Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 17)

[MarathonMama]

Hello! Just miscarried and ready to start again, come and join us...

[InsomniaQueen]

New thread for metalling......awesome!!!

[MarathonMama]

So, what do you think ladies? Are you liking our new tour bus?

Manda thank you so much for your message. It made me feel loads better. As DH quite rightly stated, I can't do anything until I either bleed or go for a scan so there's no point stressing so much. It's easier said than done though. On the plus side I felt uneasy today after eating breakfast and after lunch so am hoping that it's a symptom, although last time I had MS it was worse when I was hungry, not straight after stuffing my face.

MissG see above, clearly your dream sent some good vibes

Blue, Whatso Drat, drat and drat again. Damn that ugly witch! At least you've got some clarity now though.

IQ hope the prunes are working??? Actually, I don't want to know

Shimmery, Eve, Pie and anyone I've forgotten - HELLO!

[MarathonMama]

BTW, totally agree with you all about Amy W, it's nothing less than a tragedy. Also sparing a thought for the families of those killed in Norway, just so devastating. It made me cry when I read about the children heading towards the gun man because they thought he would provide shelter from the bullets.

[Missgiraffe1]

Whoohoo, (or should that be GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRR - raspy, angry heavy metal growl-like noise) air guitars at the ready!

Nice one Marathon. and yeah to the feeling yucky (we are a strange lot, us TTC and newly pg women )

[MandaHugNKiss]

This tour bus... RAWWWWWWKS! Nice job marathon (as opposed to the big jobs we're wishing for IQ Too much? I went too far there, didn't I?! )

missG Evidence seems to point to several of us being strange even when NOT ttc/newly pregnant.

[whatsoever]

Thanks for setting up Marathon - all aboard, ding ding!

[BlueCrane]

Oooh! New thread....let the metalling continue!!

Right...must get some study done whilst cramps have eased off...oh the joys of AF! Having said that, some of the last posts on the last thread rather put life in perspective and a few stomach cramps are very minor in comparison to what many people are going through at the moment!

Catch up properly later on...

[babysaurus]

Can I mark my place? I have only just MC'd but am trying to look forward rather than back and want to get back onto the TTC Wagon asap. However, DH, freaked out by the drama's of ten days ago (very heavy blood loss, hospital stay etc) doesn't seem so keen. He thinks 'perhaps we think about it in 6 months or so' which is not music to my ears, as I am sure you can imagine.
Personally, I'd rather start sooner instead of later (and 37 soon so not an endless amount of time.)
What are everyone else's circumstances?

[Missgiraffe1]

Hi babysaurus sorry to hear of your MC, but welcome to the thread. Was this your first pg? or first MC? I suspect your DH might feel different in a couple of weeks. Best to talk to him though, let him know how you feel. Not always that easy, I know. A MC sometimes affects your confidence/ability to be open about how you feel. Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

I am 35, had an ERPC on 16th June, and an ectopic in April 2010. Have one DD, just turned 15 and my DH and I are desperate to have a baby (DD is from previous relationship, although my DH is every bit like a Dad to her, probably even more so than her real Dad).
Took 7 weeks 2 days to get an AF after ERPC - very annoying and much metalling (btw, metalling is our new term for mentalling, borne out of a funny typo by Marathon ) - but now in the 2ww, so the metalling is commencing all over again!

Fabulous ladies on this thread btw.

[InsomniaQueen]

Just woken up from a nap ( lying on the sofa in a vest top and my pants) DH came in and said "oh dear"......felt very upset and said "don't you find me attractive" his reply was "of course I do, especially when you scratch your boobs like that"........found that quite entertaining so let him get away with the original comment!!

marathon hope this is the start of your symptoms so you can settle down into being/feeling pg!!

blue and whatso damn that witch!!! Hopefully she will take her leave soon and you can get down to lots of SWI, 2 ww symptom spotting and full on metalling!!

