How long did it take for you?

[Comfychair]

Me and hubby have been "trying" for a baby for a year now and unfortunately still no luck. Admittedly we were not particularly focused (!) at the beginning but now we are fully temping and opking and still bfn.
my logical side knows that this doesn't necessarily mean there is something wrong. I've just turned thirty so that will reduce our chances per cycle too.

I guess I just wanted a quick straw poll of mumsnetters to see what the average is for people. So...... How long did it take for you?

[ellodarlin]

DC1 12 months
DC2 1 month
DC3 2 years
DC4 2 years and counting

Don't know why dc2 was so keen.

I was 25 when we started. I'm 35 now and giving up soon.

[TheOriginalFAB]

1st pregnancy - aged 28 - 1st month.
2nd pregnancy - aged 30 - 2nd month.
3rd pregnancy - aged 32 - not sure.
4th pregnancy - aged 32 - 1st month.

[havealittlefaithbaby]

18 months ttc#1 still waiting for that elusive bfp. I was on cerazette not sure if that's had an impact. We're now looking at a ?pcos diagnosis for me and DH.needs to repeat his sperm sample as his swimmers weren't going in straight lines. Could explain a few things!

[PANCHEY]

1st - 1 month, aged 30 ended in mc
2nd - 2 months aged 30 DD aged 5.5
3rd - 8 months aged 34 ended in mc
4th - 5 months aged 35 ended in mc
5th -2 weeks ish post 3rd mc aged 35 DD aged 2

[Comfychair]

Thanks for the replies. Panchey and theoriginalfab there's such a big variation for people isn't there?
Ellodarlin your story gives me hope and the will to keep going - perseverance will hopefully pay off!
Havealittlefaithbaby good luck everything fingers crossed!

[herethereandeverywhere]

age 32 = 15 months for DD (started off quited disorganised then used OPKs for the last 6-ish months). Now 34 and been TTC number 2 using OPKs and the sperm-meets-egg plan for 5 months but no luck yet.

[ShowOfHands]

It's normal for it to take a year to two years in a fertile couple but if you're 30 and it has been a year, then I'd see the GP and just start with the first basic tests if you haven't already.

It took 14 months, then a miscarriage and a couple of chemical pregnancies to get and stay pregnant with dd. I am fertile and healthy (as is dh) and was 25yrs old at the time.

[Bumpsadaisie]

1st - month 1
2nd (due Oct) - month 2

Mind you before TTCing no.1 I came off the Pill about a year before we started TTCing - and it took my body a LONG time to get back to normal. Had I come off just before TTCing I am sure DD would have taken longer.

[Bumpsadaisie]

PS was 34 with DD and 36 this time round.

[mrsravelstein]

ds1 - age 27 - 4 years
ds2 - age 35 - 5 months
dd - age 37 (and breastfeeding) - 1 month

[NinjaChipmunk]

ds took one month
no2 we've been trying for 14 months, all tests so far say we're healthy but nothing yet?
Am 36 though so who knows how that affects things.
If you've been trying for a year I second the opinion to go to the docs just to get your bloods and dp's sperm tested.

[GiraffeAHolic]

Just over 2 years for Dd
24 months for this bump

[FetchTheMaid]

DC1 - 1 month - mid 20s
DC2 - 1 month - late 20s
DC3 - 1 month - early 30s
DC4 - 1 month - early 30s
DC5 - 22 months! - early 40s

[FetchTheMaid]

DC1 - 1 month - mid 20s
DC2 - 1 month - late 20s
DC3 - 1 month - early 30s
DC4 - 1 month - early 30s
DC5 - 22 months! - early 40s

[FetchTheMaid]

Oops - posted twice in case you missed it!! :)

[LostInTransmogrification]

Nearly a year from stopping the pill. It wasn't until a friend suggested trying on the last day of my period that I fell pregnant (worked for her and her sister too), it worked on our first attempt!

[wrighty2010]

Hi, dont be disheartened we are all different, have you tried using ovulation predictors? I used them and also some vitamins, Vitafem, meant to boost fertility (bought both online from a website called Pride Angel)
Anyway

DD aged 26 5 months
DS aged 31 5 months
DS2 aged 36 1 month
DD2 aged 40 3 months

So don't dive up, I was 40 when I had my last baby (no more for me now) so there is hope for you yet you are still only young!!

Good luck xx

[JenniL1977]

42 months, IUI pregnancy (am 31 weeks today.) Was 30 when we started trying, am 34 now.
There's help out there if you need it - go and talk to your GP if you're worried. It's better to get the process started earlier than later.
I can tell you though it took my body nearly two years to get back into any vague semblance of a cycle after stopping the pill (but that's why I needed fertility treatment, as the pill had been masking all sorts of issues - to the point where I needn't have remembered to take the fecking thing for 13 years!!)
Good luck :)

[mandoo]

DS aged 28 4 months
Current pregnancy aged 31 5months.

Some of my friends have been trying for a lot longer, up to 2 years to conceive.

Good luck, hope it happens soon for you :)

[MLWfirsttimemum]

About 15 months with my DD and DS (due in July). I am 39. Frequency seems to play a role, as did not counting too closely (i.e. just doing it every day). Have to admit it didn't make for great sex and it all felt rather utilitarian but it's the results that count! Did get rather worried about getting too old when trying to conceive my DS so had the tests done at my doctors but got the results back (all fine) the same day I found out I was pregnant.

[Comfychair]

Ninjachipmunk and showofhands - We've been thinking about going to see the GP as well but personally I've been really nervous about it as I thought it would make it feel more like there was a "problem".
looking back through my diary it's probably been just over ten and a half months so far so we have decided to just see how it goes for the next cycle and if no luck we'll be making an appointment then.
Thanks for all the replies......... it's so nice to hear from other people who have had different experiences as I find it a private issue and don't talk to many people in real life about it.

Fingers crossed !!!

[havealittlefaithbaby]

I'm 29 btw Dh is 26 (whippersnapper). We will be trying very early in.cycle cos I seem to be ovulating between cd8 and cd13!

[Doitnicelyplease]

DD (now 2.9) - 14 months - age 31
MC1 - 1 month - age 33
MC2 - 1 month = age 33
MC3 - 3 months - age 34

Still trying for DC # 2

[duckdodgers]

DS1 - approx 5 months (age 22)
DS2 - approx 18 months (aged 30)
DS3 - approx 6 months (aged 37)

Now trying again aged 40, for 10 months now and nothing yet.

[Hulababy]

DD - 15m, early mc, the another 14/15m.

Started TTC for #2 when DD was 2y. She's now 9y - so 7y, two OPs, hormone treatement, Clomid - and still nothing. TBF I am not doing anything in particular these days, just not doing anything to prevent it.