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mid 30s, TTC #1, 2 years so far, fed up. anyone else?

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CaipirinhasAllRound Fri 13-Jan-12 18:51:14

Just wondering how many of us there are in the same boat

notnowImreading Tue 15-Jan-13 13:20:47

Immunes tests and ovarian reserve test today. My God, but the phlebotomist was stabby! Both arms, both sore. Very small stuff in the grand scheme of things but...ouchie!

Bearface Tue 15-Jan-13 17:21:02

Thanks MissBrightside. It's just nice to know there are other people who are going through the same. Sometimes I don't feel jolly enough to be on some of the other threads and feel like I might bring everyone down which I do Sorry that you constantly think of TTC. I'd say I think about it at least 10 times a day. That's quite obsessive isn't it?

Hope the tests go well Notnow and that all goes well for your injections Caiphirinas.

Bearface Tue 15-Jan-13 17:22:01

Sorry - I didn't mean it's nice that people are going through the same - I meant it's nice not to feel so alone IYSWIM.

Soph80 Tue 15-Jan-13 20:47:28

I constantly think of it too. Just can't help myself! Get so lost in thought! Doesn't help when you're constantly reminded by having to do OPKs, taking clomid, letters arriving from the fertility doc, bd'ing, texts from friends asking if I'm preggers yet..

Sonics Tue 15-Jan-13 22:05:16

Welcome bearface. You'll definitely be able to join like minded people here. I think about TTC all the time. Lots more than 10 times a day. Probably more like 10 times an hour at the minute!! And it's doing my head in confused

Booked another docs appointment for 2 weeks time to take things to the next stage (only had initial tests done so far). Also bought that "taking control of your fertility" book which I'm finding interesting.

Steam cleaner sounds very exciting! Look forward to hearing the verdict smile

Dreamy33 Wed 16-Jan-13 22:31:48

I know exactly what you mean about constantly thinking about TTC. DH keeps telling me to relax and think about something different for a change but that's hard with so many reminders and appointments and dates to be aware of!

I also tried the 'Taking Control of your Fertility' book which I think would be a helpful read to anyone starting out but I've got to the stage where we've tried it all and now it's definitely time for some help!

Any news on the steam cleaner missbrightside?

CaipirinhasAllRound Fri 18-Jan-13 08:43:09

Hi everyone
I'm now 2 injections in with my 2nd attempt, and tomorrow I have to start doing 2 a day. This protocol is really quick so I'm having a scan on Wednesday and egg collection could be as soon as next Friday!

DH's nan died in the night, not unexpected, but I've had to say that if poss he needs to try and have a say about dates of the funeral to try to avoid it clashing with egg collection!

Am also fretting way too prematurely about the snow and getting to the clinic as it's 45 mins away in good traffic.

I wasn't going to have anymore acupuncture but have just texted her about having a session before egg transfer as suddenly feeling a bit stressed about it all!

Sorry this is all me me me... Will write more next time

Hope you're all ok. Look after yourselves xxx

Pomatron Fri 18-Jan-13 09:10:09

Hi all hope everyone is ok.
TTC does seem to take over my thoughts, but have to say after trying so long these thoughts been a little less. I'm trying to concentrate on other things I want to do with my life in case it never happens.
caipirinhas hope that you get to clinic ok, I really hope that this cycle is the 'one'.
Still not booked hols as my DHs boss is being an arse over him having 2 weeks leave. Hoping he will get it sorted this weekend, then we can book flights...thinking I will go on my own if he can't make it smile!

CaipirinhasAllRound Fri 18-Jan-13 09:23:23

any idea where you'll go pomatron?
a far away holiday is our plan B!

missbrightside Fri 18-Jan-13 11:40:32

Real quick one as I'm "working from home" and not doing very well at it .....

Caiphirinas Sorry for your bad news. Wow, your cycle has gone really fast ! Don't worry about the snow yet - it always disappears as fast as it arrives ! I'll be keeping those fingers crossed that all goes well for you xx

Not now Hope the arms are less sore !

