Has anyone else looked into everything such as:
- how will you pay bills on maternity
- child care options on going back to work.
- house storage? what needs to change prior to baby and started making changes
- discussions around DP and yourselfs opinions on discipline, religion, baby routines/not routines
- looked into what you might need for a baby and checked budget accordingly
- discussed change a baby would make to a relationship and how this would be dealt with etc.
I was having a conversation with my friend who said "im being completely premature" in thinking of all of this.... Surely this is the kind of thing you need to have at least discussed before TTC. I like a plan A,B-Z incase things go wrong. Im aware you can't plan for every eventuality but surely a bit of a discussion about the more important things is needed?
My worst nightmare would be falling pregnant then realising actually I cant afford the mortgage on mat leave, partner wants to smack kids I don't, oh wait we need a full nursery, the house needs sorting out as we have no room for baby stuff, oh and by the way partner has no idea of what a baby means to us time, long lie ins and spontaneous get away and now Im pregnant he decides he doesnt want this!
Im not saying its all I talk about but I did kind of discuss this kind of thing with my partner before we actively decided to TTC. Rather than wait til Im 4 months gone and suddenly be faced with 3 months to sort it all out?!
Am I being hysterical and ridiculous? Bit :( that friend seemed to think so