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TTC first child, anybody else in the same boat? Thread 2

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Bunnygirlie Sat 15-Sep-12 22:34:42

The old thread was getting chocca so lets start again lovely ladies -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, AF due 5th Oct

HazleNutt Thu 20-Sep-12 08:11:32

Quod try with some "pregnancy for men" books - my DH was highly amused as the one he is reading compared what happens to sperm after orgasm to first 15 minutes of Saving Private Ryan. A carnage!

Lol I feel the same, mindset has definitely changed after my last month's chemical pregnancy.

The failure has such an effect on me personally probably partly due to the fact that I am one of those horrible women you read about in Daily Fail, who postponed having children because they wanted to concentrate on their career (nothing to do with the fact that I only met DH 4 years ago hmm).

But I have indeed been concentrating on the career while I was looking for him and am used to generally getting what I want - just have to work hard enough. So it is really frustrating that I have little to no control over what happens with this egg floating around..Kind of "What do you mean I could not have a baby? Everybody else can! Of course I can!!" grin

janey1234 Thu 20-Sep-12 10:44:53

hazle - you're only 33, you have loads of time smile. And horrible as the 'chemical pregnancy' (hate that phrase) was last month, at least it proves that you both have, urm, working parts...

Anyone know how long after you detect the LH surge that you actually ovulate? Got a hilarious text from my bf yesterday saying (this is honestly a quote) "is it worth shagging tonight?". Who says romance is dead wink

cwtching Thu 20-Sep-12 11:40:52

Still no AF... sorry I am lingering a bit long at the top of the list! Should I test again or is there no point? I hate seing the BFN.

Thanks Hazel it looks lovely. I'm always looking for new holiday destinations and really like slightly 'out of the way' places smile. Love the sound of your OH's book - Saving Private Ryan! V. funny.

I'm totally agreed that waiting is so frustrating and annoying and sad. Particularly when you are used to having so much control over other things in your life.

Lol - you're back on the list!:

Cwtching- 32, Cycle 8, AF due 18th September
LilyJosh - 35, Cycle 2, AF due 21st Sept
Rache1S - 34, Cycle 1, AF due 21st September
Quodlibet - 32, cycle 7ish, due 27 Sept.
Mixology - 32, married, first month TTC, AF due 28 September
Ella0 - 32, married, TTC since July (on cycle 3), AF due 1st Oct
Janey - 37, TTC since Aug, AF due 2nd Oct
Zombies - 32, cycle 1 dodgy cycle, AF possibly due Oct 3.
Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, AF due 5th Oct
MaxDaisy - 32, married, TTC since June, AF due 15th Oct
Caboodles - 30, Cycle 1, AF due?
Frantastic1- 34, Cycle?, AF due?
Happylass - 34, Cycle 1, AF due?
HazelNutt - 33, trying for a couple of months, AF due?
Lolcbcb - 38, married, had mc in July. Ttc ever since.
Pipbin - 37, TTC since May 2011, AF due?
Pipersouth - 36, TTC for a few months, AF due?
WhiskeryWoman - 31, Cycle 10, AF due?

janey1234 Thu 20-Sep-12 12:27:58

cwitching - am VERY impressed with your ability to resist POAS! I would definitely have done it seventeen times by now if I were you!

HazleNutt Thu 20-Sep-12 12:37:14

Should probably add my chemical/mc I had in September to the list as well.
AF due - no idea, I'd guess Oct 15?

janey I'll be 34 in 2 weeks. I know, not exactly ancient, but still. When my mum had me, they marked her records as "elderly primigravida". She was 25!

And you should be shagging a few days before OV, as you want to have the sperm present and waiting when you ovulate.

Oh, just googled the spelling of primigravida and you know what a medical dictionary (McGraw-Hill Concise Dictionary of Modern Medicine. © 2002) says?
elderly primigravida
Obstetrics A woman who delivers her first child after age 35; these women are often professionals who delay childbearing to pursue a career

WTAF? In a medical dictionary?

cwtching Thu 20-Sep-12 12:51:32

smile me too normally Janey its just I had a negative on Sunday using FRER - that would be

cwtching Thu 20-Sep-12 12:56:06

oops hit return by accident! I was going to say that was 3 days pre AF due I can't remember exactly but the packet said it was something like 98% accurite 3 days before and have been having lots of AF cramping just no AF yet confused.

