old and have been trying for our first since June, although we messed that cycle up a bit so July is the first month of 'really' trying. We feel the time is right now as are settled into jobs (had a rough couple of years but came through it stronger) have no mortgage on our (small!) home and desperately want a child to bring into our lives.

Very, very broody at the moment and also a spring or early summer baby would fit beautifully with maternity leave! But I'd take a baby any time, any place!

bushprincess Sun 28-Jul-13 22:20:35

Hi all! also TTC #1 and only on the first go.... having thought i would be totally chilled about the whole thing , as soon as DH and I decided to have s go i''ve been googling like mad, checking out calendars and generally going a bit loopy! Now on the 2 week wait for .AF ...or hopefully glad I'm not alone!,
Good luck everyone! And sorry about any typos, still getting used to my new tablet thingy!

RevoltingPeasant Sun 28-Jul-13 22:53:15

Oh yeah, started AF today so waiting another two weeks to be cracking again now...

Pipbin Sun 28-Jul-13 22:58:12

Ladies, I've not read much of the thread here but do come and join us on the Elderberry Pavlova thread.
It's open to woman over 30 trying for number 1 and have been trying for more than 3 months or so.
Sounds like we are very dictatorial but we are lovely really.

We are here:

Nottalotta Mon 05-Aug-13 17:03:44

Ugh. AF appeared today so i'm out til next time!

Monstamio Mon 05-Aug-13 17:59:10

Sorry to hear that Nottalotta Hope you don't feel too down about it and AF gets out of the way quickly so you can start looking to next month.

I think I'm ovulating today - I had a positive OPK yesterday, falling again today and also EWCM yesterday and today. High cervix too. (Though I don't get ovulation pains - is that just me?).

DTD on Friday night and Sunday morning. Planning to jump DH tonight too if possible, though I don't think either of us are enjoying the pressure of sex to a schedule. But then again doing it every other day for the whole month is a definite no no, so we're trying to be a bit strategic about things!

Anyone else approaching the dreaded 2ww..?

Nottalotta Mon 05-Aug-13 21:22:21

I'm fine actualky,.thank you monstemio better now af is here rather than fretting like i was before. I thought it unlikely given having only had one af since coming off the jab and no idea when i ovulate. I hope for things to settle into a pattern over the next couple of months.

Maybe if it was several months down the line i would worry more.

Can you tell me more about opks? Are they wee wee sticks? How often do you do it? Thank you.

Nottalotta Mon 05-Aug-13 21:22:51

Oh and good luck!

Monstamio Wed 07-Aug-13 16:02:43

Hey sorry for being so slow in coming back... Yep OPKs (Ovulation Predictor Kits) are sticks like a home pregnancy test you use to try to determine when you are going to ovulate. They're a bit hit and miss and take some getting used to (especially the cheap internet ones that I use!) but are pretty helpful.

Essentially they measure the levels of luteinizing hormone (LH) in your urine. Women have a certain amount of this hormone in their bodies naturally but experience a surge once a month which is what triggers your ovary to release an egg. When the stick detects this surge and gives a positive result you are likely to ovulate within 12 to 36 hours. So it gives a bit of a timescale for when to dtd, especially when combined with cervical fluid charting etc.

It's not an exact science, so can't be relied upon absolutely - it's easy to miss a surge for example or start dtd too late. And it doesn't tell you whether you actually have ovulated, only doing body temping can tell you that (which I haven't quite graduated to yet as it's a bit of an involved process!).


Monstamio Wed 07-Aug-13 16:07:58

Sorry - didn't answer all your questions.

I usually start checking from around cycle day 9. This month - for example - I got negatives on days 9-13, forgot to do it on day 14 (which was stupid), but picked up a surge at both 10am and 2pm on day 15. By day 16 which is when my app predicted I would be ovulating anyway (based on cycle length) the line was getting fainter again suggesting the surge had passed.

The stupid thing about missing day 14 is that I now don't know whether the surge started then or the following day (as it can last anything from 1-3 days). But I dtd on days 13 and 15 anyway so hopefully covered it off.

The advice (unlike with a pg test) is not to use first morning urine but to test mid morning onwards, as the surge starts in the morning so might not show up in your first pee of the day!

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