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HopefulFairy Wed 16-Jan-13 20:58:35

Good morning (evening) Miss/Mrs MummyToBe!

I don't know about you, but I'm finding it hard to balance teaching+TTC. Too tired to DTD as often as I think I probably should be+so overwhelmed with the job that I'm filled with lots of negative thoughts+feelings all the time sad

Everyone keeps telling me that I need to be less stressed if I want to conceive but find that an impossibility.....unless I resign!!

Any other teachers out there feel like this?

Skinnywhippet Mon 04-Feb-13 20:39:11

Hello! I phoned up GP and booked for my implanon to come out during half term. Couldn't stop smiling after doing that! Feeling terrified and don't even know if we will start TTC immediately but like having the option. I'm at the stage of wanting and family and seeing myself with a child in a few years time, but terrified about the pregnancy part.

Skinnywhippet Mon 04-Feb-13 20:40:14

Also, meant to say, don't have a clue what I should be doing apart from folic acid. I went and ordered that off amazon! I suppose just eat healthily and dtd.

BeQuicksieorBeDead Mon 04-Feb-13 21:03:18

Delilah could it possibly be implantation spotting and cramps? When I was pregnant last year it started with very strong symptoms which went away as implantation kicked in, then symptoms came back about 48 hours later. The pregnancy didn't get beyond 3 months, but I don't think it was anything to do with the first few weeks.

loves I am starting acupuncture this week! I can't wait. I googled and looked at a few websites, I think it is best to look for someone who specialises in fertility issues. I will let you know how I get on, mine are £36 per hour and she sent me a huge form to fill in with lots of information.

Laura I had a maths observation today! We seem to go in cycles - one year you are in the 'good' book, and get goods and outstandings, the next year you are in the 'pull your socks up' book and get satisfactory (not satisfactory). After a super shite year last year, I am glad to be back on the not naughty list!

sparkle in my opinion, don't wait. I used to think I could plan the month of my child's birth! TTC is not easy and it can take ages... If it happens straight away, you will find ways to cope. If it doesnt, you will be really glad you started earlier, as it gives you more options if you do need a bit of help with it all!

Hello to the new people on the thread.

Thatssofunny Mon 04-Feb-13 21:06:04

Sorry to read that deliah. Hope you'll be feeling better soon.

Laura, yours sounds like hell. I changed schools in September and struggled with the maths a little to begin with. However, adapted it, so it fits with what I am used to, combined with the guidelines given by my new school and my class are making very good progress. (My previous maths groups generally did..., first time I'm doing one-form entry, though.) I like teaching Maths! smile Hope your obs went well. The idea of constant evidence is driving me a little round the bend, tbh. My previous school was "outstanding" and we tried to move away from constant written evidence. I could go days without having anything in their books. Now, I have to try to get something in all the time...

My class are driving me insane at the moment. I've got some lovely children, but they make up about 1/3 of my class. Consequence is me being a very angry teacher. I'm counting down to the holidays and the possibility of trying again. Hate waiting. brew

ILoveMyCats Mon 04-Feb-13 22:17:16

Hello to new people! I've learnt so much here - read threads that catch your eye and ask questions! Everyone is so friendly.

Please do let me know about acupuncture, bequick, am very curious. Hope it goes well.

delilahbelle Tue 05-Feb-13 09:00:07

In for a beta HCG test later, and possibly another one on Thursday.
Saying that, I feel 99% sure I have had another chemical pregnancy. It's the one thing my body can do really well, kill embryos sad

In bed currently with my cats and a supply of chocolate.

marshmallowqueen Tue 05-Feb-13 16:08:22

delilahbelle glad that you are taking some time off to look after yourself. Let us know how the test goes, I will keep everything crossed that you are wrong about it being a chemical one. Hope your partner is giving you plenty of support too x x

delilahbelle Tue 05-Feb-13 16:48:57

Marshmallowqueen typically DH is working away until tomorrow, but he's been very good with regular texts.
Next blood test on Monday, couldn't be fit in any earlier. Then 3-4 working days after that to see how my beta levels go. Too much waiting.

Only a tiny bit more spotting today, still brown, but loads more cramps.

marshmallowqueen Tue 05-Feb-13 17:59:05

delilahbelle So sorry they couldn't get you sorted earlier. Waiting is the worst and this whole process is just one big waiting game it seems. Sorry that your DH is away, do you have any friends that know the situation that you could see or any family members? Hang in there, keep eating the chocolate and cuddling those cats. I know nothing will really take your mind off it but I always find trying to read something or watching some rubbish telly helps blocks things out a bit. Can you plan something nice to do with DH at the weekend?

LauraSmurf Tue 05-Feb-13 20:27:55

Oh Delilah I am so so sorry. I wish they're was simething I could say to make it better.

I am now in a state of confusion. My AF isn't due until Saturday but I have some bleeding today. Not alot but a mixture of brown and red blood. What does this mean?

