DD needs to have an op soon - under general anaesthetic. Been in hospital with DS before, but not gone this far, so never been separated from him.
Are you allowed to be with them until they are put under? Are you allowed into the recovery room too?
Knowing from my own experience of it all just being rather scary, especially the waking up bit - I am always quite confused after anaesthetic - I cannot imagine what she will be like if she comes round and I am not there...
Any info on how hospitals tend to handle this would be greatly appreciated. Not that it should make any difference, but in case anyone has direct experience, she will be admitted at the Nuffield Cambridge. She is 3.
My DD had some general anaesthetics when she was one. I was allowed to go into the anaesthetic room with her and to hold her while they put her under (not the nicest experience). They came and got me from the ward when she was in recovery - she was awake but dozing when I got there. And she was fine - too sleepy to care whether I was there or not. The nurse was lovely, stroking her hair and giving her oxygen. It honestly wasn't that bad.
dd had an op in January, she was just over 2. I was allowed into anaesthetics room with her (she slept through the whole thing!) but not into recovery until she had come round, and her airway pronounced 'secure' (there was some concern about her maintaining her airway post-anaesthesia though, this may be unusual).
I wish I'd challenged the latter more, though they were pretty firm about it - I think if I'd promised to be level headed and stay out of the way the minute I was asked to, if needed, they might have let me. She was pretty upset and in pain by the time I got to her, and it really upset me - though they assured me that was just a reaction to the drugs, and to be fair, she didn't remember it later.
Not saying that to scare you though, I think she had unusual amount of post-op pain, and maybe if she'd not been higher risk case they'd have let me in sooner anyway!
Thanks so much for your messages, they are a real help to me - it sounds like the hospitals are generally pretty good about this.. phew. I did ask my consultant (who is lovely) and she just said not to worry about any of that at the moment, we would talk it through a bit closer to the time. Which at the time I took to mean "things are pretty flexible" so don't worry. Was just a bit shell shocked, so didn't push it there and then to get a clearer answer.
Ahh, I will rest a bit easier tonight, had been working myself up a bit on the drive home from the consultation that I has perhaps misunderstood her first time around and instead she meant "it's bloody awful" so NO POINT in worrying!!
I don't visit the Mumsnet message Board all that often, but when I do, as ever, it provides completely sound variety of viewpoints. Cheers to you all.