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lack of periods

(17 Posts)
nick247 Wed 26-Oct-16 20:59:44

When my DD was 13 I mentioned to GP that she had not yet started to menstruate.GP said to return when she was 14 1/2 if she had still not started. Sure enough one week before she was 14 1/2 she had a period. Now nearly a year later she has not another one. GP has now said to wait until she is 16. GP asked her about her period e.g. was it heavy ,did it last long. DD obviously is unsure as she has nothing to compare it to, I know it lasted 5 days or so but do not know how substantial the flow was. She has had pubic hair for some years and quite large breasts for her age, ( my dm, ds and I were always quite flat chested ) She is not slim or underweight. Any advice ladies.

nick247 Tue 15-Nov-16 16:23:41

Thanks for all of you advice NOT!

FabulouslyGlamourousFerret Tue 15-Nov-16 16:32:33

Oh 'eck! Don't be offended, your thread probably just dipped down in the top 50 active threads. How is your daughter now?

Dancergirl Tue 15-Nov-16 21:09:42

I'm not an expert but I think it's a good sign she's had one period and it sounds like she's developing normally. Periods can be VERY erratic for the first year or two with long gaps in between. She will probably have her next one any day now.

Pestilence13610 Tue 15-Nov-16 21:15:03

Does she have the implant?
Might be an idea to let her talk to the doctor alone.

AnyFucker Tue 15-Nov-16 21:16:24


Pestilence13610 Tue 15-Nov-16 21:29:35

No, not nice, poor DM thought they had wonderful communication. Took ages to sort out.
A one to one with the doctor or women's nurse is often a good idea, young people just admit slightly different things when not with their parents. Hopefully you can all work together to make sure she has no major health problems. Your DD may well find it somewhat embarrassing at times.

Fretfulparent Wed 16-Nov-16 16:53:01

Is she pregnant?

CurlyWurlyCatcher Wed 16-Nov-16 17:04:27

I didn't start my periods until late age 13 and then didn't have another for over a year. I didn't get regular periods until I was 16+.
I now have 2 beautiful girls, so although myself and my mum were worried at the time, it has had no effect fertility wise or whatever.
But as others said, I would let your daughter speak to the doctor/nurse alone. It's a good practice to get into if nothing else, ready for when she's older.

ClassmateHB Wed 16-Nov-16 17:04:51

I'm a bit surprised your GP discussed a lack of periods aged 13 - children can be anything from 9 to 16 and be in the "normal" range. Similarly a quick Google will say that one and then not another for a year isn't hugely unusual.

Has your daughter seen the GP alone? Is she on any kind of hormonal contraceptives?

And posts slip quick. No need to reply sarcastically.

Out2pasture Wed 16-Nov-16 17:09:53

I didn't start till 16, neither did my daughter. The thought of being 12-13 and having periods seems odd to me.
Did she really have one period or fake it to settle people down?

ClassmateHB Wed 16-Nov-16 17:16:03

Out2pasture, I remember one or two girls at school faking one aged about 13. Then they started properly aged 15-16?

I started aged 11. Sometimes wish I'd been 15 or 16 looking back - periods when starting out at secondary school sucked.

juneau Wed 16-Nov-16 17:18:10

The thought of being 12-13 and having periods seems odd to me.

No, its quite normal - much more so than 16, I would say. However, there is a big natural range and erratic/very light/heavy periods are common in teens. OP, if you're worried then go back to the GP, but perhaps ask your DD if she'd like to see a female GP (if your GP is male), or if she'd like to go in while you wait outside. Many teens feel awkward discussing periods with their parents. I know I did. I much preferred talking to someone anonymous.

glasshalfemp Wed 16-Nov-16 17:22:35

If it helps I also faked a period at around that age to calm the hysteria (not saying she faked it but just another perspective). No fertility issues. I played a lot of sport and ended up having only two day periods when they did start (until I had children in late 20s - when they then became the 'normal length')....

Evergreen17 Wed 16-Nov-16 17:24:08

I had a period when I was 12 and then nothing for over a year
Nothing to worry about in my opinion

nick247 Wed 23-Nov-16 15:13:55

Thank you all for info. Sorry I got salty before after having no replies. My DD had her 2nd period last week ,a very slight flow now aged 15 3/12. I do actually feel reassured a little now.

moobeana Sat 26-Nov-16 21:29:36

I'm glad you feel more relieved. I was about to pop on and say I was 4 days shy of my 16th birthday before I had any sign of a period. The t started regular as clockwork!

My GP had made me an appointment for bloods for the week after my birthday. Some things just take time!

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