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Assisted Conceptions (and all the bits in-between) Volume 11

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vallinnapod Mon 03-Dec-12 20:30:15

I really hope I haven't missed someone else starting this!

highlove Tue 08-Jan-13 18:45:06

Oooh another lovely baby. Massive congratulations scrummy

gingernutdreams Tue 08-Jan-13 20:40:15

Huge congrats to both Badger and Scrummy, so pleased for you both! Hope you both recover quickly from the C-sections and enjoy being new mummies! smile thanks

Vivienne so sorry to hear about your relationship problems, and that your DP has been struggling. It is good though that you sound so determined to help him and I'm sure you will both get through this. Huge hugs, and feel free to off load on here when you need to.

Thanks Sunny for your comments re the counselling. It is tomorrow and I am quite nervous, but am hoping that if I can open up it may help me put my feelings in order and give me the strength to prepare for the results of my immunes and the next stage of our journey.

I won't Stop Believing

biscuit biscuit

LissySilver Tue 08-Jan-13 20:41:21

Yay Scrummy!!! Mazel tov on your lovely son! Hope you have a quick and easy recovery...

viviennewestwould Tue 08-Jan-13 20:52:13

Sunny, thank you so much for that and much luck with your treatment.

Ginger, thank you, too, for your kind words and I hope tomorrow proves to be healing for you.

Congratulations, Scrummy, how wonderful! thanks

wellerbabe Wed 09-Jan-13 06:43:48

scrummy wonderful news and congratulations gringringrin

MiniH Wed 09-Jan-13 09:06:05

Stupid phone lost my post.

Huge congrats to scrummy and badger - just amazing news.

vivienne we are here if you ever need to vent or for support. We might be an AC thread but we are pretty good listeners.

sunnyg ouch re ivig. On my way to the dungeon now for intralipids. Cheaper I know but still was a bit of a surprise as last immunes were clear.

ginger best of luck with the counsellor. I hope you click with him/her as I've always found that is the biggest hurdle at the start. Let us know how it goes.


gingernutdreams Wed 09-Jan-13 16:34:18

Thanks Mini, Vivienne and Sunny, I have been to the counselling session, and my counsellor (a woman) was really nice. She asked lots of questions and provided her own observations based on what I was saying, so the conversation flowed fairly well and I think she got a good picture of how I was feeling. She encouraged me to open up more to my friends or family as I have been bottling things up and trying to power through, so not really given myself time to deal with our loss. I am also going to book another session with her once we have received our results of the immune tests and have seen the consultant to discuss our options re proceeding with a FET with or without medication. I think it will help to be able to off load once I get back on that rollercoaster that is AC.

Hope all you lovely ladies are ok. brew and biscuit to you all.


highlove Wed 09-Jan-13 20:20:53

Ginger your counselling session sounds positive. I also suffered a mc last year followed by a failed cycle. Wasn't sure what I'd get out if it having seen a counsellor a couple of years who TBH I just found a bit wet and irritating! The lady I'm seeing now is brilliant - don't about you but I found simply someone acknowledging what a thoroughly shitty time I'd had (like you I don't talk about it much) and also helping me articulate some of the emotions I am feeling was really helpful. I think it's really helpful to stick with but, like others have said, if it's not the right counsellor then try another till you get the right dynamic.

vivienne sorry you're having such a rotten time. I hope you are both doing ok.

sunny hope the ARGC assault course is going and you're as relaxed as it's possible to be.

AFM, this week is when our baby would have been due so I'm finding it a bit tough. I was desperate to be pregnant again and probably rushed into IVF as soon as I could as a result. It's crap all this, isn't it.

Hope you are all ok and January's not being too depressing.

viviennewestwould Wed 09-Jan-13 22:07:39

Ginger, sounds like your counselling went well. I think we/others sometimes underestimate quite how gruelling this journey is. I hope you find some peace.

Mini and Highlove, thank you for your concern. Highlove, I'm sorry your due date is imminent. Mine was 8th October and I was dreading not being pregnant again by then. It was a strange day where I found myself not grieving for my dead baby whatsoever - just feeling sorry for myself that I wasn't yet pregnant again. So then I spent the rest of the day feeling guilty that my grief was misplaced. I hope you gain some perspective and hope for the future.

gingernutdreams Thu 10-Jan-13 21:09:09

Thanks Highlove and Vivienne, I think the counselling did help, or at least will start to help as I have more sessions and get used to finally talking about all the things I have bottled up inside since the mc. I think you and Mini are right about needing to get the right counsellor, who you click with, and I think maybe I have. It felt more like a conversation with a friend, so that has to be a positive thing.
I'm sorry you both have also had to deal with a mc, and have both had to deal with what should have been your due date coming around, these milestones are very hard, aren't they. I hope you both achieve your dreams this year, and also find the strength to carry on with this journey. We have had some good success stories on this thread, so once again ladies... Don't Stop Believing

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BadgerFace Fri 11-Jan-13 11:23:43

Congrats Scrummy, what fantastic news, and sneaking into 2012!

Highlove Sorry to heart it's a difficult week for you. Hopefully you might find things less raw once your due date has passed.

Good luck to everyone with cycles going on this week. I will continue to lurk and follow your journeys and i'm so grateful to those of you who shared in mine. I shall be on hand especially for when people need to vent about seeing in jugs etc.

