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TTC and under 23 am I the only one?

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bebebuttons2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:46:09

Just want to know if there are any other younguns out there ttc aswell? I'm 18 and just come off the cerazette pill, which I've heard is hard to get pregnant after stopping, so I'm coming off early as I want a baby young, pref before 20. I'll be Nineteen by the time the baby is born if I conceive this month. Don't want criticism just want to see if there is anyone in a similar boat to me:D

lyndsey90 Wed 06-Feb-13 14:00:05

I've been TTC since June last year smile

lyndsey90 Wed 06-Feb-13 14:01:04

And I was also on the Cerazette pill, I stopped it in May '12 as it was causing anxiety and so me and my OH decided, well... Might as well start TTC then!

bebebuttons2 Wed 06-Feb-13 16:36:26

haha thankyou and so I presume DD mean's dear daughter! never thought I'd be the last to pick up slang with a group of 20 year olds haha. How times change.

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 16:58:18

heres a list of them all - - extremely helpful, when i first saw them all it was like hieroglyphics!

lyndsey - i found i had problems with any type of hormone shift, i feel your pain! i hope you get a positive next time you test!

locketjuice - amazing! that's great news - how long were you ttc for?

anyone due for a test soon?

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 17:00:18

oh and loves - if I'm ever with my friends 3 year old daughter i get the most soul destroying looks - i look about 17 at most - couldn't believe it! that's really good you were able to prove everyone wrong, and good luck with ttc number 4!

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 17:15:40

I don't think it really matters what age you are, but I think if you are going to be a parent it is fairly important to be independent and self sufficient. I have colleagues who couldn't pay their mortgage so moved back in with their parents and found it hard being their parents child again whilst trying to parent their toddler.

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 17:23:36

Also, I thing things are changing with university etc. in the past it would be best to go and get a degree etc first and have a bit of a career, but now it is sometimes better to have children then pursue a career. I have a friend who has three dc and then did a graduate medicine course and is now training to be a gp. That way round was much better for me. My problem is that I think I have landed on my feet with my job, so feel obliged to go back so I don't loose my post. It has a lot of benefits that I might not get in other jobs, so although the first few years would be hell, I think it would be worth it long term. I have choices and hubby's salary would cover us if I wanted to be a sahm, but I don't think I am ready for that. I don't know how many children we will have but obviously finances will play a part in making that decision. If I go back to work it gives me more choices in the future. Unfortunately childcare is astronomical!!!

Locketjuice Wed 06-Feb-13 17:25:46

Wasn't on anything from when I had my first because of random heavy bleeding etc and wasnt using condoms so technically 11 months but we said if it happened it happened but if it didn't we weren't disheartened as my boy is still small, just happened at a good time when he was 11 months so very happy grin clever bean grin

Good luck to all you trying, being a young mum is no different to being an older mum... We all get stressed/tired/grumpy at times just part and parcel of sleepless nights and early mornings wink

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 17:31:33

skinny - totally agree!

also i can see how your job would be huge in influencing things! would be tough to jeopardise that situation then know you possibly haven't got something to go back to at the same level as you had, especially when they're school age, you seem like you're quite driven and couldn't sit around all day if they were at school!

i think we're quite lucky in respect to work because in our business we can just work from home so it makes it a lot easier because we are our own bosses, and it definitely influenced us ttc or i don't think we would have for a long time if we were going out to work etc - means we can both chip in with work and childcare although i imagine it'll be him working and me doing the childcare mainly but he'll still be around - and i won't feel like I'm not contributing to our business as essentially all we do is send emails haha.

lovesthechaos3 Wed 06-Feb-13 18:22:08

Thanks Grotbagz, I still get funny looks now, I look about 16 lol! There is/should be a pic on my profile of me with my boys, I got asked if I was their big sister a few months back! People shouldn't pass judgement, there is nothing saying that older women are better mums!

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 19:05:53

You do look young enough to be their sister haha! They all look adorable though so hopefully you'll get your positive soon so you can bring some more adorableness into the world!

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 20:06:21

Lovethechaos......I love your picture. So sweet. You are blessed. I think I need to admit I've just had half and hour picturing my perfect nursery. Oh dear. Must not do anything until I am pregnant is my mantra.

setayharas Wed 06-Feb-13 20:23:37

Evening ladies! So my cat has decided to be sick on the spare room bed. I'm seriously considering chucking the bed and buying a cot in its place haha. Would it be. But early for that lol?

