Advice and reassurance?

[Fiona1986]

Hi, I've never posted on anything like this before, so hopefully I'm doing this right and in the appropriate place.

Myself and my husband have been trying to conceive baby number 2 for just over 2.6 years. We had trouble conceiving our 1st baby which took us down the road of fertility investigations. All results came back ok for me, I have mild endimitriosis but other than that everything is working fine.

My husband how ever has a lower than average sperm count, most likely due to the mumps he had when he was 18.

We began trying to conceive when Olivia was about 6 months old, knowing that we would most likely have trouble again.

How ever after so long charting and tracking ovulation, reading a lot of books, eating healthily, living healthily and trying so hard to do all the 'right things' and failing miserably. The 'not pregnant' result is becoming soul destroying.

I know that there are people that can not have children and may think me selfish for complaining about not being able to have a second baby, and perhaps be great-full for the beautiful little girl I already have. (Which I am absolutely 100% great full for every single day!) however the desire to have a sibling for her is overwhelming.

I've briefly spoken to a GP about our ongoing struggle, who has suggested my husband be retested to make another 'count' and go from there.

In the meantime I'm getting more and more disheartened and struggling to stay optimistic.

I suppose I'm just looking for reassurance more than anything else and perhaps some advice from anyone who has been or is in the same predicament.

Thanks for taking the time to read my post,

Fiona

[Happilymarried155]

I'm really sorry you feel so sad at the moment. We have been ttc out first child for two years also and I understand how heartbreaking it is every month. I don't think there is anything anyone can say to make you feel better I just wanted you to know your not alone and I really hope you get your much longed for baby soon :)

[Fiona1986]

Thank you :0) I hope that you get your positive result soon!

[QTPie]

Hi

We took about 12 months and 1 early MC to conceive DS (3 a week on Friday). Have been trying a year to conceive DC2.

We had just started having fertility investigations last time around and DH came up with low sperm count - so knew that it maybe a struggle. So have been having investigations for the past 4 months. These confirmed that DH's sperm count was actually now worse (they did 3 tests to check this time) and they found endometriomas (cysts on the ovaries) and endometriosis (my ovaries were actually stuck to the back of my uterus...) on me. DS may have been a little miracle.

I have now had a hysteroscopy (to check my uterus and tubes) and a laparascopy (to drain the cysts and free up my ovaries and burn out some of the endometriosis) - that was done 5 weeks ago. We start IVF (ICSI) straight after we return from holiday (mid February). It is a bit of a slog, but wor it to us (was desperately hoping to conceive again naturally, but at almost 39, the statistics are not in our favour...).

Not sure if it is helpful, but that is our journey thus far. I love DS very much, but would love another DC to "complete our family". If that makes sense.

Good luck.
QT

[Fiona1986]

Thank you QT, your post has helped.

I've had a laparoscopy to check my tubes and ensure there were no blockages. I also had a hysterscopoy to check my uterus. All of which were ok, this was back in jan 2009 and I fell pregnant in jun 2009.

We're your Dr's helpful in investigations regarding ttc you 2nd? I suppose I'm quite nervous about my dr turning me away to carry on ttc naturally due to the fact I already have a baby.

I am booking my husband in to have a recount done to check his count hasn't dropped further.

Thank you for telling me about your experience it gives me hope that I could potentially get further fertility help in the future. It's not a down right no.

Hope your IVF goes well!

Thanks, Fiona

[QTPie]

Hi

I think it really fairies from area to area: some might give help do 2nd children, others don't. For speed and everything else, we have gone privately.

You need to do the research for your area, but oh are right to speak to your GP and get the ball rolling: get whatever you can on the NHS.

They should, at some point, recheck you too: I am pretty sure that my ovaries weren't stuck to the back of my uterus in 2009. Things can change in a few years.

If it doesn't work for us, then we still have DS, but I want a blooming good go (before I get too long n the tooth...).

You are far from alone: some people do pop out children like rabbits, but many of us don't. We just have to investigate the options and see if we can give nature a helping hand...

Good luck