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Really struggling with the thought that my fertile years are over

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Zoggsrus Mon 19-Sep-11 22:42:09

I'm nearly 42. One DS, nearly 4, 2 miscarriages.
Just been to the Bridge Clinic for first round of tests, due for follow up appt for the results.
If he says there is no hope what the hell am I going to do?
I am just dreading it.

Zoggsrus Mon 19-Sep-11 22:43:29

Donteven know what I'm asking. I guess does anyone have any experience or advice on hearing bad news?
Do I prepare myself for the worst?

leaky Mon 19-Sep-11 23:10:16

Hi, don't think I can help much but just to say I definitely don't think yr fertile days are over. I have just fallen PG without trying & I'm 42. I feel a bit guilty as I know so many on these threads try for months but I do tend to fall quickly.

Please don't give up hope smile

BagofHolly Tue 20-Sep-11 08:15:49

If Bridge say that you're now into the territory of donor eggs etc get a second opinion from The Lister and ARGC. They treat a higher volume of women overall, including a Hugh proportion of women in your age group. Bridge are a bit conservative and keen to move to donors faster than other places so it's well worth considering other clinics.

BagofHolly Tue 20-Sep-11 08:16:39

Leaky, good for you.

Zoggsrus Tue 20-Sep-11 21:16:10

excellent leaky, that's fab!
It's really strange because I really don't feel old, I don't feel like anything is different regarding my fertility, and I still have enough energy and love for lots of babies! And then I remember I'm nearly 42.

thanks Bagoholly, that's good to know. I really don't know how I feel about donor eggs. I guess I haven't thought that far ahead.

I know that both of us will feel blame, me if it's my eggs, DH if it's his sperm.
I think that will be awful

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