From what I have read it is quite normal for the foreskin to not be able to retract until around 2 years of age. I wouldn't be at all worried about it unless he was older and it was looking very sore and causing him pain. Surely trying to retract it before it's ready might cause pain? Not sure but this advice might be a kind of hangover of the over zealous circumcision of the last 100 years as in seeing the foreskin a problem and needing assistance?
we've never had anyone tell us to mess with his bits! does it look tight? could it be something to do with circumcision being more common where you are and doctors not being happy just to leave their bits alone?
From what I understand, the foreskin is attached to the glans when they're very little. Over time it separates and at some point before the age of five it gets to the point where it can be retracted. Little boys spend a lot of time stretching their foreskin which helps the separation process (and feels pleasant apparently )
I really don't think you should be messing around with his bits at that age.
I had three girls before ds and asked the GP at the 6 week if I should be doing anything with his bits. She said apart from normal washing, don't go pulling or poking at anything as he'll be doing enough of that himself when he's older
Ds, 3, has recently developed the ability of pulling his foreskin back and said the other day 'Look mummy, look at my brown willy!" It's not brown in case you were worried, he's just not 100% with he's colours yet, he's busy, erm, developing new skills. Exactly how do you respond to an excited 3 year old who says that? None of my parenting manuals cover this?
my son had a very tight foreskin and his consultant advised me to gently retract it in the bath. It was so tight that he developed a deposit under the foreskin which caused really smelly problems. In the end the consultant told me i had to do it daily and had to put betnovate cream on to help the release of this so called cheesey deposit.It loosened his foreskin and now he is able to clean properly
When I had my DS, I was complete amazed at the lack of advice in baby/child books on how to look after male bits. You'd think that little boys were all smooth like Barbie's Ken, going by the amount of coverage it gets given.