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I don't know where to turn.. Advice please!

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snailwhale Tue 01-Nov-16 07:51:46

Hi everyone, I am at the end of my tether and I'm not sure where to turn.
I have a 4 year old D. She will be 5 in Dec. She is very bright with a reading and writing age of a 6 year old and can be very sweet.
Socially tho she is far behind others in her peer group, she does not understand how to behave in public or personal barriers.
She sings all the time, very loudly, usually about poo or willys! She is hyperactive and will roll around on the floor in the street laughing manically. She can not hold a two way conversation just makes statements. She will repeat a sentence over and over in a chant till she gets the reaction positive or negative. She will not follow simple instructions such as putting shoes on for school, she will kick and scream and pretend she can't move her legs or cover her ears and scream. She is always touching herself or trying to touch my breasts or sniffing at my bottom. She is violent towards me if she doesn't get her own way. She puts her face right into other people's. she wets herself daily. She has mood swings from bouncing off the walls to bursting into tears. She refuses to talk to her stepfather when he tries to engage with her. She can't sit still she jiggles about. She is so angry and goes out of her way to upset me. She will not take no for an answer and will keep demanding something for up to an hour.

Some background to our story: her father and I split when she was 6 months old, we had joint custody of her. I met my partner when she was 2 and we moved in together when she was 3. Her father was in her life until last xmas when he just didn't turn up to collect her, we live about a 2 hour drive from him, we have heard from him twice in the last year. I still don't know what happened or if he will ever come back. I had a breakdown at the start of the year and I'm on daily antidepressants.

I have put my D behaviour down to her age or a faze or covering up shyness. We have tried to be consistent with her and disapline. I have tried time and time again to talk to her about personal boundaries, how we conducted ourselves in public, the need to listen etc. But it's getting worse and I dread every day. I love my D with all my heart but i just want it to stop. We are all so unhappy, I cry every day. there is a big wedge been driven between myself and my partner and I am going to lose him. I just don't know where to turn or what to do.

FiveGoMadInDorset Tue 01-Nov-16 08:01:39

You need to go to your GP and say exactly what you have said and get a referral to a paediatrician. My DD has similar (not all of the traits you have described) and has just been diagnosed with ASD. I am guessing she is at school so you can ask the school if they could refer her to an educational psychologist?

snailwhale Tue 01-Nov-16 08:26:30

Thank you for replying, I will talk to her school, it's a good place to start x

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