ILoveMyCats Tue 05-Feb-13 23:19:48

Not sure, Laura. Can only suggest seeing if it continues tomorrow. If so, might be af, if not, wait til Saturday & poas. Sorry can't help much.

Cd 50 today......should I poas again? Last bfn on Sunday, haven't tested since.

biscuit for Delilah

Bearface Wed 06-Feb-13 10:52:00

Not sure either Laura - early AF? I really hope not for you. sad fingers crossed.

How are you feeling Delilah?

ILoveMyCats - yes go on POAS! How many have you done though? And are they ICs? Are your cycles normally that long? (Sorry - I know I should flick back but there's quite a few pages now!)

Had one of those days yesterday where I had training and felt like I was being taught to suck eggs, so they were wasting my time when I had better things to be getting on with like the 50 controlled assessments I needed to mark! Grrrr.

Had a bit of a wibble yesterday as I don't want to stay in my current school at all. I'm not on a permanent contract anyway, but I just know that I'll get a BFP and my ideal job will come up or vice versa. But I can't keep hanging on either as I'm not getting any younger. I wish it was all a bit easier with these life choices thingummy-stuff.

Hope everyone else is well and having a good day.

ILoveMyCats Wed 06-Feb-13 16:47:00

bearface, I've done 2 ICs, 2 FRERs and 2 CB digis - all bfn. Last one was on Sunday though and have been reading that it can take a few days for the hormones to develop even if af is late. I've now got a GP appointment for next Thursday in any case. My last two cycles were both 43 days, so although they are long, they had been consistent....
I hear you about job situ. There's a vacancy I want to apply for, but want to know if I'm pg first before I go declaring my intent at current school.... I know it wouldn't be the end of the world, if I had to withdraw applications and stay where I am, but I hate any messiness. I withdrew an application from this school in November as I wasnt well at the time, so don't want to mess them round again. Coming to the conclusion that you just have to do what needs doing and ttc in the background, iykwim.
What news laura? Hope it's good.

delilahbelle Wed 06-Feb-13 17:09:21

Hi bearface thanks for asking. Well I've not had any more spotting, but the increased progesterone should be keeping AF away. No idea whether I've had another chemical or not, and nothing to do except wait for my next beta-HCG and then the results. I am having a few v minr cramps, and my boobs are slightly sore again, but no other symptoms.
I'm staying off work - even though I'm physically fine, mentally and emotionally I'm not and I wouldn't be doing my classes any favours. I'm not even sending in cover work, told my HoD that it needed writing by them. Although I did finish writing my reports today.

ilovemycats I hope your Doctors appointment is useful. I know what you mean about job hunting. Although I am in a permanent post, I really want to leave my current school as I'm no longer happy there. There's lots of observations and pressure, and it seems to be about box ticking there now rather than education.

Laura was it AF arriving early? One thing that is guaranteed is the witch turning up when you don't want her.

ILoveMyCats Wed 06-Feb-13 18:05:22

Bfn sad. What is my body doing?? Going to do battle with the receptionist and get a GP appointment tomorrow. Am so fed up. Don't even care if I'm not pg, just want this cycle to end so that I can start the next one!

BeQuicksieorBeDead Wed 06-Feb-13 19:19:20

Hi Everyone,

loves and anyone else that is interested...I had the most amazing acupuncture session today. It was my first one and I was a bit sceptical about it, I am not in the slightest bit 'woo' (although I love a good ghost story!) but afterwards I felt like I do after about three weeks of the summer hols - really relaxed, like all my muscles had let go. I felt like a weight had been taken off my whole body, and I was quite emotional as I hadn't realised the tension I was carrying around.

The acupuncturist was shocked by my lack of work life balance but said loads of her clients are nurses and teachers. I am going back for more next week - it doesn't hurt, and it made me feel amazing, and I still do now, after an hour and a half of staff meeting!

I am hoping she can help me shorten my erratic cycles as they have been getting longer and longer...I went to my GP first for blood tests to rule out anything else, but they are all clear and the GP is saying STRESS in a big loud voice.

LauraSmurf Wed 06-Feb-13 21:06:12

Hi all, seems like everyone is doing ok this week. Probably the promise of half term!!

Well it's inconclusive if the spotting is AF with a very slow start, or inplantation. I am desperate for it to be implantation but trying so hard not to get my hopes up.

I am dreading tomorrow, I feel quite sick really, I have my lesson obs and the 3 friends from school who have all had theirs this week have had satisfactory or less and phoned up in tears. They all also had a staff meeting about how rubbish we are all being and how we need to do more. I just don't know how to give anymore. I get to meet with head tomorrow to get the bollocking the others did on Monday at staff meeting. I am so so stressed about tomorrow, I just want to cry and hide. Knowing my luck this spotting will develop into AF tomorrow too hmm

ILoveMyCats Wed 06-Feb-13 21:33:47

laura that's shit on all counts. We spend our lives trying to develop children and young people by being positive and supportive only to have our own efforts shot down in flames at every turn. Does anyone ever praise a teacher?? The only upside to your story sounds like the fact that you are not alone in your school. Could you arrange to meet your friends outside school for some support? Or agree to do something together to take your minds off it? Sending you lots of good thoughts for your obs.

