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Advice for friends searching for Host surrogate..

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QOD Wed 04-May-11 08:48:23

My friend lost her fallopian tubes due to a ruptured ectopic - they had to take both as a clot went into the other and destroyed it

I have a daughter thru surrogacy myself, a friend carried a baby for me (straight surrogacy) - but my pal is looking for a Host as they have 3 ivf eggs left. She has had 3 or 4 goes at iVF but as she is now 42 they don't think her womb is giving the eggs the best chance.

I used COTS myself just for the advice but they don't really suit her as the waiting is currently so long to be matched.

She can't bring herself to talk about it openly at work and to friends so the whole friend doing it thing seems unlikely.

I know there are a few of us on here who have been both sides of surrogacy - can anyone give me any ideas on other ways of finding someone?

The whole "going to America/India" is not a possibility unless they win the lottery (or I do....) but host surrogacy is their last and only hope.

Life is so unfair isn't it?

(I've even asked my surrogate - but she 43, her job is under threat .... darn it)

thanks in advance

herethereandeverywhere Wed 04-May-11 09:16:49

A colleague of mine had twins gestated by a surrogate. She found her through a US website but the surrogate was in the UK. Apparently because advertising your services is illegal in the UK, UK surrogates post on US sites and although don't advertise (in order to stay within the law) they "meet up" with UK couples searching for surrogates and take things from there.

I have no idea which websites or how to ensure you're not going to meet a crank but I'm sure that it's possible to do your own research on this in order to protect yourself. Perhaps this is something your friends could look into?

QOD Wed 04-May-11 11:19:32

Thank you so much - I am seeing her shortly, and am copying everything I get back.

Lovely to hear success stories and ways round!

thanks

QOD Fri 06-May-11 11:30:26

bump

surrofab Wed 12-Oct-11 10:53:38

Surrogate finder.com - this is not an agency. It is a site run outside of the uk where IPs and surros can advertise.
A little wish
surrogacy uk

I realise it's been a while since this thread was started. How is your friend??
xx

olympics Sat 13-Apr-13 18:19:27

Surrogate finder.com Please be warned. This is an advertising site, some nasty porn sites too. you will be charged extortionate rates just to join. No help or advise.my sister in desperation joined it's left her heart broken. VILE SCAM

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