6yo chronic bedwetter

[modifiedmummy13]

This is my first post, so a bit nervous! I have a 6 year old boy who was completely dry through the day by 3yo, but has never had a dry night. He wears pull ups as he doesn’t wake. As he’s getting bigger his volume of pee is increasing so quite often he’s soaking the pull up, but continuing to sleep on, so needs the bed changed when I check him before I go to bed at 11pm latest. I’ve tried limiting his fluids before bedtime, waking him to go to the toilet more than once through the night, trying him without a nappy in the hopes the wetness will wake him (it doesn’t), and in the morning he’s as wet as ever. It’s now becoming more of a problem as he’s getting really embarrassed about it. He’s constantly asking if he smells of pee, and if I mention going to the doctor he gets really upset. He NEVER gets into trouble about it as I know it’s not his fault. It’s putting him off sleepovers and going to Beaver camp. Any suggestions would be gratefully received.

[elephantoverthehill]

This is just a thought and I have no real expertise in this, but if your DC was to go on Beaver camp, he might regulate himself. I expect you could go too, if you explain this to the leaders and have the necessary checks, but my instinct would be to warn the leaders and be ready to pick him up up if need be, but give DS a go at independence.

[celticmissey]

There can quite often be a medical cause for this which can be treated. It is something that is obviously causing him distress and he is probably embarrassed. To be honest if I were you I would make a doctor's appointment with a male doctor but tell him it is an appointment for you and take him with you. Once you are in the consultation the doctor can explain things to him which he may find reassuring. I know it's a bit crafty - but you need to know if it's a medical issue - and get the appropriate treatment for it before you look at other options. Otherwise his anxiety levels will just increase and become more of a problem the older he gets.

[Emily7708]

It’s not unusual to still wet the bed at 6 - in my area they don’t consider it a problem until they are 8. It’s not something he can control at that age. This is a good website for information.

www.eric.org.uk/how-to-stop-or-manage-bedwetting

[Skyechasemarshalsfanmum]

I have personal experience with this as i wet the bed until i was 15 years old.
Drs trying tablets, no drinks near bedtime (which now ive heard is less likely)
I was a very anxous kid. My scout leaders noticed and told me to go change at one camp the girl beside new but luckily was a good friend. Water then was accident dropped on mine ams her bags so we could rince them out and hang to dry with the cover story we messed about and instructor giving a lecture on keeping gear clean (hed said to me before as i was embarrassed and some from other placed where asking why.

The same friend covered for me when our school went on a residential trip the teachers put us together on purpose. The night before the last night i had an accident and she told people we were trying the finger in the water trick and shed peed. There was no other way to not be noticed when we had to bring the sheets from the bed to the laundrett. Im sure the headteacher knew the truth.

I still even though its been ten years get scared. In others house i must use the bathroom up 10 times before and during the night out of panic. I have alot of anxiety about and if i feel the need to go i cant ignore it. I really struggle to sleep sometimes with it.

I would let the drs see him i am guessing since i was little there would be more things to try if its becoming hard for him.

[modifiedmummy13]

Thank you for the replies, from what I can gather it’s not treated here as a problem until age 7, but I’m going to make an appointment anyway just to test the water. It’s such a shame for him now that it’s starting to cause him embarrassment, but fingers crossed one day soon it will all just click into place!