Manda read you post and was laughing so much DH asked what was so funny - I told him - he replied "god not your bowels again"....obviously I have been too open with my problem!!!


babysauraus sorry to have to welcome you but glad that you can join us (iyswim). Well my story is an odd one which even the Dr gave me a strange look when explained. I had an mc at 5 weeks, it was complete with no complications which was confirmed by scan and blood test. We came home (were on holiday at the time) were told to wait a month, for dating purposes, and go again. I said fine no problem, didn't really think much about TTC and we carried on our normal lives, I didn't want to wait either but really didn't think it was possible to get pg straight after an mc. I had assumed I had not ovulated as I didn't get my regular pinch on cd 19.....sat waiting for AF to turn up so I could update my chart and see how the mc had affected things and it didn't arrive. After 3 days late took a test and almost fell off the toilet - got a BFP and now have a dating scan on Wednesday. I fully understand the need to try again straight away and as the Dr has told me repeatedly - medically there isn't any reason to wait except for dating. In terms of convincing the OH I would say take it gently with him - as we discussed on the other thread mc affects men differently but it does affect them and like us they have to come to terms with the loss, deal with the fear which surrounded the mc and then look forward before they can begin thinking about TTC again. Wishing you all the best xxxx

[InsomniaQueen]

Oh yeah forgot to report - as everyone seems to be quite comfortable with it - that my problem seems to be moving......yay to prunes!!!!

And hi to everyone I have missed - there are probably loads of you but my brain post nap is like a big watery sponge!!! Xxx

[PieMistress]

Just marking my place! Will be back soon xx

[MarathonMama]

Wooooohooooo IQ! Congratulations on your movements, I hope they were satisfying

Are you scratching your boobs to make them sore? That doesn't count you know.

Hello baby, welcome and sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage at 13.5 weeks on the 11th of May. We found out at the nuchal scan. I'd had an early scan at 7 weeks and seen a heartbeat so thought all was ok (my symptoms had gone but I thought that was because the pg was progressing). Had an ERPC on Friday 13th May. I had my AF exactly 28 days after the ERPC and have just had a BFP!. Metalling like mad now bashes head in moshing stylee

MissG just went to the old thread by accident and read the post about your Mum. I don't know what to say (I'm rubbish with words) other than to send my condolences. What a terrible time you've had over the last few years. You sound like an strong lady though and I'm in awe of your ability to pick yourself up and get on with it. It sounds like your daughter and DH are very lucky

Manda Big jobs love it! Jobs I've never heard before, jugs yes, jobs is a new one for me. I like it, big jobs rule!

Blue Don't work too hard, it's a sunny Sunday.

Let's hope the others come and join us soon....

[InsomniaQueen]

No not to make them sore - scratching cos their itchy!!!!

I'm glad my bowel problems are putting a on everyone's faces!!!

[babysaurus]

Thank you for the warm welcome everybody! Will respond properly once I have got myself a large glass of wine...

[BlueCrane]

Brain turning to mush trying to study so thought I'd pop on here and say hello have a break but pretend still working hard and a

Welcome babysaurus sorry that you are also having to go through all of this...hopefully you find this thread as suuportive as I have! As others have said you and DH will move at different paces working through what's happenning and if my DH is anything to go by the concept of bleeding from 'down there' utterly freaks them out and if it's heavy as well then even more so and there seems to be a natural assumption that the physical side will take a long time to heal...though more often the emotional side that takes longer for us girlies!

My story...thought everything was pretty hunky dory with my first ever pregnancy until the week before my 12 week scan when I turned into an emotional wreck, no physical signs to say anything was wrong but I just felt really scared that something wasn't right...and sure enough we went to the 12 week scan on 26th May and found out my little one had stopped growing between 5-6 weeks and they could just see an empty sack although all my symptoms had kept going...it was an MMC. Had to wait a week for another scan and wanted to see if MC would start naturally, but no...at second scan the sack had started to collapse so we booked in for an ERPC which I had on 9th June...then crazy WTF cycle taking nearly 4 weeks to get a BFN and 6 weeks for AF which arrived yesterday after a week of cramps! We'll be SWI again asap after AF! We DTD a few times during the WTF cycle but whilst I would've been v happy for a bfp we weren't trying IYSWIM.

