Anyone else out there still going after this kind of length of time? I don't quite fit into any of the other threads at the moment. Fell off various buses, 1st timer thread, clomid thread, ivf thread....wondering if there's anyone else who's still TTC after this long?
Next month will be my 51st!
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CareBear1 · 17/12/2011 16:04
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Birdiegirl ·
19/12/2011 19:34
Don't give up. OH and I were trying for 7 years. Had a couple of failed Clomid cycles and we were on the waiting list for IVF. We'd just saved up enough to go private and had made the initial appointment with the consultant when we got a a natural BFP. Baby due in June 2012 
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So try and stay positive (i know easier said than done) but there is always hope in every case - miracles genuinely do happen.
Good luck for 2012.
SeldomSantasBaby ·
29/12/2011 02:40
Yep... 4years 2months and counting!
I have newly been diagnosed with Lupus, APLS and have had 7 MCs at various stages 6-14weeks
I do have 1 DD who is 5 almost 6 who is wonderful and it took us 10 months of 'wait and see' TTC and a relatively normal pregnancy. It makes no sense...
Am I allowed? 
CareBear1 ·
30/12/2011 00:03
omg SSB that's so heartbreaking, 7 MC's, you've really been through the mill. What are Lupus and APLS? Are they conditions you can be treated for? Do you think you've found what's causing the miscarriages? Of course you're allowed!!
Hi Blondebaby, i totally agree, it really sucks!! I'm still not sure which is worse, to know there's a problem but also a possible solution, or to be told there's nothing preventing it. Good luck with the clomid. I had confirmed ov' on clomid, but don't think ov is my issue. I found some of the side effects quite tough, are you on a clomid thread too? Might be useful as you go through it.
Grakster I'm not sure what to do next. I should do more IVF rounds I think, but something is really holding me back, I'm not sure what. Fear probably - because once i've done all the possible rounds of ivf then there won't be anything left to hold onto in terms of the 'well there's always ..... which might work'.
Stinky, does that mean you're starting to think it won't happen and move on, or just not thinking about it too much at the moment?
Fairy, hope you're recovering well from the lap.
there's another thread on here where ladies are investigating NK cells and immunology, have any of you looked into that at all? The consultant I spoke to about the failed ivf round poo pooed the idea of this for us at this stage.
I'm definately in a funny place - can happily look at other people's baby pics now, which used to be like a knife in the stomach, but seeing my brother's family calendar at xmas sent me into lots of xmas tears.
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SeldomSantasBaby ·
30/12/2011 00:26
carebear thanks it has been a hard slog and i have all but given up hope now but hey ho... Lupus is a blood and joints disorder that causes pain and swelling similar to arthritis and causes MCs etc. APLS is AntiPhosphoLipid Syndrome which is an abnormal blood clotting disorder which causes first trimester losses without treatment and can cause problems and losses later in pregnancy. the combination of these means i have roughly a 25% chance of carrying to full term without problems if no treatment (asprin daily as standard and heparin daily from 6 weeks until 37 weeks) it also means that as this disorder is a "from birth" kind of thing, my DD was effectively a medical marvel the disorder can have peaks and troughs in the levels so i must have gotten preg with DD in a 'remission' phase. luckily, other than having kidney issues myself and having polyhydramnios (excess amniotic fluid- probably caused by my own kidney issues) i had no other problems and DD is totally healthy- she may need blood tests when she is older to test for lupus as its hereditary but for now she is a happy, worry-free child
have you had all of the usual tests, im assuming so seeing as you have had IVF? do you have any children or are you TTC number 1?
FairyonthetreeG ·
30/12/2011 07:44
Hi Care - yep recovering well, shame I've now got a head cold. [fhmmm]
SSB - you are so lucky to have 1 
- my Aunt has Lupus & she's had 10 miscarriages & no baby. Furthest she ever got was was 5/6 months!!! Even IVF didn't help!!! At least I have someone to lean on, who understands & can fight my corner on how I'm feeling but I'd much rather she'd had had her longed for baby as I understand how she feels!!!
Good Luck for 2012!!!
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