AIBU to not like leggings or pink(62 Posts)
Im pregnant with my first DD and people have started asking what gifts clothes etc me and DH would like for DD. we have told people we dont want any pink outfits or leggings DH hates leggings as do i and we have found unisex bright clothes so much more appealing. Reason we dont like leggings is skimpy tight effect i dont want DD to look grown up or tarty and the nappy bulge squeeze thing they do every baby ive seen wearing them looks like they need a serious nappy changing my friends baby even looked like she needed changing right after she had been changed. AIBU ?? People we have said this too seem to think we are but i dont see the big deal??
Goodness - I imagine that leggings are popular on this thread for a combination of reasons - they are more practical than skirts, more comfortable than jeans (for a little baby), and easier to put on and off than tights.
I'm on second girl and run a toddler group. I hahadn't noticed lots and lots of leggings. It might be just as I dont like babies in them. My older one wears then with tunics but never a short t shirt.
I'll look more closely next time I go.
OP - just to warn you, dresses aren't all that practical once your DD starts crawling, she'll crawl onto the hem of the dress if it's too long and then go splat, face first on the floor. Have seen it and poor dd has done it too!
So you'll have to put her in short dresses so they don't get caught by her knees (and my DD was crawling at 5 months) - short dresses then ride up and their tights are on show, and show rather the same as leggings.
Actually, once they are crawling, leggings are very practical clothing, and when you ahve a small child, your priority should be what is comfy and gives them the best movement options. Big frilly dresses are great for sitting still in, but rubbish if you have one that wants to move. Jeans can be too thick and uncomfy for crawling in. Anything that's tight on their tummies isn't good. Anything with buttons down the back will make changing hard work. Anything that has to be taken off over their head for each change isn't good. Socks will get lost regularly! And when they are cruising, bare feet are best, leggings let you take their socks off and have bare feet, without having to have bare legs too.
But with you on pink, doesn't suit my ginger DD either. Boden and H&M are both good at girly but not pink clothes. (Boden have a sale on baby dresses today, you could have a little look!).
I agree you probably need to express your opinions differentlt...
But as it happens we've mainly avoided pink in the main and I really really don't like leggings. Slightly better under a dress but I think normal length t shirt and leggings looks silly on adults and children! I'm surprised they're so popular on this thread tbh.
Id never tell someone irl I dont like what their cos is wearing or I don't like leggings. Quite a few know pink isn't my "thing".
As for presents.. I just say thankyou! And put them in my favourite outfits when I want to.
We had just vests and baby gros for a long time.
Well, YANBU to dress your baby in what you like. That's generally what most people do. I had similar conversation with friends and colleagues when I was pg with DD as I dislike dresses, tights and anything in soft or 'baby' pinks but most people refused to believe that we actually weren't going to dress our baby girl in pinks and frills and ribbons. When people like something, sometimes they find it hard to imagine that other people don't like it.
However, I'm slightly at a loss as to how leggings look to tight and 'tarty' but babygrows - which are generally the same material - don't? You still see as much of a nappy bulge in a babygrow as you do in leggings...
Leggings are hugely practical on older babies/young toddlers. They're cheap and easy to wash. Most toddler girls jeans at the moment are very tight, skinny jeans and a lot of them don't look very comfortable around the waist. And personally I have seen a lot of crawling and toddling girls in dresses and tights that have to me seem to have been less comfortable than they would be at that stage in leggings or romper suits - where they can have bare feet for grip, or aren't crawling into the dress.
I agree with previous posters that the majority of young girls clothing is designed around leggings - a lot of the dresses are more like tunics and often go with leggings as opposed to tights.
Your baby, your rules, blah blah. But fgs, please stop using the word "tarty" to describe a baby.
YABU for thinking babies could ever look tarty.
Rustykoala - please think very carefully about whether to share your brutal and radical views with other mums, and if you do feel,you have to, please think very carefully about how you express your views.
The amount of mutual support that mums of young babies and small children get from each other and give to each other is huge - they are at the coal face of parenthood with you, and the last thing you want to do is to alienate these people by strident statements about things like nappies and what babies are wearing, when other people might be using the nappies you think are so dreadful, or have put their baby in leggings, and think she looks lovely not tarty.
Frankly, you sound like you are going to 'speak your mind' without worrying about how much offence you are causing, and you are going to lose friends right left and centre, doing that - friends who might keep,you sane during the early years.
I wouldn't have made it through PND three times without the support of my friends.
I also think you need to apologise for saying babies in leggings look tarty - that is a really nasty thing to say.
Baby grows are great at first, but I found having two tops and two pairs of jersey trousers or leggings that mixed and matched best once DDs could sit up.
Nappies leak and milk, dribble and then food gets everywhere.
Being able to swap bottom or top without fighting with poppers is very convenient.
Two packs of coordinating PJs are a brilliant invention.
The leggings we have for my daughter are not see through at all - to be honest, baby gros are much more see through!