Pomatron Hope you get to book your holiday this weekend. It's always good to have something to look forward to.

Sonic & Bearface Thanks for your interest in the steam cleaner !!! (I'll bore anyone who will listen about it !!). It's currently enroute from ... errr ... Ireland ! Why oh why do I never learn about buying from random sites on the internet. It should however be here by tomorrow .... !

Had an initial consultation with ARGC this week. Liked them - and are going to go ahead with them - although have spent most nights awake since dwelling on whether or not we are doing the right thing by essentially gambling all our savings on this ... We won't start immediately as are both going to have further tests first. Interestingly despite DP's 'super' SA results their first recommendation was a sperm fragmentation test as this could show damage not seen in the normal SA test. And could be a good explanation as to why our embryos go downhill at day 3 when the sperm takes over from the egg in leading development. So do feel reassured that we are now exploring different routes.

Really must get ebaying some bits this weekend .........

Keep nice and warm everyone !


notnowImreading Sun 20-Jan-13 20:11:59

So? The steam cleaner? Spill! I'm still agog to find out whether it lives up to the hype.

St4rfish Sun 20-Jan-13 22:20:26

Evening ladies,

At the risk of sounding like some kind of online stalker, have been following your thread on and off for some time now. Having reached the two year milestone of "barren-ness" at Christmas (and having finally faced up to the need for tests, fertility referrals etc) I am needing to vent/talk/share with people in the same (shit) boat.....I also want to know about the steam cleaner!! So, can I join your gang? I can offer plenty of sarcasm and bad jokes but also (virtual) tea and sympathy.

Quick intro: 34 yrs old, DH is 36. Past 2yrs - absolutely nada in terms of positive tests (not even a single bloody late period), mostly spent in denial and convincing ourselves it would 'just happen'. Now in the middle of having initial blood tests; first appointment with fertility specialist is booked for March (in the NE so have been referred to Centre for Life in Newcastle). Trying not to give in to the potentially rising panic. Weak spots: Sky+ ing things like 16 and Pregnant and One Born Every Minute to torture myself with and eating too many biscuits.

Anyway, here's hoping we all get snowed in overnight and that Monday is cancelled....

Sonics Sun 20-Jan-13 22:31:56

Welcome starfish. I'm fairly new myself but just wanted to give a big wave and say feel free to vent and moan on here.

We've gone backwards and forwards a bit in the last two years really - doing opk's, not bothering and just shagging, getting initial tests done (no issues), buying a CBFM, giving up on that, getting pregnant, having a MMC. Now got another docs appt next Monday to talk about next steps but also trying everything in my power to make it work naturally (no alcohol, no caffeine + charting). So fingers crossed.

We have had practically no snow in Manchester so no chance of a day off for me tomorrow.

I'm also keen to hear steam cleaner news!! Maybe it's that good it has been a massive distraction from TTC and the forum?!

missbrightside Mon 21-Jan-13 07:25:57

It hasn't been delivered yet .... Due to "adverse weather" .... Bloody rediculous as my little Fiat managed to get around all weekend - am sure a Parcelforce van could have made it .... !!

Welcome Starfish

Can't type anymore as am on a cold delayed train .... !! Roll on Spring.


Bearface Mon 21-Jan-13 11:46:34

Hello Steam Cleaner Fans!

That's annoying missbrightside. Whenever you complain about things like that they always spout 'elf and safety'. Grrrrr.

I'm mid-AF ATM - can't wait for it to do one.

We had snow all day yesterday in the SE, but everything seems to be moving around outside. I am just staying in eating biscuits trying to negotiate a job, but no one is getting back to me. Oh well . . . I'll just have to put the kettle on then.

missbrightside Tue 22-Jan-13 09:19:33

It has been delivered. It's the size of a ... err ... steam cleaner and I have no idea where it is going to be stored. I probably won't get time to use it until the weekend so you will have to wait with baited breath for my inevitable whinging review. I need to watch the instructional DVD first. Forget about IVF - Pah ! This is serious stuff .....