I don't think age matters at all, if I'd met oh earlier I'd probably have bought my house sooner as grown up sooner. Jut so happened I didn't and it's only now that I feel I couldn't be a decent parent. I on the other hand have a friend who was 17 when she had a first although she is now a single mum and struggles she is a brilliant mum.

It's when your ready not when everyone thinks your ready.

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 20:29:26 don't live in Devon, do you?

Skinnywhippet Wed 06-Feb-13 20:35:43

Sorry, setayharas.nthink I got you confused with someone else!

setayharas Wed 06-Feb-13 20:54:54

Haha nah I don't, I'm in essex. Would much rather be in devon if I

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 20:57:07

setay cats are my favourite little fluffy things in the world - but they are just arses aren't they. mine likes to roll around on me, but only if I'm wearing white (he is black), he also sort of moos (no joke) at you if he enters a room as if to say 'i am here, you may be seated'. whats your kitty's name?

although because you mentioned it as an excuse to buy a cot, i am wondering if it really was the kitty... hahaha

setayharas Thu 07-Feb-13 16:41:59

haha i promise it was the kitty!! hes names domino and got hes brother denver. the pains of my life haha i live surrounded by muddy paw prints.when i do have a baby they are gonna hate me i just know! specially when they loose there room!

how about yours name?

grotbagz Thu 07-Feb-13 17:00:28

Mines called Nicholas - I was an odd child, got him when I was 5 and for some reason decided it was appropriate...

Haha oh the paw prints - you hear rain and know they're going to be everywhere! When I was a baby I was inseparable from my mums cat - maybe yours will be like that too!!

ThedementedPenguin Sat 09-Feb-13 11:32:09

Hello everyone. I started reading this thread a few says ago, so im not sure if ive read it all but will reread when i get home.

I'm 22. I have a son who is nearly 5 months old, I'm not currently ttc, but we are talking about it. I would like to have a baby sometime between April-July which means ds would be 18-21 months. I can't help feel I'm crazy, or if ill be able to cope. So I would ideally come off the pill in a few months in the hope if getting pregnant.

I don't want to have a baby this year as I feel it would be far too close together.

We haven't told anybody that we are thinking about this.

Skinnywhippet Mon 11-Feb-13 19:30:14

Are we all taking plain folic acid, or some of those pregnancy tablets with folic included? Have you cut anything else out. I haven't bothered as dont drink a lot of tea, don't smoke and rarely drink anyway......

grotbagz Mon 11-Feb-13 20:11:46

Hi penguin! I would say only go for it if you're sure, but if you and your partner decide you are and can afford/cope with having another baby then why not!

skinny I take the pregnacare conception ones - well I did I'm having a break due to recent events but will start taking again once I'm all healed! I'm cutting down smoking - started again after mc - but have the day set as Wednesday to quit completely - I haven't cut anything else out, but doing a bunch of exercise as much as I can before I start trying again so my body's used to it by the time I'm pg again - dont wanna be unfit for that, and like you I rarely drink! I'm just trying to eat healthy - I'm finding it hard - I'm a skinny junk food bin...

Skinnywhippet Sun 03-Mar-13 16:34:36

How are we all? Did first 'baby making sex' at the weekend as implant is now out. Full steam ahead.....

Madratlady Sun 03-Mar-13 18:00:42

I'm taking folic acid. My GP also mentioned vitamin D but I haven't got round to getting any yet.

I don't smoke and rarely drink, but I have 1 or 2 energy drinks a day. I work shifts so I need then to get through a night shift. I should probably cut them out on day shifts?/days off though.

Sarahb8990 Sun 03-Mar-13 19:17:12

Hi everyone, I'm 24 iI met my dh when we was 11 an had first child at 18, I had everyone telling me I was too young, it won't last etc and as I turns out we are now married and are tryin for #2 I have pcos so it's a lot harder and was told that i might not even be able to concieve another as its so bad :-( im not losing hope tho and have recently been started on clomid which is helping :-) hopefully get a bfp soon :-) good luck everyone with your ttc journey :-)

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