We were planning to conceive next year, when (hopefully) we'd be in better circs than we are right now.
I wanted to lose weight (currently obese), get a bit of money in the bank and sort out a few health problems. Main health issue is coming off ADs so I can conceive safely (according to GP) and finally getting rid of the persistent UTIs, thrush and BV that I get. I've just been prescribed a new ointment that has got my psoriasis under control for the first time in years and I'll have to stop using that too.
I really feel like I need the next year to deal with these issues.
DP has arthritis and is off work recovering from an op that we were hoping would give him a better quality of life. The op didn't work and he's in constant pain and discomfort. Yesterday his consultant told him that he needs to take medication that could cause birth defects if we conceive while he's taking them. He'll be on the meds long term so although we're only mid 30s', waiting is now not an option. His consultant has suggested that we bring forward our plans to conceive and hopefully I'll be pregnant in the next 3 months so DP can start his treatment.
I have 2 choices - either get pregnant within the next 3 months, or forget about ever having another child.
I can't bear the idea that our family is complete (we have an 8 year old son together), but don't feel that the time is right. I think I could go ahead with this if I could take my ADs but my GP has been so negative about this, even suggesting that it's not fair to bring a baby into the world while I have 'problems'.
Sorry, I know this post is long and garbled. Thanks to anyone that's still reading.
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So it's now or never, but I don't feel ready.
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ReformedCharacter · 14/08/2010 18:31
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