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Children's health

toddler masturbation

20 replies

MrsMozza · 30/09/2016 15:14

I took my then 18 month old to the docs and they confirmed that her odd behaviour (lying on the floor huffing and puffing) as Gratification Disorder (infantile masturbation). It is definitely a relief that it isn't anything serious, however, how does one explain this to grandparents!?? Any ideas? It seems a bit more accepted for a boy but not so much for a girl.

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AyeAmarok · 01/10/2016 07:43

Reported.

IonaMumsnet · 01/10/2016 09:56

Morning folks. Just to clarify, we've no reason to suspect the OP here is anything but genuine. We've zapped a couple of tedious trolls on the thread though. As you were.

Chimchar · 01/10/2016 10:04

I know a little girl who used to do this in nursery....she used to rock herself on the edge of the chair.
She grew out of it by the time she was starting Primary at 4 years old.

No advice though I'm afraid.

NEmum · 01/10/2016 10:10

A great resource about appropriate sexualised behaviours is the "Brook traffic light tool", google it and it'll come straight up.
By looking at the tool you can identify appropriate vs harmful behaviours. Could be good to refer to when you are explaining that it is normal... good luck x

AyeAmarok · 01/10/2016 12:10

Sorry OP, just to clarify I wasn't reporting your post! It was the two posters (who I suspect were the same person) below yours who have been trolling on different threads all night, with similarly repulsive and inappropriate "advice".

lcl · 01/10/2016 12:19

Society is so irritating how it's seen as normal and healthy for boys but not girls !!! My daughter has actual. Made a hole in her pj bottoms and they are a week old.Im sure it's related to this! She is 6. I'm not concerned I'd have thought this is relatively normal. I didn't do it but I'm sure other kids do !

Karla2020 · 10/04/2022 19:32

I have a daughter who is 3 and a half years old, and for some time now I have noticed that she has been rubbing herself against her teddy bear. I was afraid of her doing this in front of other people, but I noticed that she only does it when she has the teddy bear with her, so I try not to take it with me when I go out with her.

inheritancetrack · 10/04/2022 19:38

I had this following the birth of child no 2. Just pick him up and distract him if he does it in company, but dont worry about it in private. I would try to minimise it happening as it can be quite habit forming.

ThirdElephant · 10/04/2022 19:43

Hang on, 'gratification disorder'? In what way is it a disorder?

Must we medicalise every behaviour?

Karla2020 · 10/04/2022 19:43

As I said, I noticed that she only does it when she is with the teddy bear, so I only leave it with her when we are at home, but I have never said anything to her, I have never criticized her or said anything rude to her, I just leave her quiet and do it.

JayAlfredPrufrock · 10/04/2022 19:46

A teacher friend has had children in reception masturbating against chairs.

Soubriquet · 10/04/2022 19:47

My dd did this in the bath when she was about 2.

I ignored it and didn’t pay any attention. She outgrew it pretty quick

Soubriquet · 10/04/2022 19:48

Oh bollocks. Just noticed this was a fucking zombie thread

Allsorts1 · 10/04/2022 19:49

I (female) remember humping the couch a LOT as a young child. I turned out fine! My parents never shamed me and I didn’t do it in public as far as I know!

ThirdElephant · 10/04/2022 19:52

@Soubriquet

Oh bollocks. Just noticed this was a fucking zombie thread

Ah, well caught. Don't worry, it got me too. Why do people go trawling through ancient posts to resurrect them like this?

Ipcressa · 10/04/2022 19:53

@Chimchar

I know a little girl who used to do this in nursery....she used to rock herself on the edge of the chair.
She grew out of it by the time she was starting Primary at 4 years old.

No advice though I'm afraid.

A girl in DS's primary school did this (started at nursery) and was still doing so in year 6. She was exceptionally advanced academically but struggled to make friends.

Karla2020 · 10/04/2022 21:30

Sexuality is very surprising, I once read an article that said that it was seen through ultrasound that a fetus used his hands to manipulate his genitals, soon after calming down, why are some children different from others? How come some have their sexuality more accentuated than others?

Karla2020 · 10/04/2022 21:34

Sometimes people who are arriving have their doubts and questions, and if some think they are more knowledgeable about the issues, why do they waste their time in answering then? They don't add anything. Don't waste your time, move on ....

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