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Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 3

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Curlylox Tue 29-Mar-11 20:29:30

As you were ladies smile

louisesh Tue 29-Mar-11 20:44:04

Oh bugger Curly i d just posted a message and we x posted!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hope you re ok?
Panashe very sorry XX
Hi Gum u ok?
Jolls you coming to my scan also? The more the merrier!!!
Hippy thats a dam fine helicopter you ve got there!!!!!!!!!!!! A day out at scans!!!!! We re saddos!!!!
Hi Lol X
Hi Tina sorry af got you.
Hi Italian thats lovely to hear some truely inspiring stories from "mature" mums to be.
Hi everyone else.

Diege so hope you re bleeding is as a result of cervical erosion,old loss or period timing loss.I ll be thinking of you and have my fingers crossed so tightly they have turned a funny shade of blue.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Curlylox Tue 29-Mar-11 21:17:42

I'm ok lou I'll be squeezing in with hippy and jolls if you don't mind please grin Getting results on Thursday morning, yikes. Getting a little despondant with the whole ttc but my desire still runs deep for another baby, sigh

lolfactor Tue 29-Mar-11 22:43:15

Hi all - just to cheer us a little, my hairdresser has just told me that her friend is pregnant at 44!!!! She is horrified. She says, 'he had a low sperm count, so they thought they'd not bother with contraception.' I nearly returned my latte. She's three months. I guess she must feel confident to tell people. It's not my good news story, but I'm happy to piggy-back on someone elses. 44! There's hope yet, Curly - and thanks for being the organised one.

Diege I might not be there in the helicopter (*Curly* bagged the last seat wink but I'm thinking of you. And you, Lou. I'm fine now - a bit teary at work, but it's the hormones and the pressure. Who'd be a bloody teacher? You sound really happy and positive. I'm also hoping Brinjal is ok. If you're there, tap twice? Let us know you're ok. Good luck with all the scans everyone.

Panashe I cannot imagine how you must be feeling. What a shock. I'm guessing things are completely upside down for you at the moment. Take care of yourself ((())). Just devastating for you all.

Lia Are you at the curry, bonking, running up hills stage? Or did I miss a page? That would be like me. I'm so ditzy at the moment.

I've just walked the dog to the petrol station to get milk and walked started to walk off without him. Who should be holding him on my return? My dp's ex-wife, all dressed up and on her way to a party. I was in a bloke's ski jacket (size 22) and clumpy Uggs. The humiliation, lol!

hopefulgum Wed 30-Mar-11 02:01:14

Well, it's Wednesday here, it's probably Tuesday night over there, so hoping it isn't too long til Deige has her scan. Deige, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope it is just a bit of old blood, or the cervix, or some simple explanation.

Penashe, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. What a terrible shock for you and your family.

Hippy, it is sounding promising for you.When will you test? You have a will of iron - I would have tested every five minutes. But we all know how sad I am when it comes to testing....blush

Lou, thanks for asking after me. I am fine. It's just that awful time when I'm pre-menstrual that the sadness of the miscarriage and the fact I'm not pregnant again really gets to me. And my DH is just being honest.Which then sets me off, wondering what the hell I'm doing ttc. But once AF has passed everything feels different.

Dh seems more than happy to have sex without contraception, and says things about"nature taking its course". I think I can translate that to, "I've got my fingers crossed that we're too old to conceive again". And I'm just merrily going along my path hoping I'm not too old and we'll have one last baby, and he will be fine once that baby is in his arms - which is what has happened before.

I had acupuncture yesterday and it was lovely. I really do like the lady who does the acupuncture.She's very "healing". We talked about whether I should eat dairy or not when ttc. The traditional Chinese medicine way of looking at it is that you should avoid dairy ( but western medicine says full-fat dairy is good for ttc). I told her since giving up sugar I consume quite a bit. Then she said I can do what I like, but if I'm giving myself a deadline (say, when I turn 45) then isn't it worth trying for a few months? She quoted a book saying, "do you want to be pregnant 80% or 100%?".

So, I've decided to try to lower my dairy intake. I'm not giving it up, just seeing what happens for a couple of months. And I'm going to try nettle infusions for my short, light AF. Apparently nettles are really good for fertility in older women, and according to one website, nettle infusions caused post menopausal women to have periods again. Of course this is only anecdotal...but I'll give it a go.

I've been following Tank's blog. Just thought I'd let you know her pregnancy is going well, but she did have a night in hospital - she had some bleeding which turned out to be a uti. All is well now.I think she is 25 weeks. It sometimes feels a bit surreal when I see how far along she is, because I was two weeks behind her. So I would have been 23 weeks now, had it worked out. I guess most of you know how that feels.

I'm hoping and praying we all get our take home babes...

lia66 Wed 30-Mar-11 08:05:24

haven't read new thread but just wanted to say

panashe am so sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself. What a terrible shock for you all. xxxx

randomimposter Wed 30-Mar-11 08:58:37

swinging by after a rough night with poor old DS (who I had hoped seemed to be on the mend)... just to say diege thinking of you and of course you too lou.

In fact a squeeze to us all at the moment, think we're all battling all sorts of "lowness". Shit, is this what being a grown up is all about... <finally gets it>.


hippychick66 Wed 30-Mar-11 09:20:47

panashe I am so sorry to hear your news. I too lost my dad very suddenly and know that it is absolutely heartbreaking. Thanks for letting us know (we all thought you were off blissfully planning a wedding). I hope you have lots of love and care in RL and we are all here if you need to talk at all. Love to you and your family. X

diege I will be with you (so to speak) at 11.30. All the best, matey.

gum I don't have that much of an iron will - I tested again this morning (2 days later since last test). Got a BFN followed almost immediatley by some pink spotting. So that is that sad. I did have a very good cycle (at least 28 days and pains right in the middle) can't ask for more than that, can I? Well I can, I can ask for a baby but that seems to be evading me at the mo.