Quodlibet Thu 20-Sep-12 13:19:19

Lol at 'is it worth shagging tonight?'! Glad it's not just us who have these unromantic conversations...We have developed a system in our house now where DP is put on Amber Sex Alert which progresses to Red Sex Alert. He then gets informed when Red Sex Alert is over.

Hazle that primigravida thing makes me cross too.

janey1234 Thu 20-Sep-12 14:41:46

Hazle - that's unbelievable. To pursue a career? What on earth?!

elderly primigravida
Obstetrics A woman who delivers her first child after age 35; these women are often professionals who delay childbearing due to previous boyfriends all being totally and utterly useless

HazleNutt Thu 20-Sep-12 14:54:21

grin janey.
I wonder in what way is the reason why we did not have kids in our 20's relevant for a medical dictionary anyway? I doubt the risks are different depending on if the reason was saving for a house/pursuing career/useless boyfriends.

Quodlibet Thu 20-Sep-12 15:11:39

Because, Hazle, it is clearly important to point out that we have brought this on ourselves. It is a self-inflicted medical issue - we should have knuckled down to the childbearing earlier.

janey1234 Thu 20-Sep-12 15:39:59

You are SO right quod. I mean, why are we worrying about careers or saving for houses, or indeed finding a decent man? Surely we should just shut up, get knocked up, and think about fluffy kittens... wink

janey1234 Thu 20-Sep-12 15:47:37

ps slightly depressed about the fact that I actually AM an 'elderly primigravida'

<sobs quietly to self in office about undeniable ancientness>


HazleNutt Thu 20-Sep-12 15:55:59

So what? It's great to be an older not too young mother!

Children of older mothers benefit from improved health and language development. Increasing maternal age was associated with children having fewer hospital admissions and accidents and fewer social and emotional difficulties.

"Basically once the risks around pregnancy and birth of older mothers have been negotiated, older mothers often have greater commitment to parenting, more settled home lives and/or careers, more stable relationships, and more experience generally which all gives them greater confidence" Dr Edward Melhuish, Professor of Human Development at Birkbeck, University of London and one of the authors of the study says.

janey1234 Thu 20-Sep-12 16:23:48

Love that Hazle smile

I think it's just the being referred to as 'elderly' that depresses me - how did your Mum cope with it at 25?!

HazleNutt Thu 20-Sep-12 16:36:07

Well at that time in my original country you were considered an old maid if you were still single at I guess everybody agreed that 25 was, indeed, ancient. At the same time, in another country my MIL had DH when she was 37. Much more reasonable age, I say.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Thu 20-Sep-12 17:44:44

Well I happened to see the entire series of some 16 and Pregnant bloody addictive carcrash telly and watched Teen Mom too and frankly realised how badly I personally would have reacted had I had to have a child too soon I'll react badly if I can never have one too sob

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Thu 20-Sep-12 18:11:20

prodding my boobs till blue in the face no signs! Wasn't expecting any but hate being proved right!

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Thu 20-Sep-12 20:14:26

Bloody hell, here we go again
She. Left. It. Till. Too. Late.
Let that be a cautionary tale to the rest of Wimminkind.

janey1234 Thu 20-Sep-12 21:25:59

Bloody Daily Wail. Worst paper ever.


(have to admit slight bias due to working for a national newspaper myself)

bingeddybongo Thu 20-Sep-12 22:06:38

Hello! I'm very excited to have found the over 30s party smile Please may I join in? I'm 33, been married about two and a half years and we started trying, impromptu, last weekend. And then DH went away for work for a week, haha. So I reckon I'm either going to have conceived on Sunday afternoon or it's going to take 5 years ;)

So: bingeddybongo - 33, Cycle 1, AF due I somewhere around 5th-7th October, depending on when she fancies turning up

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Thu 20-Sep-12 22:11:25

Welcome bing!

janey1234 Thu 20-Sep-12 23:11:47

Hi Bing <waves>

Loving our over-30's gang smile

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Thu 20-Sep-12 23:14:16

Yes we antique elderly primagravidas must stick together gringrin loving this thread too!

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Thu 20-Sep-12 23:14:35

I meant wannabe elderly primagravidas!

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