IQ glad to see that you are resting and the prunes are taking effect !

Need to find my creative juices again...room layouts and colour schemes here we come!

[babysaurus]

Hi all, am back now and have a nice glass of wine to, erm, help with the typing.

BlueCrane what happened to you re the MMC is almost exactly the same as what happened to us, apart from I had no inkling that anything was amiss. In fact, I naively assumed that all was going to be fine as I still felt very pregnant and presumed that if something had gone wrong I'd have known somehow. How wrong I was! After the shock of the 12 week scan, we had to wait another week for a re scan (bloody long week that was) and then, after a LOT of hassle, had a ERPC booked for the 15th July. (The hassle was as the docs wanted me to have 'medical management' instead as I am a Type 1 diabetic and they said the GA would have been risky - this is bollocks but won't go into the ins and outs now.) However, come Wednesday night I had the most horrific cramping - they came in waves, just like, I imagine, contractions would - followed by VERY heavy bleeding to the extent where 999 was called (am not melodramatic, trust me!) The docs, in both A&E and the gynea ward where I was later admitted, were great and, with various drugs, managed to stem the bleeding without resorting to surgery. Apparently clots can cause further bleeding so they had to, euw, dig them out.

So, that's my story re the MMC and yes, it was my first pregnancy. I am now keen to start again once I am back to normal down there but DH is not keen. We have recently moved and are currently living in a building site and money is obviously tight. We had the BFP a week after moving so then it was panic stations to get the house as ready as possible by Jan (due date was 17th) but obviously now there isn't the same rush. DH has spoken about getting the house sorted and 'living in it' before we even contemplate TTC (the first preg was planned tho) but I don't want to wait. Bizarrely, I spent quite a lot of the pregnancy panicking about whether I had done the right thing but the last few weeks before the scan I started to get really into the idea, properly so, rather than feeling frustrated and stuck which is how I felt a lot of the time in the first few weeks.

insomniaQueen my friend also got pg immediately after a miscarriage too. I have since been Googling and it seems to happen rather a lot. Congrats!

MissGiraffe1 I have spoken to my DH vaguely about how I feel, but it has contrasted so much with what he was saying that I ended up clamming up a bit. I think he is freaked out as I was in a lot of pain and there was a lot of blood etc etc and he says it 'has put him off.' I am also still quite tired and pale which I suppose is making the gruelling physical side harder to ignore. For the moment at least. Am consuming spinach like a demon at the moment though (the iron tablets bunged me up something chronic so am now on one a day instead of 3.)

MarathonMama congrats on your BFP too! I think I remember your name from the miscarriage threads. I know already that my normally laid back demeanor will vanish if I get a BFP. Metalling indeed!

[Missgiraffe1]

Hey Blue, glad you had a break, studying is so much harder when the weather's nice!

Thanks Marathon, that's really kind of you. It's been a tough few years. It's one of those things I just need to try to learn to live with. Easier said than done, but at the same time simply has to be done, as there are people around me relying on me (I am the 'rock' of the family apparently ). I have my down days, more just now than ever, but that's probably because so many anniversaries of awful events around this time, and the anniversary of the day itself, are approaching.

The MC was such a big thing for me, but has been overshadowed to an extent by other things that have been happening. Headf&@k to say the least, but I think this is why I enjoy this thread so much, just being able to chat about my own stuff. I think I might have imploded if I hadn't found this place and you lot! It wouldn't have been pretty!

Anyway, not wanting to hijack the thread, LOL to the Big Job chat Manda and IQ!

Large babysaurus?? I have a feeling you'll fit nicely into this thread!