If you decide to ban pink, I can almost guarantee your daughter will get to about three and become utterly pink obsessed! Disney princess, pink nail varnish, pink clip clop shoes, fake earrings, pink fluffy tiaras, bags, dresses, the lot.
Please come back in three years and let us know how it's going
have just read all your posts. You might want to consider the fact that babies really don't like being dressed and undressed, and that keeping it as simple as possible will be best for them. Possibly not for you and you baby-as-accessory dreams though , but that's surely not what's important here, is it. Is it?
what a bizarre thought on leggings - DD is 4 and has worn leggings a lot, very practical, lots of nice designs and she doesn't look tarty - because she's a little girl.
I dressed DD in babygros and sleepsuits, at least until she could sit unaided, and I didn't bother with dresses until she could walk, they are pointless on babies, IMO. It's easy to stay away from pink, but it is what people will buy you!
Yes YABU, leggings are a life saver, they go with everything. Over tights, with a skirt , under a dress, long top, the list is endless. Wait till you get to a soft play when they are older. Easy to move around in etc. However mine lived in babygros for ageeeesss!. As for tarty??!? Think most of the population would disagree with you on that one.
As for pink, thats a preference, go for lots of colours. You will get soon bored of outfitswhen you are constantly changing after nappy explosions and sick.
So what is your baby going to wear with her dresses? As tights are a lot tighter and more see through than leggings!
Sounds like you've got lots of sensible views, but it's really worth being fairly laidback until the baby arrives and you discover what type of person she is (and what type of mother you are!). And I'd definitely save the brutal radical views on tarty leggings or disposable nappies until after you've had the baby, partly because if it turns out that washables don't actually work for your life (I loved them, but other friends have found that the washing simply doesn't work with their house or time - or that their crappy old machines made their water use skyrocket enough to offset any landfill savings, or that the drying filled their house with mould), then you'll feel bad, but also because you'll meet plenty of other actually quite nice mothers who don't share these views, and brutally radical views on what they're doing is not a way to help other stressed new mums, or how to make friends (if you want to - that's also your choice!). Be nice to yourself, your baby, and other new mums, and be as forgiving as possible to people who are trying to give you gifts or advice you don't want (even if you mutter under your breath later) is usually a good way to have as nice as possible time in the first few moths.
Haha at reusable nappies being "quite big" but not bunching like yucky disposables. I remember ds2 being like a weeble wobble in his newborn reusable nappies
Next, asda and matalan? Tbh I'm surprised you are permitting your dd to wear anything other than organic merino wool?
Leggings generally don't look tarty, but how the hell can a baby look tarty in anything? That's beyond ridiculous. Children's leggings are generally made of thick t-shirty material and are quite practical. Tights or footed leggings are better when it's chilly, though, as socks and babies generally don't stay together very long. Babygrows are perfect, most of the time, to be honest.
Babies growth is quite unpredictable, so, if you're lucky, some things might actually get worn twice before they're either outgrown, irreversibly shit or puke stained, or both.
You sound like your brutal radical views stretch to a lot more than nappies.
yh i have some pretty brutal radical views about disposables but not even gonna go there that's for another day for another nappy thread.
planning on baby gros unless we are going out to see people or going out for a meal at some point buy i like baby gros plain jogger's and cardigans as a basic everyday layette and i agree with pp about denim on baby's it looks about as comfy as a Brillo pad when DD is crawling and getting covered in muck i didn't know existed ..which happens according to MIL then she will be in some denim dungaree's and basic t shirts. have got one babygro from polarn o pyret too ridiculously expensive even in sales i like next clearance and la redoute atm asda matalan and tesco etc are all good too
Yucky disposables. Tarty babies in gross and tight leggings. Wow. I really hope you manage not to share all your views with other mums or you are going to offend a lot of people.
we are using reusable nappies which are quiet big but don't bunch like yucky disposables. and i am planning on a mix of tights and dresses, unisex outfit's like we got her a grey jersey dungaree set from next the other day and some baby gro's also sticking to H&M for the jogging bottoms and wrap around vests etc we just don't like leggings not on men women or child there just so see through and gross and tight.
If you're not liking leggings, are you planning on babygros or dresses? Babygros are ace, but dresses are a huge faff - spend most of their time bunched around the waist, and then once they get moving they get in the way. Jeans and dungarees are cute when older, but not usually soft enough for a tiny baby, and like pps said, unless your dd has tons of hair everyone will comment on your gorgeous little boy. Didn't worry me with Dd because they were useful handmedowns from DS and we were skint (and modern liberal parents etc etc!), but if she were the first I definitely would have gone for lots of soft unisex leggings. Boys can wear them too, and they're def not tarty
Also, I said I pink for my DD
Turns out her complexion suits certain shades of pink better than any other colour hands down, it would have once pained me to say it, but it suits her, so she wears it, it's nothing to do with gender classification
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