Hi, My nephew has chickenpox and wondering if I should expose my DS to him in the hope of him catching them. I've heard it's best for children to have chicken pox early but this early? Any advice will be appreciated
DS had it when he was ten months old and he had it much more severely than his sister who was five. He screamed all the time, wouldn't be distracted, I couldn't comfort him properly as it hurt him to be held, he didn't sleep properly for days. He struggled to eat because he had them in his mouth, it hurt him to wee and poo and the ones in his nappy area got very sore because they got less air, whereas DD wandered around naked for a few days. He was too young for Calpol, too young to cuddle up and watch a DVD, too young not to scratch (DD was better but DS has quite a few scars). Being housebound with DD was much easier than being housebound with DS. DD sailed through, applied her own creams etc, slept well, recovered quickly and has very few scars. She was happy to float around in a bath of oats etc, he screamed, tried to eat the oat sachet, wanted me to cuddle him, wanted to go abck in the bath, was hungry, tired grumpy feverish and in pain.
That was three years ago and I remember just how horrible it was and how miserable he was.
Although for most it is mild (but unpleasant) for some, even without underlying medical conditions, it can be very serious. How would you feel if you purposly exposed your child to an illness which left them in hospital?
Don't be daft. Why would you want your little baby to catch a serious viral illness? In most people chicken pox passes off without incident but complications are possible. Don't subject yourself to the worry of it. Obviously if older siblings have it then there's nothing to be done.
As has already been said, infection before 1 may not lead to lifelong immunity, at that age he'd be too young for piriton which can really ease the itching, and how would you feel if he was really really ill with it and you'd deliberately exposed him to it?
Hello OP. I don't know is the answer. I couldn't knowingly or avoidably, just in case it became serious. However, ds1 was 3 and full of chicken pox shortly after ds2 was born. I kept them away from each other but at a few weeks old ds2 caught them. They were so mild the doctor said he may get them later in life, but he didn't. he had really bad shingles at 14 though and was very poorly for quite some time. Off school for 6 weeks poor love, they were very painful. Don't do it, its not worth the risk, imo
Herrena that's what happened to us - dd1 was 3 and dd2 5 months. She was fine but I would never have knowingly subjected her to it. By the time dd1 became spotty they had of course been in continuous close contact. We thought dd2 might not catch it but she did and (we assume) gave it to dd1's little friend who gave it to her brother. Out of all of them he was the worst - poor lamb was 5.
Thank you all for your comments. Been told by a few people that I should take him to see his cousin as better to get them early but he is still sooo young and like many of you have said we won't know how serious it will affect him and I would feel so awful if he became really ill. I'm a first time mum and was worried I was being over protective
I wouldn't do it on purpose with a small baby ! It can be a serious illness with complications and with a child under one I'd be more worried than with an older child ... My DS seems to have had it twice . A very mild suspected case ( GP diagnosed ) as a toddler and then a proper one at school age that hopefully gave him immunity .
getting chicken pox under 1 year increases the risk of childhood shingles. Ds had chicken pox at around 6 months and then had shingles at the age of 3 which wasn't nice. 7 months is too young for deliberate exposure.
No because they can't communicate with you. My 11 month old ended up in hospital on antivirals etc etc turned out she also had an ear infection that had been missed by all the various doctors that had seen her. Had she been much older she would have said that her ear/head hurt.
The OP has said she didn't know what to do so she's asked for advice and received it. Personally I've been a mother for 15 years. I've three dcs, one has a congenital heart defect, two have psoriasis, one is a 'spirited' child , one is G&T, all of had chicken pox plus croup, ear infections, d^v bugs, pulled elbow etc etc. In the 15 years I've seen a lot with my dcs and with the dcs of my friends and family. I actually am experienced and knowledgeable - as are many, many posters on this site which is why asking a question is useful.
Yes. It's good to ask and I'm glad she did. I'm her sister, mother of said pox boy and long time poster - forgot password so re registered. I saw red with some of the messages. It was like she suggested sharing her heroin needle with a newborn. "You'd expose your TINY VULNERABLE BABY to THAT? Shock horror etc"