Sorry for the length, I want to avoid drip feeding!
We've been TTC our last for over 7 failed cycles/months now. With my children and all my miscarriages I always conceived within 1 cycle, occasionally two. Don't get me wrong, I know I was super blessed on that front, it was just the holding onto them that was the problem. Now I can't even get a BFP.
I've been charting to conceive and avoid successfully for 7.5 years, I know when I ovulate. My charts always look great - a clear rise after ovulation, and I've even managed to increase my previously short LP of 8/9 days to 13 days on occasion. I know all the right things to do, been using Preseed, Conceive Plus, B6, Pregnacare Conception, Agnus Castus (on and off - tried it both ways now) Maca powder, EPO, cutting right down on caffeine, giving up painkillers for my bad neck since I heard they mess with ovulation, trying nothing at all, you name it, I've tried it. I've a healthy BMI and I lead an active life. I'm an expert on things to try at this point short of witchcraft and my chart is now as close to textbook as I've ever seen it. But for what? Nada. BFN. BFN. BFN.
All around me people are conceiving "oops" babies and I'm just about ready to commit homicide if I hear another announcement.
Since conceiving my previous child I've had two open abdominal surgeries - a TAC (transabdominal cerclage) at 13 weeks pregnant, plus an elective c-section as a result of the TAC. Added to that I'm now getting close to 37 and before I was 34, and I've had endo lasered off in the past and polycystic ovaries.
I know 7 months doesn't sound like a lot, and it isn't for most people and I'd be the first to be making reassuring noises at others, but when you're doing everything right and past history (over six conceptions) have been instant, and with a medical history like mine, I'd be an idiot to think everything was still hunky dory in there. Something has changed and waiting longer and doing nothing isn't going to result in a BFP, I'm sure of that now.
I went to the doctor a few months ago and was fobbed off and told to wait until June. But that's not good enough. My life is on hold until we have this final baby (the family does not feel complete without him/her), my marriage is suffering and I'm slowly sinking into depression as it's taking over my life (please, no "just relax" as I will kill someone!! I was never relaxed with my others either). I want to feel like I'm doing SOMETHING even if it's just investigations at this stage.
I've booked another appointment for Monday. I know the NICE guidelines say if you're over 35 you only need to wait six months plus I tick several of their high risk categories due to my history, so I'm going to throw that at them this time.
I know I would not qualify for IVF (and with previous children I'd feel bad about using the funds even if it was available) but what do you think they might do? What should I ask for? Obviously some blood tests but I don't think they'll show anything much as I've done home FSH tests that have been fine and my temperatures seem to indicate I'm ovulating.
Are they likely to offer an HSG or laparoscopy, as one of my concerns is that endo has blocked the tubes, or debris from the surgeries has blocked them. Would they offer Clomid or Femara, and if so, would it be a monitored cycle? Will the GP offer nothing at all but refer me to a consultant?
I've been so lucky to have avoided this end of the great baby adventure until now, so I don't have a clue what to expect or what is reasonable to ask for, therefore any guidance and advice very welcome
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MurderOfProse · 08/01/2013 16:38
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