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What age dis you feel you were ready?

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Beaverfeaver Fri 14-Oct-11 03:02:08

So I am 26 and starting to feel that I am settled and ready to try for a family.

What age did you feel ready and was it similar for your OH's?

Did you feel that there was an age that you would definitely want to have a baby by if possible?

louby86 Fri 14-Oct-11 03:16:33

I'm pregnant with my first and I'm 25. We always said we'd wait until nearer 30 as we're the same age, good jobs, career minded etc but it just felt right to try when we did earlier this year after getting married last year. Suppose I was lucky in that my husband felt the same. Good luck with your family plans smile

AuntieDoris Fri 14-Oct-11 03:27:30

I felt ready at 25. Thought I would have kids by the time I was 30.

Now I am 35 and haven't managed to conceive yet.

I feel a bit like time is running out!

MowlemB Fri 14-Oct-11 03:59:23

I wanted to have my children by the time I was 30.

I felt ready in my mid twenties and had my first child at 28 and my second (last) at 31.

Not quite as planned, but life got in the way, as it does. I'm happy with my lot now, and feel I'm still relatively young (I only look haggard) but was settled enough with house, husband etc to give a secure home life.

HeidiHole Fri 14-Oct-11 04:03:08

I'm 25 and DH 31 we are pregnant with number one now

redrhumba Fri 14-Oct-11 07:54:44

i was 27 when i had ds and i thought it was about right, i'd been settled and married for a couple of years and done most things we wanted to do so it was our natural next step. i always thought i'd have had all my kids by the time i was 30 but now i am 30 i realise how young i still feel and am just thinking about having number 2

LoveInAColdGrave Fri 14-Oct-11 07:56:33

30. Same for DH. Now I am 31 and 18 weeks pregnant I suddenly realise I am in fact very young and unprepared!

LoveInAColdGrave Fri 14-Oct-11 07:57:33

Just to clarify - I am of course delighted to be pregnant.

nearlymumofone Fri 14-Oct-11 08:16:00

Had ds at 33. I was very ready by then. I'd travelled lots, loads of great holidays, had an interesting career, partied hard and it was time. I was way to irresponsible and selfish before that. Now I find it easy to be completely selfless with ds.

BeeBopBunny Fri 14-Oct-11 08:44:24

I was ready at about 24. DH and I are the same age. He wasn't ready until 29. So we waited until then.

farfallarocks Fri 14-Oct-11 09:12:45

Felt ready at 30, now 31, DH 32 and only just ready, been actively TTC for 9 months now and only 2 MCs to show for it so I really wish we had got cracking sooner!

BikeRunSki Fri 14-Oct-11 09:16:44

Stgarted ttc on my 37th birthday.
I'd been ready for a couple of years, but not DH. Well, we'd both been a bit a bit ambivalent and DH got positive.
DS born 8 montsh later.
DC2 due 2 weeks before 41st birthday, ie: any minute now (38+3wks pg).

BikeRunSki Fri 14-Oct-11 09:17:57

Would have had a second much sooner, but DH had to get his head round the idea of my probably getting hyperemisis again (I did) and having a toddler to look after too.

wolfhound Fri 14-Oct-11 09:21:35

Felt ready at 35. Now 40 and have 3 DCs <knows I was v lucky>

razzdazz Fri 14-Oct-11 09:23:00

Well, I felt ready early on. Had been with my dh since I was 15 and was actually pregnant with ds when I got married at 22. Had dd at 24 and am now pregnant again at the age of 33 grin

FurryFox Fri 14-Oct-11 09:35:20

I was with DH from 18 (he was 26), we got married at 22 and started trying for a baby straight away. Got pregnant third month of trying so my dd1 was born a couple of months after I turned 23. Had dd2 when I was 25.

I was 'ready' but I have found some aspects really hard (which obviously a parent of any age may have) which now, with age (am 30 next year) I can see the benefits (if that's the right word) of waiting till older. As each year passes I have more patience, more chilled out with the kids etc. If I was doing it again I think perhaps I would wait till nearer 30 but I wouldn't change my family and two beautiful dd's for the world. I am getting rather broody again now but think we're 'done' at two.

AAAvegetable Fri 14-Oct-11 09:36:07

I felt ready at 27, DH was 34 and also felt ready. We had DC1 just after my 28th birthday and DC2 when I was 30.

Most of the mums in my area, who had their DC1's at the same time as me, were 5 or 6 years older (or very much younger and moving in different circles). I made great friends with the older gang so it wasn't an issue. There are however occasional moments when I think "hey I am 33, my DH and all my local friends are 38/39/40 and they were all free and fun loving until about my age, should I have waited?" Most of the time I conclude "no, I am happy" but sometimes I regret not making more of my irresponsible years.

pommedechocolat Fri 14-Oct-11 10:00:51

I had dd at 29 and will be 31 with dc2 if all goes okay with this pg. I felt ready at about 28, dh is 4 years older and felt ready at the same time. Could be luck or could be more that our relationship and joint lifestyle had naturally reached that point?

I think 28/9 was about right, I had got to a good place in my career to make freelance a good option post dd and had already stopped mad nights out clubbing and spent my time working or pottering. It wasn't such a drastic change for us as someone doing exotic holidays/mad socialising as we were boring already!

Around here most of the mums are about my age with a couple of exceptions who are mid 20's.

AfternoonsandCoffeespoons Fri 14-Oct-11 10:07:05

I think I feel ready now.........DS is 7. grin

MillontheFloss Fri 14-Oct-11 10:14:41

I felt ready at about 26 but wasn't in the right relationship. Then I was single from 27 for three years (and was very pleased to be and enjoyed travelling and working etc so was glad to have waited) and two years into my next relationship felt ready and started trying. That ended in MC so now trying again at 32. It took me until nearly 30 to meet the person I wanted to marry and have kids with but hopefully it won't take too long.

littlewater Fri 14-Oct-11 10:18:43

I'm ready now at 27 but my DP is not at 30.

Lw

feelingratheroverwhelmed Fri 14-Oct-11 10:30:52

I'd decided that 34 was a good age (so DH was 37), but TBH I don't think I was every going to be really ready. By the time we got to that age we'd done loads of travelling, holidays, clubbing etc but would quite happily would have carried on with that lifestyle had I not been very aware of the darn biologocal clock! I had DS just before I turned 35, and am having DC2 just before I turn 37, that'll be it for us.

Although I of course adore my DS and would not be without him, I still have a lot of time where I get very whistful about our life before where we just jacked in our jobs every now and then and buggered off to far flung climes for a few months. I do really miss my old life. But, I wasn;t willing to risk not being able to have children, or having to go through fertility treatment if we left it too late. So for us it was a compromise.

eurochick Fri 14-Oct-11 14:10:23

I was broody around 30-31 but still a bit scared. I never wanted kids before that. My then bf (now husband) wasn't ready. We started trying when I was 34. I'm now almost 36 and no bfp yet. I feel like I have been waiting forever.

TheSecondComing Fri 14-Oct-11 14:17:38

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BabyJanesDummy Fri 14-Oct-11 14:22:44

I was ready at 24, its what prompted us to get married. Started trying immediately but didn't manage to have a baby until I was 31

I feel very nervous for people, one friend in particular, who has said she thinks when she is 35 they will start TTC. If it takes them 6+ years like it took us then they might have a very rough time, being that bit older. (Disclaimer: I'm not judging her, just worry about her missing the boat as it were, only because I love her)

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