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Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part ?

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backwardpossom Wed 04-Jul-12 09:47:58

Thought we could do with a new thread since the old one is full.

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wifey6 Wed 04-Jul-12 09:55:19

Can I please join/hide here too? Had a MMC end of April & hoping to start ttc this month. Still feeling very anxious at the prospect of it all. sad Thank you back for this thread.

backwardpossom Wed 04-Jul-12 10:37:46

Sorry to see you here, wifey. Good luck with the ttc - everyone here is lovely and supportive - I'm sure more of them will be along soon!

So, I'm having my first real metalling day today. CD28 here. I reckon AF is due tomorrow, Fertility Friend thinks Saturday. I tested yesterday with an internet cheapie. It was negative. I tested today again with an internet cheapie and there was the faintest of faint faint lines. So. Maybe I imagined it. I just looked at it again and there's definitely a line (although I'm guessing by now that would be an evaporation line?!). So am metalling big style. Shit shit shit shit shit shit shit. Shit.

I need to do a 'proper' test tomorrow, right? <feels sick>

HeeHeeHeeBum Wed 04-Jul-12 10:43:40

Hi backwardpossum I got the faintest of faint lines yesterday morning then I got a stronger one in the evening. Can you do another test later today?
<looks at old thread>
Hi tasmaniandevilchaser and thanks. I remember you, hope you are well smile

wifey6 Wed 04-Jul-12 10:44:36

Thank you...I've found MN of great support the last 10 weeks...& I know I'll need it now as I embark on this scary ttc malarky again. back....let's hope it is good news for you [keeping fingers crossed].

pebspop Wed 04-Jul-12 10:54:32

just marking my spot!

looks like a bfp backward! those internet cheapies are really faint anyway so get a proper test. i was worrying as the cheapies didn't seem to get any darker but thats just the way they are so don't worry about that!

ConfusedMumDotCom Wed 04-Jul-12 11:51:26

Oooh. Shiny new thread grin

lays out Turkish delight and iced tea

Just marking my spot until we are back in the UK.

wilderumpus Wed 04-Jul-12 12:30:41

aw state. I hope you are ok, please don't fret about telling us how you feel we are here for each other xx

backward did you go and get yourself pregnant my dear?! get yourself a FRER pronto, I had the whisper of a line on an IC but a visible one on a frer with a later wee (for my last pg. am not pg now of course!) smile exciting!

welcome wifey6! I had a mmc in april too. Hope you are ok.

has anyone else been really ambivalent about ttc after a mc? I am torn between being desperate to have another baby and then being too scared to try to get pg again... Is tiring me out. I think I just want the baby and not the pregnancy... am I being wierd?! (yep)

good luck for today moomin x

wifey6 Wed 04-Jul-12 12:33:46

wild....that's exactly how I feel sad
I want a healthy baby...but terrified of the pregnancy as I had no indication anything was wrong sad
Feel a hint of excitement at ttc...yet terrified sad

StateofConfusion Wed 04-Jul-12 12:40:08

Ah here you all are <drags in blanket and cushions, snuggles down, offers round coffee cake and lemon squash)

Thank you wilde x

I just feel so stupid for feeling like this, last year my life was in pieces and now I'm on my way to having everything I desperatly want, and it scares me a bit, good lucks been missing in my life for 2yrs x

wilderumpus Wed 04-Jul-12 13:04:05

<plunges face down in coffee cake and mumbles thanks to state>

Aw chicken. I cannot know what it is like to be you but I can say that as regards having a shiny new baby I am petrified and can't really think beyond getting a bfp. After that my imaginings go all hazy and instead of feeling uncomplicatedly broody and imagining walking round my house burping a wee snuffly newborn over my shoulder as i could with my first, easy pregnancy I just sort of fade out. Like, i couldn't be that lucky. Could i? that is too much happiness. x

wilderumpus Wed 04-Jul-12 13:07:22

wifey that is how I feel too. I didn't know though i did feel that my symptoms were off and had an inkling but no, never knew the horror that was in store. I just hope with a new pg I will have an inkling again, but this time that it is ok.

