Please talk me out of getting my hopes up too soon!(22 Posts)
So, my period's not even due for another week but I'm somehow managing to convince myself I'm pregnant. I'm feeling VERY fatigued, in the same way as I did early on in both my previous pregnancies, plus coffee is already REVOLTING, as it was with DS. PLUS, PLUS, PLUS! DS (2.10) told me my boobies smell nice this morning. He's only said this to me once before, and that was during my last pregnancy (which I miscarried in spring , and the baby would have been due next week).
I want to test, but I know it's too early. I also know that I'm feeling so sad about the miscarriage this week, that this is all probably just very wishful thinking...
I just have to wait it out, don't I? And half prepare myself for my period to arrive on my due date (31st)?
So sorry for your loss OP..
I'm in the same boat as you, my baby would of been due next week..but sadly miscarried in April
And AF is due that day <kick in teeth>...but like you am hoping for a BFP instead.
Your symptoms sound very promising. Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.
And thinking of you next week...
If in need of <un-mumsnetty> hand holding..I'm here
Oh Wifey, I'm sorry to hear you're in the same situation . It's tough, it really is. Yes please to hand holding!
It's probably too early for symptoms anyway - I'm pretty sure I'm just inventing them (except DS and his weird smelling comment, but there again, he's a pretty weird boy all round ).
How are you feeling? How are you managing to distract yourself? I'm keeping everything crossed for you too.
<reaches out hand>..
I think I'm so focused on the fact it would of been my baby's due date..I'm sort of not wanting it to come around
First month using OV sticks...so hoping they were right & we dtd enough.
ha ha to your DS..how cute
I didn't have any symptoms with my DS til after I knew..& with my last pregnancy..I had them the week after OV..so not sure what to expect!
When are you testing?
Whatever happens, I think we'll both be feeling a bit better once our due dates are behind us.
How old's your DS?
I keep changing my mind about when to test... period due on 31st, so initially I thought I'd test on the 1st if period hadn't arrived by then. But then I thought, actually I don't want to spend the 31st, which would also have been the baby's due date, living in false hope if I'm not pregnant again... so perhaps I should test earlier, but not too early. Arggghhh! I don't know! When are you testing?
My DS is 2.4. I completely agree about testing early. AF due 1-2Nov so I'm hoping to test 30-31st Oct..so you way be able to test 29-30Oct if you get an early/sensitive test. Same as you...don't want to spend due date living in false hope..so want to know either way. How are you doing so far with the waiting?
That sounds like a wise plan. I think I'll go for Monday.
I've actually felt pretty premenstrual today - I think AF may be a few days early, which at least would put me out of my misery. There again, pmt and early pregnancy can feel quite alike, plus I'm feeling extra emotional anyway because of the miscarriage...
I keep just thinking about a parallel universe in which I'm giving birth around now and DS gets to cuddle a little brother or sister . It's silly, I know, but I'm sure you understand.
I'm trying to keep busy but I'm so tired! This afternoon, we skipped our usual trip to the park and just played with the cars and the duplo instead. I swear I was dozing off on the beanbag (DS no longer naps). I'm sure your DS is keeping you busy and half-distracted too. It's a sweet age. Fingers crossed that they will both have little play mates arriving in 9 months or soon after!
I could cry...<ok..actually am>...I keep imagining the same
Knowing my baby would of been here..holding him..loving him
You aren't allow.
I agree..symptoms are very similar aren't they. <how annoying!>
My DS is keeping me very occupied. Great age.
Having very low abdominal pains tonight..
Offering a very unMumsNetty hug to you Wifey. Shh, don't tell anyone or they'll kick me off.
How's today been? Have the cramps gone?
I thought I was OK until DH came home this evening and asked me how I was feeling. I just burst into tears in his arms.
A friend of mine has just announced she's pregnant. I'm so happy for her - she sadly had two miscarriages before so wasn't telling anyone about this one until today - she's 14 weeks . I could tell she felt awkward about it, though. I wish miscarriages were something everyone could speak about a bit easier, since so many of us go through it...
A little better this evening thank you.
Wow...that wonderful about you friend.
Miscarriage is very hush hush which is so sad as so many of us suffer & have to deal with it quietly.
Do you have much RL support?
Hi Wifey, how's your weekend been?
I bought my test for this morning, but stupidly took it it the middle of the day yesterday as I just couldn't hold out any longer. Now I'm more confused than ever! I was pretty sure it was negative, but have managed to convince myself it has the faintest line... I mean, it's really hardly detectable and I didn't show DH as I know he'd have been absolutely unable to see it (worse eyesight than me). I mean, really, it's so faint that it's probably an evaporation line or just a figment of my imagination.
I'm going to try to wait until Thursday before retesting. It's a public holiday here (we live overseas) so DH will be here with me whatever the outcome.
I have a bit of support in RL - my mum especially has been great, but she's in the UK, so it's mostly been over the phone. She also had a miscarriage, and even though she has four of us, still thinks about the one she lost. She said it never leaves you, but you come to accept it. What about you? How's your RL support?
I have my fingers crossed for you. I'm sure next month will be an easier time for us both, regardless of what our tests this month bring.
Hi...I tested Saturday <POAS addict> & got a BFP. 10 tests later..all BFP. Scared, anxious & so early..can't let myself feel the happiness, excitement.
RL support is good..but no one in RL knows..no even parents
Fingers crossed the line will get more visible & darker for you
Wow! That's great news, Wifey! Can I say congratulations? I want to! I know what you mean about wanting to hold back the happiness and excitement, but this is the first step and it's a MASSIVE first step. I have everything crossed for a smooth 1st trimester for you.
How are you feeling health-wise? I feel really nauseous, but that could just be the nerves.
I know already I won't be able to hold out until Thursday before retesting... eek!
x x x
Thank you..I feel achy but did in my last 2 pregnancies. I'm a little off tea & don't fancy food.
Just not wanting to be happy or excited yet.
Can't wait for you to test...fingers crossed!! Wishing you so much luck x
How are you doing, Wifey?
I just got a definite negative. After a few google searches, I'm sure what I got earlier in the week was an evaporation line. I haven't even told DH yet as he's in bed with a headache. So much for the family day...
Still, the due date is behind us now, and was much easier than I thought it would be. I had a really lovely time with DS - the first heavy rain struck (it has been 25 degrees still, but yesterday it turned) so we stayed indoors and got all cosy. We painted leaves, played with his cars, and carved a pumpkin, which he then spent the evening chatting to. If he's the only child I have, he's special enough to fill that role. [happy]
(((((Hug))))) for your approaching due date, and I have everything crossed for you over the next few weeks.
So sorry it was a BFN
Not too early?? Are your cycles regular??
Glad you had a lovely day with your DS yesterday.
Had a few tears today (sure they won't be the last)..as today should of been my due date.
But me & DS have a busy day of books, painting & time together planned.
Thank you...I hope the next few weeks go quickly, uneventful & that you get a BFP. x
My cycles are usually like clockwork - I'm pretty sure AF will arrive today as I keep swinging between and - so not much room for doubt/ hope...
((((( hugs ))))) for today. Let your DS distract you as much as possible, and give him extra cuddles today.
x x x
It's disappointing isn't it. But as they say..it's not over til AF arrives.
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