Thanks for the acupuncture feedback, bequick. I'm still researching, but am determined to try it!
Night all

Bearface Wed 06-Feb-13 21:51:08

That sounds horrid Laura - you shouldn't have to go through this. It sounds to me like you and your colleagues might need to have a word with your union who might at least be able to advise you on how to deal with the SMT. Make sure you keep records of everything that happens as much as you can, just in case. It could be useful later on. Keep good records of your planning too so that you can prove what you have been doing. You shouldn't be put under so much pressure especially as you are doing your best. Also that kind of stress doesn't produce the desired results - everyone knows that. Sounds to me like they are pointing the fingers at everyone but themselves.

I agree with ILoveMyCats that you should try to go out and offload/support each other and come up with some coping strategies or a plan of action. Maybe try some acupucture???

Try to pretend they aren't there for your obs - this works for me. Also, you can only do your best - remember that. And be prepared to justify yourself and the decisions you make in the lesson in the feedback session. You'll be okay - don't cry. I really hope it goes well.

Delilah - I really hope you feel better soon too and can find out what's been going on.

BeQuick - acupuncture sounds good - might have to give it a go myself!

ILoveMyCats - hope that you find out what's going on soon too. I really hope you get your BFP.

I'm sending positive vibes to everyone. smile

delilahbelle Thu 07-Feb-13 07:54:38

laura good luck with your obs today. Half term soon, just focus on that.

bequick acupuncture sounds relaxing. I have a Zita west relaxation cd which has a similar effect on me, it makes you realise how stressed me get.

ilovemycats I hope your doctors appointment goes well today and you start getting some answers.

Anyway, I POAS and got a darker line this morning. Still no real symptoms to write home about though. Just waiting for the next blood test and results to see if its actually viable. Still off work, feel a big of a fraud, but this (possible) pregnancy is too important for me to risk for bottom set yr 11.

SuffolkNWhat Thu 07-Feb-13 08:18:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

marshmallowqueen Thu 07-Feb-13 18:16:06

laura how did it go today? Hope all well.

deliah stop feeling a fraud, this is the most important thing in your life right now, your classes will be alright x

ILoveMyCats Thu 07-Feb-13 18:18:20

How is everyone? thanks for your support.
Managed to to get a GP appointment today. I told her that af is 9 days late and poas is negative. Explained that although cycles are usually long, they have not been this long before. She said that as the sticks are v accurate, they do not normally do blood tests to confirm pg. I then told her that i've been feeling dizzy, sick and have been peeing a lot. She then got straight on the computer to order blood test! BUT, the lab does not let them do a HGC test for pg, only for tumours and ectopic pg. So I can't have it. She said several times that I could be pg and that the dizziness is due to that. She also said that i am not pg when i told her that i've done 6 test in the last 9 days. I said I was concerned by the dizziness & asked for thyroid function test, which she ordered along with full blood count. Asked about pcos, but she said it was too early in the process to look into that. She took my blood pressure, which was high. I have NEVER had high blood pressure!! Ended with me asking if I should test again in a week if no af. She agreed and that was it! I have very mixed feelings about it. Although she listened to me and ordered the tests she thought relevant, I don't feel as though I have any answers. She did think I could be pg, enough to look into blood test (which she admitted, she rarely does), but couldn't take it any further. Eurgh!
Sorry for the essay. DH doesn't really know what to say about any of it & I haven't confided anything about ttc to anyone in rl. I could cry with it all going round in my head.
thanks to you all.

LauraSmurf Thu 07-Feb-13 18:40:42

Well you were all right and I was making it worse in my head. The obs was good, result was a good with outstanding OMS. I am pleased and feel so happy. I know I'm a good teacher and they agreed!

My spotting continues to be very very mild and brownish. Not sure what it means. But I plan to wait til Saturday to test. If my nerves can hold out!!

I haven't caught up with all your news but I will read soon and send some personal thoughts.

Thanks again for all the support and kind thoughts.

delilahbelle Thu 07-Feb-13 19:07:01

Well done you Laura that's an excellent result for your obs :-)

The spotting sounds very promising too, pleeeeease POAS before Saturday - I think you need to go out and buy one tonight!

ilovemycats It's so frustrating when you don't have any answers. Is there anyway of getting a private beta-HCG test? I know I just tell my GP I'm willing to pay (for multiple blood tests, drugs...) and most of the time he doesn't make me...

My beta-HCG came back as 212, and I'm feeling slightly sick. Hopefully good signs although I'm still scared about what the next test on Monday will show.

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