tbh I just don't know how I will cope with another 2ww! I bloody hate it, the days drag and i symptom spot like a crazy person, which isn't helped by the fact that I get every pg symptom going after I ov anyway! hmmf.

but to get a bfp... ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

pebspop Wed 04-Jul-12 13:20:17

i am so glad to have you ladies to talk to - i have been panicking about ttc again as well.

when af came this month i was so excited as it meant my first ttc since last mc. i even did a little jig in the works toilets lol!!

now af has gone i am feeling blind panic about the whole thing. i was even thinking of speaking to my boss today about possibly going off sick again for when i have my next mc WTF?

my dh said he isn't looking forward to the next pg either as he knows how much stress will be involved. even if we are lucky to get a baby at the end of it.

i have had a couple of days of spotting at the end of af - normal for me. but i am worrying that i will have more of the spotting which has become normal for me in the last few months. should i ttc if i am getting spotting during the cycle? or should i ignore it and hope for the best? my consultant said i could ttc but it worrys me.

i think i will just go for it and see what happens. really fucking sccary though...

wish i had had a normal pg first time like a lot of you ladies. i feel sorry for myself as i might never be a mum but most of you already are sad.

wilderumpus Wed 04-Jul-12 13:51:20

aw pebs, you will be a mum! And although I would never change my first happy pg for the world I do feel that my next happy pg will be that much more special in its own way, having had the mc. I am different, the pg will be different and that baby will be my healthy post-mc baby. It will shine with life! And hopefully I will shine too. we will glow with new motherhood smile

Yep I am with you on the excitement during AF at the upcoming shiny new month... and then the fear creeps in as dtd time starts to get closer! what if it works?! what if it doesn't... what if after all my hoping and worry DH doesn't even put out?! erk. Head. Fuck.

Hopefully your spotting will have gone with the removal of that last bit of your mc? maybe you are scared because it is all new terrain, having had that mc residue removed and the tests etc... having a consultant say go for it might be a bit daunting, being in with a chance...

wish, want, wish, want, scared... zonked smile

StateofConfusion Wed 04-Jul-12 13:53:57

That's how I feel wilde I have a few bits for the baby already as I have to organise things, and I am 4mnths now shock but I can't imagine using them, I've had a few wonderful dreams about a baby so I hang on to that as a positive sign, but fear grips me from time to time.

Please excuse my niavity (sp) but the longer I'm pregnant the better right, the less chance of something going wrong? --blocks out the two still births in the family--

Oh pebs I feel like such a brat now when I have 2 healthy dcs, I can't begin to imagine what its like for you <slaps self>

<Offers round more cake>

twolittlemonkeys Wed 04-Jul-12 14:04:02

Hello all, just marking my place. Currently on CD38, did a HPT a couple of days ago which was BFN of course, though for a few moments I was convinced I could see a tiny feint second line (clearly seeing things) as it wasn't there when I checked later. I am mentalling about everything at the moment, not just ttc. We have an appeal date to try to get DS2 into DS1's school and I am finding it impossible to focus on anything right now in between getting my case together, looking at houses (possibility of moving to increase our chances of getting him into the school!) and all the extra general end of term/ year mayhem which has engulfed us. On top of that, a close friend goes into hospital tomorrow for a hysterectomy so I think I will be looking after her youngest quite a bit over the next couple of weeks.

I feel sluggish and lethargic, can't face eating proper meals so am living off snacks and junk at the moment blush which is probably making me feel more sluggish and lethargic.

Anyway, I will test again on Sunday (CD 42) if AF is still absent. Though I might succumb earlier as I am constantly looking for distractions right now.