(Caiphirinas Keeping everything crossed for you this week. Let us know how you get on).

Big hello to everyone else.


CaipirinhasAllRound Wed 23-Jan-13 10:17:47

Thanks missbrightside
Just had a scan and have 19 follicles at the mo, 2 are big enough but the rest need a bit longer. Got another scan on Friday
Hope you're ok x

LesleyKnope Wed 23-Jan-13 15:57:46

miss brightside excuse my total ignorance but what's a steam cleaner? Think Oz is a bit behind (or I'm totally living in a bubble!). Do I need one? Do report back. Are they just for carpets & tiles? What about wood floors?
I've been thinking about getting one of those robotic vacuums as I love the idea of it vacuuming whilst I'm out at work! Currently vacuuming is supposed to be my husband's job & then I go round with mop after (we've only got wood floors) but lately I've been doing it all & it's really getting on my tits!
Good luck caprihinhas! 19 follies is amazing! There's got to be plenty of good uns amongst them & seems right that you started this thread so u should be first to depart the shit boat for the smug preggers train (although I hope you'll check in on us occasionally to remind us there is hope!). How are you feeling? Hope you're finding time to look after yourself - sending you brew and a biscuit
We're supposed to start ivf#3 in march but I'm dreading the stress of it all & worried about the money. Also scared to death if it doesn't work, then what? I agreed to a crazy new expensive tv at the weekend mainly I think as I'm looking for excuses to delay ivf!!

LesleyKnope Wed 23-Jan-13 16:04:16

Ps welcome sta4fish! Sorry you're here but you're in good company
Pps good luck for your Dr appt sonics. Well done for booze free, I'm seriously impressed. I've tried most things... But only for a month eg no booze for one month, still not preggers so get pissed (on day one of period whilst cursing the world!!), try charting, still not pregnant so give up, even tried not being vegetarian after 26 years but again nada/zip/nought so now I just try to be healthy & holding out for a miracle!

Bearface Wed 23-Jan-13 18:57:48

Lesley - from what other people say, hitting the jackpot seems to be the most random thing. Some people swear by this or that that they changed in their diet or lifestyle. Others change everything, then go back to eating biscuits/drinking/having sex once a month (arf!) and then it seems to happen. Why oh why it can't be simpler I just don't know! The doctors don't seem to know much either it would seem, unless you have a specific problem they can help with. I don't geddit, but I'm waiting for that lightning bolt moment! It seems to happen to most people (from what they say) just when they've almost given up and they leats expect it. I almost give up every month, but then it doesn't happen - gah! grin

Soph80 Wed 23-Jan-13 19:22:23

Actually I was wondering whether to 'give up' in the hope that it happened. Not sure how you do that though, without feeling massively guilty once you're back 'trying' again!

Pomatron Thu 24-Jan-13 11:10:34

The trouble is how do you just 'give up'... I 'give up' booze, crisps, cakes etc on a regular basis and I last (if I'm lucky) 2 days because it makes me think about that lovely glass of red with tasty snacks even moresmile

I'm currently a bit pissed with the fertility unit and the really annoying secretary, I was told to contact them 3 months after my lap and dye to decide what to do next, needless to say I did over a month ago and am still awaiting response. Mind you I shouldn't be surprised as I had to chase up the follow up letter with the outcome of the lap as they 'forgot' to send it me.

caipirinhas hope all goes well on friday and that this snow hasn't caused you to many probs.

Time for a cuppa smile

Bearface Thu 24-Jan-13 19:28:26

Ha ha - maybe we should all just give up giving up and then it'll work!!! No? smile

Sonics Thu 24-Jan-13 19:55:14

I've got a great idea that none of us will have ever heard before. Why don't we all just relax and then it will happen! winkconfused

Bearface Thu 24-Jan-13 19:59:22

Crikey Sonics - if I had a pound for every time I'd heard that one . . . hmm wink

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