My DD is 13 and a half. She is reasonably tall - about 5'3" - but shows no signs of puberty. No puffiness around her nipples, no signs of periods, no body hair. She / understandably - is self conscious about it, to the extent that she avoids social situations out of school uniform (no boobs anxiety). I suspect she'll be ambushed over the summer and finish the year with DDs (my experience). But should I be taking it more seriously? The NHS website says that 14 is late. She's a wonderful girl. I hate her feeling bad about this.
I was surprised my daughter started when she did as not only is she very small for her age she is very skinny too. I will be surprised if she makes 5ft, I read that girls only grow a couple of inches once periods start.
I'm 6ft didn't start my periods until about 17, after being put on the pill to "kick-start" things
I was quite the bean pole as a teen, I guess I did feel like maybe things were wrong with me, I had lots of tests to make sure everything was ok, and very upset about my lack of boobs and periods at 14/15/16 but my mum was supportive and a wonderbra helped my self esteem when the time was right, changing rooms were horrible for me, and I'm still quite body conscious.
However my boobs arrived and I'm now a bloody E cup quite glad looking back on it they started later but I do remember it being quite upsetting, but my mum helped a lot by pointing out my positive attributes
A lot of girls seem to be starting much earlier now than when I was around the same age. I didn't start my period till I was 14 (2009), I don't remember when boobs started (not that they really got anywhere. I don't think anyone was too worried.
I do remember once overhearing my mum saying to my dad that she had huge boobs at my age and that she didn't understand what was wrong with me . Thanks mum.
I started at 15, I was tall but very slim. No one ever seemed concerned about it but I didn't really think about it or talk about it to my family. I never really got boobs at all, I'm a B now but was an A or double A until I was about 18/19. I'd wear a padded bra when I was younger, even before puberty started through fear of being 'found out'.
I was a late developer. I didn't get my period until I was nearly 15. I did get hair in my privates at around 13 but no hair under my arms until I was 17.. eek. Never had much of a cleavage either but now I'm a b/c cup. I'm 25 now with two children.
I once read that breasts stop growing four years after periods start. But I'm not sure how reliable that is. Plus weight gain or loss can affect growth.
I would understand why you daughter would get upset over this. But each girl is very different! Is she very slim? Often slimmer girls don't have breasts until later on.
I have two younger sisters (age 11 and 14). The 14 year old is very tiny and has no breasts and hasn't started her periods whereas the 11 year old is quite chunky and has small breasts but no sign of anything else.
Looking back. I used to ghet anxious that all my friends had started puberty when I hadn't. Looking back now I feel that I was lucky! Lol!