[babysaurus]

indeed. Am thinking it makes sense to make the most of being able to, guilt free, while I can!

I have not looked back of previous threads MissGiraffe1 so am guessing things, Sorry to hear that things have been shitty, to say the least by the sounds of things. Having a MC too must have been the straw that broke the camels back. [hugs] I can only relate to how I find things, but I have found MN an utter godsend at times (have had very tough times the past two years, on and off.) Sometimes off-loading, esp to people who can relate, works wonders. Or at least stops your friends wishing they could wander off...!

[InsomniaQueen]

missG just got sister to take a IC (not even a faint line).....BFN thank god....I have enough problems without having to get between her and my parents who would "do her in"!!!

Bless her she was bricking it......but it is only a sympathetic pg....very similar but only sympathetic!!!

[babysaurus]

Obviously I'm not sure of the history there, InsomniaQueen, but am hoping that that's one of the very few BFN's on this thread.



Think I might be a bit pissed!

[whatsoever]

Welcome babysaurus and sorry for your loss.

MissG sorry to hear what you have been through. My uncle committed suicide last year, closely followed by his sister ( he was my uncle by marriage so his sister is not my relation), and I have a friend who has tried several times so in a small way I can empathise.

I have no positive spin here, my weekend has been whack. Worked this afternoon, it didn't go well and I ended up so frustrated with the report I was writing I just sobbed. Didn't finish it so still feel terrible now and have another two or three equally crap things to do tomorrow at work. I appear to spend almost every day angry, frustrated or crying at the moment. I hope I snap out of this soon as my DH is plainly bored of it and I am bored of myself.

[babysaurus]

Buggeration whatsoever that sounds pants! Is it possible to escape from the work side of things for a bit to get yourself together or is it stuff that can't wait? Frustration and crying is horrid (unfortunately I know these things). If not, Rescue Remedy? Or, er, a stiff drink?!

(Thanks for the welcome and kind words, by the way.)

[Poppyjen]

HI ladies, sorry its been a while - love the new thread hope everyone is ok this morning!

Welcome babysaurus so sorry to hear of your loss. Hope that we can give you some support and smiles along the way.

Not much to report here, CD21 and no sign of ovulation yet. Lots of EWCM though so hoping it will be soon. I am off on Thurs for about 4 weeks with DS leaving DH at home apart from one weekend when he will join me so if nothing happens in the next few days then we're out until September anyway.

Really not stressing about it this cycle though - DS has been ill and although better now he is having some sleep issues (awake 12am - 2am this morning and then up at 6am....YAWN) so I am thoroughly distracted just by trying to stay awake! This is also playing havoc with my temperature taking, never mind.

On a positive note I am v excited about going to my first festival next week (with my lovely mum, DS is staying with MIL), AND DH and I have just booked a weekend away in the middle of August our first together since DS was born (DS with my mum this time) in swanky hotel....hooray

[InsomniaQueen]

whatso sorry to hear everything is rubbish at the moment.....do you think the saga of the bowels will entertain you - well here goes - "are you sitting comfortably"......

I woke up this morning from another weird and wonderful dream where all at the same time I was a professional wrestler, went to the beach and had all my things swept away into the sea but when started crying over them the sea coughed it all back up again, got into a fight with an OAP who was a body builder (you can imagine this was possibly the strangest part - you would be wrong) but the worst thing was that somehow the national news had gotten a hold of my bowel story and I had cameras outside my house shouting "Have you had any big jobs recently" (thanks Manda) dream ended with my waking up STILL IN THE DREAM and running to the toilet to be sick......then i really woke up and thought "I'm losing it completely here"!!!!! hope this has bought a to everyone's face on a Monday morning.

Additionally, I have done my traditional Monday morning test because I'm obsessed just to make sure and I am up to 3+ weeks so feeling that I can face Monday and the thought of returning to that terrible place called work!!!
Xxxxx