Big love and DSB and remembrance on the days that you feel at the bottom of the roller-coaster of emotions that the next stop can only be on the up... Or I shall pop in and remind you!

Italiangreyhound Sat 12-Jan-13 18:33:40

sunnyg huge hugs my dear. I saw you had IVG, have you also looked into Intralipids (a cheaper version but not a blood product). Thinking of you.

Badger huge hugs and congrats to you.

Italiangreyhound Sat 12-Jan-13 18:36:15

Can't find scrummy's post, what did she say!!!! Nosy icon.

Hugs to Mini and all, prep course going well.

Hoophopes Sat 12-Jan-13 18:48:25

Scrummy ooh another thread baby, congratulations on your gorgeous little boy!!

vallinnapod Sat 12-Jan-13 18:58:21

Lining scan today showed 4.6, which isn't fab. I need to get to 8. They have upped my progynova to 8mg and I have another scan on Tuesday. Anyone got any experience of this? Interestingly my acupuncturist said I should ask about Viagra as it is often used in poor response cases. Again, any thoughts?

I hope the snow doesn't scupper me getting to the clinic confused

MiniH Sat 12-Jan-13 19:40:39

I know a few ladies who took Viagra for lining at Argc. Seemed to work but just be aware that it increases blood flow to your 'lady bits' too ie apparently they get quite engorged and swollen. Worth it if it works though

sunnyg Sun 13-Jan-13 17:30:25

ginger it sounds like the counselling was really worth while. And good to hear you are going to book another session. I think it's great to have someone who's non-judgemental and who will really listen to you.

Highlove sorry it's been a difficult week for you. I hope things are on the up.

vivienne how are things with you and your DP now?

mini may see you in the dungeon sometime. I've only had one IVIG so far but I'm sure Mr T has more up his sleeve!

Vallinpod sorry to hear about your lining. What day of Stims are you on? I'm not on viagra but I like Mini have heard quite a few women at ARGC are on it. I would think it's something to have a look into and ask about at your clinic. I wonder if that combined with your acupucture could potentially make quite a difference.

All good here - day 11 of stims and it's very busy with twice-daily bloods and often a scan or two thrown in for good measure. No news of EC yet but they are starting to reduce meds so I guess getting close. Other than that not much happening, with 1 litre of milk and 3.5 litres of water to get through each day I don't have time for much else apart from toilet stops!!!

Big hugs to all and thanks for your kind look in Italian

Scrummy and badger we hope your bubs are doing well. Keep us posted!


vallinnapod Sun 13-Jan-13 19:11:49

Sunny it's an FET so I am just on Progynova to thicken my lining. Fingers crossed for Tuesday.

MiniH Mon 14-Jan-13 16:58:33

sunny eek, 3.5l water! shock thankfully they only had me on the 2l water plus 1l milk (that is, until last 48 hours when they upped it to 3l I think, but that was to try and flush the system as they were coasting me and levels were still high). I really hope you get to EC soon - it is very frustrating not being able to plan when it is and so often I would wait for the call just wondering if today would be my day, but it will be here soon no doubt. That ARGC free day between trigger and EC is AMAZING!

sunnyg Mon 14-Jan-13 17:25:10

mini I've now been told to edge towards 4L water plus the 1L milk!!! I may never leave the toilet at this point!

Just had news, trigger tonight so EC set for Wednesday. I cannot wait for that 'day off' from ARGC tomorrow! It's going to be so weird not going in, but I'm going to love it! Wish me luck for Wednesday!

Vallinnapod fingers crossed for tomorrow's scan. Let us know how you get on.

Hugs to all oxo

highlove Mon 14-Jan-13 22:17:34

Wow sunny feels like you got there quickly. You probably don't feel that way though! Will keep my fingers crossed for a bumper crop on Wednesday. Hope it goes brilliantly.

Sorry to hear about your lining vanilla - hope tomorrow's scan brings good news.

Vivienne how are you doing now? Hope you and DP are bearing up.

Weller when's your next scan? Hope all going well with you.

Hope all good with everyone else.

viviennewestwould Mon 14-Jan-13 22:45:28

Sunny, the very best of luck for Wednesday, so excited for you! Thanks, too, to you and Highlove for asking after me. We're slowly getting there.

Vallinnapod, good luck for tomorrow.

I started my voluntary work with Manchester's drug addicts and sex workers today. It felt good to be able to empathise rather than just sympathise. It made my problems pale into insignificance..

Pocket1 Tue 15-Jan-13 20:26:29

Sunny fab news. Best of luck tmw... It's your time honey! smile

MiniH Tue 15-Jan-13 20:50:00

sunny that's amazing news. I've got everything crossed for you for tomorrow and will be waiting to hear how it goes. X

gingernutdreams Tue 15-Jan-13 22:14:58

Sunny I have fingers and toes crossed for you for tomorrow. It definitely IS your time!

Vivienne I am very impressed with your news about doing voluntary work, it sounds tough, but very rewarding. It's also good to know you and DP are on the road to recovery.

Vallin how did the scan go today? Hope the lining had thickened up nicely for you.

Shout out to Hoops who if I remember correctly, conceived naturally with the use of baby aspirin (after diagnosis of blood clotting issues) and has inspired me to try taking it whilst trying naturally before we embark on our FET once we get the results of our immunes back. Our consultant had said he would put me on it for the FET so why not try taking it in the interim in case some little miracle happens? Anyway, we'll see...


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