Drwhofan sorry, who 'had a go' at the overweight ladies on here? More to the point, who said you or anyone else wouldn't be a good mother? All the advice on here has been constructive and friendly but unfortunately the OP and others have been aggressive in their reactions. If anyone's been had a go at, I think it's me strangely enough.
OP you are entitled to whatever you want to do, but to let you know in advance HC professionals don't always take kindly to obese expectant mothers. It's wrong because nobody deserves unkind treatment, but consultants and particularly midwives aren't always private about their thoughts. I say this as a former HC professional myself. It's harder work caring for and monitoring an overweight person, and can take up very valuable time that could be spent equally on other patients. A lot of the time, high risk pregnancies in obese ladies have to be closely monitored and the delivery may be accompanied by other senior members of staff. It's something to consider IMO.
I think the issue is waynetta that the person started this thread for herself and people like her to meet and chat. Not to debate whether it is the right thing it not. Everyone has their own opinions on obesity and ttc and I have viewed it from both sides, but this is the wrong place to discuss it.
"Waynetta what circumstances do you think are necessary to make it responsible to try and conceive?"
Well not being obese is one of them in case you hadn't already noticed. Someone with health problems through no fault of their own is different although obviously not ideal if no family support etc but I don't like these comparisons between those who have health problems and those who are in bad shape/health purely as a result of their lifestyle habits. It's all pretty much common sense if we take all the pussyfooting around out: not great TTC if you have the opportunity to get healthier for the benefit of you and your childs future.
Waitingtobeamummy As I've said now twice before, any previous advice was friendly and constructive. Due to the OP's over reaction, and also her provocative questions, it has turned into a debate. Mumsnet is not a private area for some and some may I remind you, so just because the OP put the nice "NO SKINNY MINNIE'S PLEASE" in her title, doesn't exclude anyone from joining a conversation.
its supposed to be abit of fun for fat lasses who want a moan and twist, we are under enough stress from "health professionals" as it is to lose weight AND ttc, so thank you for being so friendly with your advice, im no longer posting on here as hav started a new thread to give a bit more support to those ladies of the larger persuasion
Well instead of trying to ignore the pressure from health professionals and trying to have exclusive threads, maybe you should actually take some advice and stop berating anyone who doesn't agree with your choices. This is a big reason why HC workers dislike parts of their job..having to see same people day in day out who are too busy having a 'moan' rather than actively doing something about their health. It drains the NHS like a leech and spreads staff too thinly. That's worth considering but is a whole new thread that I'm not going to bother to start. Evening and goodnight.
Hadn't visited this thread for a while but blimey..... I am a little heavier than I ideally want to be TTC and this is a minimal worry on top of a variety of non-ideals which have made life stressful. As a result I have turned to mumsnet at times as a place to share experiences and support others who feel the same as me. The reason I haven't posted earlier today is because I have been out dog walking (healthy choice) and supporting my sil who has serious health problems but is still desperate to be a mum. I see things I disagree with or that I cannot empathise with on here all the time but it is my choice to contribute where I find it helpful or think I may be able to help others. This thread seems pretty negative.
Here's a positive.... I weighed myself this evening and have lost 6 lbs since making a conscious effort to walk more. I nearly cried with relief when I read the scales and realised my efforts were paying off. This last two years have been so hard!!
I may be fat but still bloody exercise - you can be fat and fit and I dont recall draining many resources with my lardy arse! I am considered obese but go to around 5-6 exercise classes a week and can run after the kids perfectly well.
Thank you to all who reported this thread to us. We have had a look and removed a few personal attacks.
Can we please remind folks of our Talk guidelines and can we also remind folks that Mumsnet is a forum for peer-to-peer advice and support - anyone can post on any thread with their opinions on differing subjects as long as they are respectful of others (sometimes very) different opinions.