Moominsarescary Wed 04-Jul-12 14:52:41

Here you are! Everything's fine, little baby with hb measuring 7+5 weeks x

pebspop Wed 04-Jul-12 14:57:58

don't feel like a brat state mc is bad at any time in your life whether you have none, one or twenty children.

i think the chances of mc are really low after 8 weeks (if you have seen a heartbeat) around 1%. so at four months you should be ok.

do you usually have such long cycles two? maybe that faint line was really there!

i think i am going to go for it this cycle. if i carry on spotting i will have to speak to my consultant again to see if there is anything else he can do to try and stop it. if i mc again i may have to re-think my plans.

i probably shouldn't panic about the spotting yet as i always have a couple of days after af. last month it went away and come back around ov. it doesn't fill me with confidence to ttc as i only started spotting when i got pg in feb - never had it before in my life (apart from around af). that pg ended in mc but i was pg with id twins so that could have been a problem on it's own.

i wasn't allowed to have the heparin injections last time as i was spotting but my new consultant said he would have given me them anyway. so at least i can stop my blood clotting problem. its just my spotting and heart shaped womb to worry about now. the womb shouldn't be a problem (as long as i don't google) hopefully the spotting has been sorted by getting rid of that old stuff.

pebspop Wed 04-Jul-12 14:59:07

i should have said - seeing all you girls with children makes me think i will get mine one day. we are just doing things in a different order!

ConfusedMumDotCom Wed 04-Jul-12 15:13:34

Hoorah for moomins great news on the scan.

FWIW I'm totally in denial about this pg. am taking the vitamins, but am blocking it out until I'm past the mmc date. I'm in two minds about getting an early scan. My baby died at 8 weeks, but was only picked up at 10. I've been told I can self refer at 7 weeks for an early scan (UCLH), but I'm not sure if I can face it. Would a 7 week scan help even though my baby died at 8 weeks? Or will it give me a false sense of security? Should I wait until 8 weeks? I also need to book in with the hospital, but don't want to jinks anything. Aargh don't know what to do. Any advice welcome.

goes off to bury head in sand and hopes to wake up miraculously 40 weeks pg

StateofConfusion Wed 04-Jul-12 15:33:28

Pebs, if you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Its just my mum had me at 20, then took 17yrs (so she was 37) to concieve my sister, and then my brother arrived when I was 20! She's had more mc's than I know but now has 3 children and 2 grandchildren!

Congrats moomin smile

confused ill join you, I have cake smile

ConfusedMumDotCom Wed 04-Jul-12 15:40:44

Oooh cake! It might get a bit gritty in the sand, but I'm game!

pebspop Wed 04-Jul-12 15:47:07

State i am 32. started ttc when i was 30 and have had three mcs (11 weeks, 20 weeks and 8 weeks). i don't regret not starting earlier as i really wasn't ready for children in my twenties. i am glad i started when i did though and didn't leave it much later. dh wanted to wait until he was 30 and i would have just been starting now if i had listened to him - it's his 30th next week!

it's a tricky one confused. on my second mc i didn't find out until 20 week scan and baby had died a few weeks before. i would now rather know as soon as possible to avoid that as i didn't like the thought of it. in future pgs i will have scans at least every two weeks (maybe even weekly) until i feel confident with feeling kicks etc if i get that far. that way i won't go more than a week/two weeks without knowing something is wrong.

maybe wait until after 8 weeks then you may get some comfort from seeing the baby further along than you got last time. after my first mc i did relax a bit after 11 weeks the second time.

wilderumpus Wed 04-Jul-12 16:07:27

pebs you are signed up for this cycle because we are cycle buddies! yeah! I can't wait for you to get your bubs pebs, soon, soon smile

congratulations moomin! fabulous x

would you like a brew iin the sand there confused? everyone else can have a nice unsandy one grin

I've been busy metalling on the parenting thread about the fact I have a toddler and he is tricksy atm (surprise anyone? No? Only me then) and I have decided that I am going to scar him forever because I got cross with him this morning. Does the metalling ever end?!

<apologises to all first time mums-to-be on the thread I have now terrified>

NoMoreMarbles Wed 04-Jul-12 16:07:47

Marking my place for latergrin

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