Love to all.

BeattieBow Wed 30-Mar-11 10:18:29

Hello all. panashe so sorry about your news.

diege fingers crossed for you

hippy af is on way for me too. It's crap isnt it? I am still in the very negative stage , wondering why it isn't happening for me. Prob not much chance to swi or swoi really. V is lovely though and that is making me feel better.

Diege Wed 30-Mar-11 10:36:59

Panashe I am so sorry to hear your news; that is truly devastating sad
Hippy sorry for the spotting, just when we were starting to feel hopeful sad. That is a pretty good LP though, and bodes well for the next cycle. Hold on in there - there's more of a chance that you'll get pregnant and have a healthy baby than not x
Leaving for scan in about 10 mins (appointment 11.15 not 11.30, so Jolls and Hippy may need to put their foot down). More bleeding this morning, with some back pain. Pretty sure it's the end of the line, and seeing the scan in a way as a bit of an inconvenience as in my head I know where things are and just want to get it over with.
Will report back as soon as I can. Love to all, and thanks again for all your support x

randomimposter Wed 30-Mar-11 10:42:48

<runs for helicoptor Anneka Rice style>
<loves the fact that on this thread I don't have to do the "showing my age" line>
massive squeeze for diege.

sorry to BB and hippster for the impending arrival of RTD xxx

brinjal Wed 30-Mar-11 11:33:45

I'm still here lol thanks for thinking of me. I'm still reading all your posts once a day and was so saddened to hear panashe and diege's news. My fingers are tightly crossed for the scan and my thoughts are with you panache.

I'm sorry that some of you are feeling low. The cyclical nature of the highs and lows, that are so intrinsically linked to our hormone levels, can be one of the most draining aspects of TTC.

I'm feeling very emotional, which isn't like me. I did cry yesterday over your posts. I'm really hoping all is well and we all get our babies in the end.

hippychick66 Wed 30-Mar-11 12:24:21

hang in there brinjal. Also thinking of diege and waiting for news (that totally blows the story that I was actually in the flippin' helecopter doesn't it!).

randomimposter Wed 30-Mar-11 12:53:20

me too hippy, me too.

Diege Wed 30-Mar-11 12:54:35

Well I am totally gobsmacked. Was a total state going into the scanning room, told the sonographer that I knew it was bad news. She said she'd tell me straight away what she could see, and there as bold as anything was a foetus with a strong heartbeat grin. My next question was did it look the right size, and it measured 8 + 2 (I'm 8 weeks today going by my dates). I am really in shock, having totally prepared myself for the worst, and still can't really take it in. I am going back for another scan in 2 weeks, and have been told to calm down and try and relax about the bleeding. They couldn't see where it was coming from, and said it was just one of those things, maybe ongoing implantation (that apparently can happen up to 12 weeks - I didn't know that). So for today a massive sigh of relief!

hippychick66 Wed 30-Mar-11 12:57:53

grin[gringrin I love you diege-bean

lia66 Wed 30-Mar-11 12:58:17

Oh diege so pleased to read this. I know it's hard but try now not to worry too much about the bleeding, could be cervical erosion or anything.

hippychick66 Wed 30-Mar-11 12:58:33

meant to be 3 grins but was so excited I cocked it up. and breath diege......

randomimposter Wed 30-Mar-11 12:59:22

<exhales at last>
excellent EXCELLENT news
back in the 'copter, hippy, we have chores to do...

louisesh Wed 30-Mar-11 13:29:33

Yeh Diege fabulous news XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX Today is a GOOD day wink

Curlylox Wed 30-Mar-11 13:29:57

Fantastic news, phew I've been worrying about you since you told us the news.

Diege Wed 30-Mar-11 13:36:34

Thank you so much everyone! Dh is a bit cross with me jumping the gun, and says I should have been less pessimistic, but I genuinely did feel things were over as the bleeding mirrored that of the mmc quite uncannily. Anyway, must try and keep calm now. Like the nurse said today, even if I carry on bleeding I am back there in 2 weeks anyway, so have a plan. I think I may still wait until after the next scan before 'booking in' with mw though!

randomimposter Wed 30-Mar-11 13:40:38

diege even though I didn't practice it myself previously (but will if I get the chance again), that early reassurance scan and support is statistically proven to have a positive impact on successful pregnancies. So tell your DH to stick that in his pipe... grin x

louisesh Wed 30-Mar-11 13:40:39

BB hope you have a lovely holiday.
Jolls you and Hippy ready for my scan tomorrow????
Brinjal Hi
Curly good luck with your resultsXX
Gum your hubby sounds very much like mine "bury your head in the sand and it ain t happening.At least he's "happy" tp keep having swi at one point me and Ant weren 't having any sex [when we first started ttc 3 yrs ago0 as he couldn't/wouldn't get his head around the whole ttc lark.That caused a LOT of problems and upset.
Oh Lol i wouldn t be a teacher no way!!! Its bad enough with dealing with teenagers and chavs in the form of patients!!!!!
All fine here apart from being totally knackered awake from 2-6 am last night as the next scan looms.Went back to bed for a couple of hours but i ll be having a siesta this pm when my hairdresser has been.Very worried about Ant i e begged him to have some A.L and to consider counselling.On Monday he was involved in a road rage incident,yesterday he "lost" it at the post office.I ve told him its all stress as to why small minor trival crap is winding him up.Reallly need for him to try counsellingconfused.

Curlylox Wed 30-Mar-11 13:54:29

lou what about booking a short break for you and Ant, then he'd have to book annual leave?

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